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Week 7: Facilitating Change

“The only constant in life is change” ~ Heraclitus

Today’s class was incredibly valuable- The presenting group facilitated a lovely session and Roslyn also shared some very valuable nuggets about complexity theory which I think will come in very handy in my life.

The bottom line of the session is that change requires action. In order to ensure that the situation is a success, proper planning needs to go into the process. For example, in the case of a relationship where one partner needs to relocate to a different province, the couple needs to communicate, weight their options, decide on a course of action and commit themselves to that decision.

I appreciated the session because the activities really made you reflect on your own life and how you deal with change. It was reflective for me.

Week 7 Facilitating Change

Facilitating change session was a well a packaged presentation. With change management being part of our lives as we experience multiple changes in our careers and personal lives.

The group shared important information on how to facilitate change in our lives, I was happy to learn about the Johari Window which touches on a technique which assists in understanding oneself and other better. It focuses on the four quadrants of self which are Open, Blind , Hidden and Unknown.

1. Open – This is information about the person his attitudes, behavior, emotions, feelings, skills and views will be known by the person as well as by others.

2. Blind – Information about yourselves that others know in a group but you will be unaware of it.

3. Hidden – Information that is known to you but will be kept unknown from others.

4. Unknown – The Information which are unaware to yourselves as well as others. This includes the information, feelings, capabilities, talents.

My personal take home is understanding how the techniques in the Johari window can be utilized to facilitate changes in various areas of our lives by understanding where we are in relation to others and thereby affect the manner in which one communicates. These are tools I will use both in a professional and personal settings of my life.

Week 7: Facilitating Change

  • I have realized that most of the people are afraid of change but doesn’t understand that is unavoidable, I have attended facilitating change and find that the group was plan the topic very well and I believe that all of us young and old need to make sure change is evitable whether we are ready or not ready for it.
  • Through help especially from the group that facilitates change, I learned that whether the good or bad change will come to me as a human being and I should be able to accept. The team on that day was able to control facilitation change and try to accommodate those who did not understand how to change. The team has proved in different phases in our day-to-day lives about how we can facilitate change.
  • I must confess that, I was one of the people who were afraid of change and sometimes very shy to speak my opinion in front of my colleagues but since attending facilitation change I develop the courage to change, thanks to the team for make me realized that I can bring change to my life. Now I took the decision to carry on with my studies for a career change and being a different person after finishing my degree in 4 years to come.

Honouring Difference

This week was so personal and I had such a wonderful time in class today! Why? Because this week is the week that I have to stand up in front of the class and present. For the first time in forever, EVERYTHING went according to plan. We were all dressed up in different cultural attire which was to point out the differences in all of us. Unfortunately time was limited and was a bit of a niggling factor for us but, I have a phenomenal team who worked together like champions and we were able to complete our entire presentation. We had different games, tasks and I believe that our overall presentation went well. I just hope that everyone enjoyed our presentation as much as we enjoyed doing it.

Honouring differences

The group that presented the topic on honouring differences was excellent. They made us aware of the gender stereotypes that exists as well as our own unconscious bias and we lose neutrality because of our unconscious bias. What I have learned is that we should embrace diversity and not be judgemental. We must also respect others people who are different from you. After the course I started paying attention to my unconscious bias towards others. Being a perfectionist I realised that tend to be impatient to people who do not conform to my value system. My sister is the opposite of my character and I have learnt to be patient with her and tolerate her imperfections .  

Facilitating Change

By this time, I am taking notes like a machine, which is good to do and what is not so good to do for our team to present in the upcoming weeks. One thing that stood out what Ross mentioned was that “your visibility and vulnerability has improved more during these classes in the level of your comfortability”. Let’s hope this feeling sticks when it is our turn. This group discussed changes in different areas of development, relationships, career, organization (my group’s topic for the day), social, physical, financial management, technology, and education. The best thing that was mentioned is that change requires action. You can brainstorm and plan all you want, but in order to change, you actually need to do it. And was that SCARF model concept would really like to try that at work. I am sure I have mentioned this before, but I will say it again…change is inevitable…XoXo

Week 7: Honouring Differences

I tried to remember what the group presented i forgot. It is important to always do things on time and not procrastinate. Lessoned learned when watching ” Danger of one story” is that is it important to have both side of the story we must not focus or know the bad side of things also try to know more about both good and bad of the story because when you hear a single story about another person or country, we risk a critical misunderstanding. And must not assume and believe what he see or heard from one sided.

Honouring Differences

What an awesome Topic, thoroughly enjoyed how the team facilitated today.

One thing that really stood out for me about todays lesson is that as people we spend most of our time focusing on how different we are from others and often chose to ponder over that and in most cases it is only negative thinking. We should instead start embracing our differences because through that we will realise how similar our different cultures are in way or another.

This was a great reminder for me that I should apply the same mentality at work with my colleagues. I am natually inquisitive so I have since started sharing my facilitation topics with them in turn asking questions in order to hear their opinions. Then started taking interest in how things are done in my teams own cultures and the topics we unpacked were the following:

Marriage, Birth, Initiation and Death.

All I can say is that this excercise enlightened all of us and brought us closer as a team.

A great lesson was learnt out of this and it is that people appreciate being listened to. Through sharing of knowledge we learn and come closer to one another. Take time to listen to a colleagues story one their background and how things are done, you will be surprised at how similar we all are.


Honouring Differences

Today’s presentation was out of this world, the best by far compare to all other presentations. The objectives were clear the right context aligned the topic, the activities were suitable and interactive. There was good rhythm the audience was captivated good signage amongst the team of facilitator’s great time management and at the end great summary that ties up all the themes that came out from the audience.

I personally enjoyed the session, learned a lot from the Team of the facilitators specially when it comes to time management it was just so amazing to see how one of the team members came in when realising that the time was not on their side and instructed the audience to not repeat what others have said and choose 2 key themes to present.
Over time facilitation has involve and we learning a lot I mean from when I start to date its real continuous learning.

I can now see the bigger picture which I can say learning on the field is the best way of learning.

Honouring Difference

Honouring difference topic was very informative and allowed me to reflect on my understanding and appreciation for diversity. while i was not oblivious to the differences in work spaces and socially, one tended to not really think about the differences that exist in different spaces. for example, one is readily aware of differences in race, gender,sexual orientation, culture and ethnicity.

However, differences exist in how one perceive people. for example, women are emotional,men are abusive and aggressive, gay and lesbian people are promiscuous. On a personal level, to perceive talkative people as opinionated and have abrasive personality. Therefore, this facilitation class allowed me to reflect on my behaviour and learn to be patient with people and never judge.

Facilitating Change

We all know that change is inevitable. We often go through change in many aspects of our lives and grow from it. Change can certainly be positive or negative depending on the root cause of that particular change.

Earlier this year I had no choice but to close my business, it was a major change in my life, which changed most things around me. It was hard to come to terms with it but at a certain point, after several push backs, I became honest and realistic with myself. The change was a ripple effect and I had to be kind enough to myself to know when to change a few things. I didn’t allow the change to deter me hence I find myself writing this blog…

I realised I had to press the reset button and allow myself to have a clean, fresh start and learn from my mistakes. I speak from a safe place today, knowing that I needed professional intervention. I was highly aware of my resistance to change but I couldn’t sit and not initiate anything. I knew what I needed to do, when to do it and how to do it in order to deal with my business failure. I also taught myself to look for good even in a bad or awkward situation. My long-term memory is filled with valuable lessons I learned in and out of business. A few months after my therapy sessions, I am studying, rejuvenated, enthusiastic, undergoing more change and looking over from the balcony. Change is part of life, as it is I am moving houses which means I have to build new memories at the new house and my intention is to ensure that every member of my family is content, embraces the change, continue to grow and learn from any change that occurs.

A colleague once left me with these words, ” Signs are always there, we just choose to ignore them”. Like the story told in the book…” Who moved my cheese” by Spencer Johnson. We have to learn to cope positively with change at any given time and it is well known that the only thing that remains the same its change.

“The quicker you let go of the old cheese, the sooner you will find new cheese” – Spencer Johnson

Honoring Differences

This week’s presentation was beautiful and it represented our diversity. The group had well researched their craft and they also went an extra mile by adding different cultures in their facilitation task. I could relate to them and I enjoyed the games and exercises given to each group

We live in a diverse world, we come from different backgrounds and cultures. It is vital to any individual to be woke and be able to acknowledge each others differences.Through this topic, I was able do distinct MY uniqueness from what my peers perceive of me.

When I look into my inner self, I am certain that it actually forms a valued perspective about me as a person so and will not rob the world of my potential. I believe that if a person is keeping themselves in small room that has limited opportunities to discover who they are, then it does not serve the purpose to blame the world that it is holding them back.

By honouring yourself and others you move closer to who you truly are, your truth knows your greatness.

Honouring Differences

It is so amazing how perception can go viral instead of facts.  Differences do exist, differences in age, race, traditions,, qualifications etc. But what strike my mind is when we were performing a group discussion about our cultures, Marriage, Birth, initiation and death. In our group we had an Indian lady, Zulu, Pedi, Xhosa and Tsonga guy. What I found in common is that we all do more or less same rituals of some sort and I have learned a lot about Indian culture which is similar to most of African cultures. Through this exercise I have learned that through sharing, seeking information and listen than precepting cultures of other people will make us a better nations. #I’mStaying In RSA. 

Honouring Difference

Week 7 31 August 2019

Wow! What a presentation. The group that presented the topic – honouring differences was colourful, displaying all cultures in our country. The introduction was excellent; they had the plan and the objective was well received.

They made us aware of the gender stereotypes that exists as well as our own unconscious prejudices. What I have learned is that we create our own stereotypes and we end up accepting as true. Also, the issue of colour Roslyn mention white people don’t see the colour of the skin, but black people do because of our history made to see colour.

In conclusion, I need to learn from others, respect other cultures and stereotypes are not always true. Start at the grass roots – the next generation. Also fix culture biases or stereotypes.

Learning from life: Defining moments

From my syndicate group’s presentation, which was daunting but great:








Meaningful to some

Insignificant to others

Life as you know it can change at any moment…

Value — Marc Levy

If you want to know the value of a year, ask a student who failed a course

If you want to know the value of one month, ask the mother who have given birth to a premature baby

If you want to know the value of one hour, ask the lovers waiting to meet

If you want to know the value of one minute, ask the person who just missed the bus

If you want to know the value of one second, ask the person who just escaped death in a car accident

If you want to know the value of one-hundredth of a second, ask the athlete who just won silver in the Olympics

Seasons of Love  — Rent

Five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes.

Five hundred twenty five thousand moments so dear.

five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes.

How do you measure,

Measure a year?

In daylights?

In sunsets?

In midnights?

In cups of coffee?

In inches, in miles, in laughter, in strife?

In five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes.

How do you measure a year in a life?

How about love?

How about love?

How about love?

Measure in love…

Seasons of love (love)…

Seasons of love (love)…

Five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes.

Five hundred twenty five thousand journeys to plan.

Five hundred twenty five thousand six hundred minutes.

How do you measure a life of a woman or a man?

In truths that she learned,

or in times that he cried?

In bridges he burned,

or the way that she died?

It’s time now to sing out,

though the story never ends.

Let’s celebrate remember a year in a life

of friends

Remember the love…

(Oh, you’ve got to you’ve got to remember the love)

Remember the love…

(You know the love is a gift from up above)

Remember the love…

(Share love, give love, spray love, measure your life in love.)

Seasons of love…

Seasons of love…


Facilitating Change

For this session the group topic was time management. I have to admit I was initially not really interested as I have in past attended time management courses. However as the facilitation continued I was really interested in the “wheel of life” exercise.
Once I had completed the exercise I realised that to lead a more productive life I would need to work continuously on time management! Sounds crazy!! I think this will help in the future though especially at times when I am feeling overwhelmed.
By planning, drawing up a list and a schedule, setting some boundaries, avoiding distractions/interruptions (e.g. TV!!) I will be in a better position to do accomplish so much more.
During this session we also had to review classmates draft essays, I have to admit I was not too comfortable with the idea of someone else reading my essay. However when I was reading other classmates draft essays I understood that I could learn from what I was reading and that hopefully someone would also learn form my essay or provide me with some pointers.
It is not always easy to receive or provide feedback but feedback is essential especially if you want understand if you have either achieved your objectives or not.

Leading by example

In school, we’re introduced to the concept of leadership and are taught that great leaders lead from the front, keep their peers in line and become the authority over others’ behaviours through nominations for the coveted position of school prefect.

In the working world- in companies with a traditional management approach- directors and supervisors are the equivalent of school prefects, dictating behaviour and enforcing their ideas onto the teams they lead. They keep their teams in line, micro managing their every action with the hope of inspiring greatness. However, this method has quite the opposite effect. Teams feel suffocated and become disengaged, ultimately leaving those managers in pursuit of greener pastures.

Employees don’t leave bad jobs, they leave bad bosses.

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about this and have been grappling with what it means to be a great leader and, although being the boss, avoiding being a boss.

Author of The Future of Leadership: The rise of automation, robotics and artificial intelligence, Bridget Hyacinth, wrote “Employees want managers who are leaders. Managers who will inspire them, who are fair and honest and will stand up for their team. Loyalty cannot be bought, it must be earned. Sometimes it’s the little things that you do, that count the most.”

The fictitious tale of the American woman who moved to a small Chinese village only to find the old people of that village hunched over is one which resonated with me deeply.  As the story goes, the American woman asks one of the ladies she has befriended in the village why the old people are hunched over, and the local responded that it’s just what happens when people get old in that village – they double over. Refusing to accept this rationale, the American woman observed the old people closely, and discovered that the source of their poor posture was the short -handled broom they used to sweep the roads every day. She suggested they use long-handled broom, which the locals scoffed at, until she sourced the right materials to create the broomstick and using it in the company of the local women, and up and down the streets as a demonstration to the village. It worked, the villagers happily ventured into the jungle to fetch their own reeds and make themselves long-handled broomsticks.

This simple act of leading by example changed the perspective of the village and managers in big corporate could do with the practice of effective leadership which is very different from standard bullying, although much of big industry might tell you otherwise.

Long gone are the days of the old “do as I say and not as I do” adage. Employees want to be inspired. They want to feel that they can trust the leadership which they must answer to and feel a sense of autonomy over their departments.

Great leadership takes humility. As a leader, one must admit to things they don’t know and it requires the ability to ask for help. We have been taught that asking for help is a sign of weakness, and the internet generation has created the expectation that one must know everything about everything at all times. Similarly, when one does have the answers and yet cannot convince their team to follow their strategy, sometimes a visual representation is what people need. Get it done and let them see it, and they will be sure to follow.

Don’t lead from behind.


Week 7: Seeing with new eyes

The group shared a story about living in the street, shared the voice of those who are living in the streets without knowing exactly where the next meal will come from. I remember the lady mention how we as ‘normal’ people pretend they don’t exist. I really felt bad as I am one of those people who literally ignore the person knocking on my window.

I had a guy pester me everyday I go to the office. He would knock on my window and swear and say this and that. I would simply just drive off. One of my friends suggested I look and him and even if I sign to him that I don’t have, just to show him that I do acknowledge him as a human. I proceeded to do exactly that. Once I started looking at him, the swear words disappeared and more smiles came through.

Its funny how we take small things for granted, I mean they are people and there are real circumstances how they got on the streets. I have now changed how I react to others . I consider others feels.

Seeing with new eyes

I was four minutes late already the group facilitating locked the door including one of their member. we watched them participating through the glass, i was curious to see what will happen with the shoes? People where requested to not to fit their own shoes but try to wear different shoes. None of the participants  wanted to fit because u think of decease etc. This simply means today u might have everything tomorrow and  become homeless. People living in the street they have different reasons why they ended up homeless, we need to see with new eyes.

Finally the door was open we joined our syndicates group to provide feedback. Roslyn took us through the manual, she touched on surfacing beliefs and assumptions. The truth of the matter is human beings cannot live without assumptions, she also facilitated on different types of unconscious bias, we did real practical exercise on unconscious bias we worked together with pairs and groups and share our experience most participants where interested in gender bias and beauty bias.

Then Roslyn ask us to read the story the girl and the sailor, very interesting we participated and we had assumptions with all the characters in the story. she then ask who said the sailor is a man? and that was my aaha moment. i learned about the structure of the mental models:

  • filters
  • deletions
  • distortions and
  • generalisations

this model we make inside our head, we need to look at the world through the window/ lens.

Resolving Conflict

It was clear that as more and more groups presented, we were getting better at it. Today I loved the approach employed by this group in portraying the message. They had performed a short play that was about a family of a mother, a father and a child. Like it sometimes happen to most of us, this family was going through relationship issues. It was clear that the father had failed dismally to play his role as head of the house and to provide for the child’s education. The mother on the other hand seemed to have lost focus from the family and was more inward looking. The poor child was therefore left to her own devices. The school fees had not been paid, and she was not getting support from any of her parents when it came to making decisions about her career. This situation had left the child frustrated.

The irony of it all was that each member of the family thought they were right in behaving the way they did because …it was not them, but the other person!” Out of fury, the child eventually expresses her frustrations to both her parents who then start blaming each other. Given the impact that this had on the child; the parents found that they had no other option except to try and resolve their differences. Eventually some understanding is struck and they agree to some solutions.

I enjoyed this portrayal because it hit very close to home. I could relate to some of my own experiences that I went through following my divorce. The group had also done a great job in researching about the topic and statistics were shared on how common such cases were in our societies. This for me was quite an eye opener. Quite often when we go through stuff, we think it is only us and therefore there is something wrong with us. Truth is, there is someone out there going through what you are experiencing, therefore a solution can be found. Overall, the topic was clear and the session was well executed using the various techniques that we had learnt in class. I really enjoyed this session; not too heavy and quite relate-able.


This topic reminds me of a class exercise which engaged this tool of facilitation. Three stories from the workbook were individually read in order to establish which of the protagonists could be considered the facilitators. It was interesting to disagree within our groups on who these individuals were. The disputes were heated in some cases and were a good example of how storytelling can incite emotions that can involuntarily showcase our individual personalities. Insightful indeed.

Facilitating Change – Time Management

Today’s facilitation session focused on time-management. I was a bit confused at first arriving to class in a set up that seemed like I was about to write an exam with the papers out on the tables but overall their presentation was quite informative.

The Wheel of Life showed me that I had somewhat a good balance between work, school, and my social life. The only thing that I realized I lacked in was the Health & Fitness part of the wheel.   I will need to improve on this and stop making excuses about how busy I am. This will not be easy but I am willing to give it a shot.

We all had to bring in 2 copies of our draft essays this week, our essays got handed out randomly to fellow classmates to read and critique if need be. The other copy was swap with a person in the group that we were placed in, by reading other classmates essays it gave me an idea of what the essay should be like.

Time Management

If you love life, then don’t waste time, for time is what life is made up of (Bruce Lee, Striking Thoughts: Bruce Lee’s Wisdom for daily living) We all complain about how we don’t have time for anything but never think about how we can manage time better. Today’s facilitation piece couldn’t have been more appropriate for a group of working adults who have to juggle jobs, family responsibilities and studying. Oh and of course social lives!

We were given practical tools that we could use to manage our time. My aha moment was having to identify my time wasters, watching movies sadly being one of them. As women we pride ourselves on our ability to multi task and today we shouldn’t do it. Still not sure about that one!

I brought my draft essay to class today with the hope that I would get some feedback from Ros that would ease my anxiety as I have no idea what I’m doing and if I’m on the right track. Disappointingly it becomes a peer review which adds no value for me as I get no feedback from whoever was reviewing mine. I want to think this is a good thing but I quickly realise that we are all in the same boat.

Resolving Conflict

Imagine how you would feel if a your manager came and threw papers on your desk in a rage. That is what happened to me last week, I was very upset, I did not exchange any words with her gave her a dirty look. I think that unraveled her and she had an angry outburst about how she was the only one pulling her weight, I could her her voice was chocking so I went after her and hugged her and told her I was sorry. She also then apologized and explained how it was not just me but that she was overloaded. I offered her a some water which she refused. I left her and went to my office.

The director came to the her office and she carried on with here rant of how she is taking work home every night and how she is taking sleeping pills to sleep at night. The director told her to take a holiday and left not seeing the seriousness of the situation. I then went into her office and offered to help so she won’t need to take work home. She told me she can’t share that work as it was confidential. I asked her if she couldn’t find a temp to assist just to lessen her workload. She said no but two days later a lady we had worked with on our skills development plan was in the office to assist her. It’s now been three days and I can see she is much more relaxed.

All is well that ends well and even though she did not acknowledge I had something to do with her inviting Lesego to assist I am glad she is getting the help she needs.

Week 7

Today started off with the group facilitating time management which I thought was well facilitated. I was a bit confused at first arriving to class in a set up that seemed like I was about to write an exam with the papers out on the tables but overall their presentation was quite informative. Time management is really an outstanding tool as it helps with balancing my school life, family and social life. We then did an activity “ the wheel of life”, it was a great exercise that made me realize that the amount of time I spend doing things that aren’t really much of a priority could, well should be invested in things that are a big priority. It’s something I’m definitely working on and it has been working in my favor to stop allowing my biggest enemy, procrastination, overpower me.
A big well done to group 11.

Facilitating Change

A case study of Electrical and Lighting manufacturing company was a great topic that gave me the different perspective about change management skills. The whole concept of domains of disclosure has helped me to keep in mind whenever I need facilitate change that public (known) Private(hidden) unconscious (blind spots and unaware) are critical for my change facilitation. What I have taken away is that change needs to be approached inclusively with open minded approach. Get to listen and have understanding of the perspective of others in order to have a desired result even the when the end results don’t favor others.

Week 6 – Blog 6 :” Resolving Conflict and Building Relationship”

Week 6 – Blog 6 :” Resolving Conflict and Building Relationship”

Yo ooh! Another longest Saturday in class from 08:00 – 16:00

On schedules two teams facilitated on

Resolving Conflict &  Building Relationships.

The topic seems too be close related… i was so exited to be ready to learn new ways of doing things that most of us always going through conflict and reconciliations.

Group one on :Resolving Conflict:

The team exposed different people and different styles of how to handle conflict in societies. I have quickly picked up my own personalities immediately when they were facilitating  i am a Compromiser because i always but all means attempt to avoid conflict no matter how but conflicts always found my address because people are different but for me albeit i still attempt to avoid it for peace keeping sake. In my house my wife always thinks like i am avoiding conflict because i just want peace and she always says i must not avoid conflict i my confront it as a man and for me that is just a good way of losing energy. i always try my best to run away from conflict and my way of resolving it is always inappropriate hence it end up in more quarrels than solution. Thank God this session has brought few lights and styles of how to resolve conflict peacefully. I will ensure that i use all these new methods (competing,collaborating,compromising,avoiding and accommodating) and apply them and see how i can be able to resolve.

Building Relationships: 

The Icebreaker with the second facilitation basically summed up the point they were trying to get across about building a relationship is about working together.

The way madam Solomon explained about building relationship it was very interesting hence she explained the cycle of a relationship and she provided steps ( Risk, Hurt, withdraw, reclaim Identity,Hurt and relationship) of how to maintaining a good relationship in our society and i my life.

Indeed a very extra long day but with full needed information to use on daily basis in our lives.

Thank you.

Facilitating Change

The theme this week was Facilitating Change and the leading group chose to engage us in efficient time management. The reality for us all is that there are 24hrs in each day of which a minimum average of  8 hrs is required for sleep in order for our body’s to replenish mental and physical stamina……FACT!!! So this leaves us with a total of 16 hours in a day to fulfill all other important activities – work, study,  family activities, social activities, health activities etc. the list goes on and on.

We often become overwhelmed and find it exceptionally hard to balance things. THIS IS LIFE – we have to deal with it. The team highlighted  why its is so important to maximize our time through planning better. Change is always present in every area of our lives and although sometimes unexpected we can manage change through effective time management. They gave us some interesting tools to use that enable us  at any given time to map out our time spent on specific things and shift the importance where necessary.

Procrastination is the thief of time! I am a master procrastinator, i have sold myself into the lie of ” don’t stress, you know you thrive under pressure” – LIES, LIES LIES!!!!!Nowadays  I am trying something new, the minute i feel myself falling trap to procrastination i ask myself ” Why put off for tomorrow what you can achieve today? ” and if I answer an excuse versus valid reason  then I remind myself ” Girl, stop lying to yourself, just get on with it!”

Facilitating Change

In today’s class, we learned how to determine what’s important in our lives by using tools such as the wheel of life and the following 7 steps, which I found very helpful:

1. Start your day with a clear focus. Determine what you want to achieve and what you must accomplish.

2. Have a dynamic task list. Capture the tasks and activities you must do on a list and update it regularly during the day.

3. Focus on high-value activities. Before you start something new, identify the activity that would have the most positive effect on your project.

4. Minimize interruptions. The more uninterrupted time you get during the day to work on important tasks, the more effective you’ll be.

5. Stop procrastinating (I am VERY guilty of this). If you have difficulties staying focused or tend to procrastinate you may benefit from creating an external commitment for yourself.

6. Limit multi-tasking. Many of us multi-task and believe we’re effective when we do so, but evidence suggests that we can’t effectively focus on more than one thing at a time.

7. Review your day. Spend 5-10 minutes reviewing your task list every day before you leave the office.

In the second half of the class, we reviewed and had our first essay drafts reviewed by our peers. Mine did not receive any feedback that I could use and apply and I was quite disappointed about this. The essay topic feels slightly abstract and it seems as if no one is really sure what to do…

Facilitating Change

This facilitation session focused on time-management and making us see or realize the stuff we prioritize in our lives, and whether there was an imbalance in time spent on certain things over others.

The Wheel of Life showed me that I had somewhat a good balance between work, school, and my social life. The only thing that I realized I lacked in was the Health & Fitness part of the wheel.   I will need to improve on this and stop making excuses about how busy I am.  This will not be easy but I am willing to give it a shot.

The take-home assessments has also helped me see which parts of my life I need to pay more attention to and improve on in order to have a balanced life.  Orcourse, it can never be perfectly balanced, but we can at least try to get there.


week 7

First day back after a short two week break.  The facilitation piece was about Facilitating Change.  The group picked The Wheel of Life, basically dealing with whats more important to us.  This covered areas such as:

  • Business, career and studies
  • family
  • spiritual
  • finances
  • health

This wheel helps most when planning for your future goals.  The group also highlighted the importance of time management.  I particularly felt guilty because time management is one of my weak points.  Having to analyse how you spend your time shows how we often spend time on things that are less important instead of focusing on whats most important to us which leads me to my next point, “Which quadrant do you operate from.”  the quadrants were divided into four: URGENT IMPORTANT, NOT IMPORTANT URGENT, URGENT NOT IMPORTANT AND NOT URGENT NOT IMPORTANT.  These four quadrants have helped me manage my time better. having previously spent more time on more of the NOT IMPORTANT NOT URGENT matters I’m slightly moving towards NOT URGENT IMPORTANT and cant wait till I’m able to operate mostly in the URGENT IMPORTANT quadrant.  Big Ups to the team!!!!


Facilitating change



This week’s group facilitation was on facilitating change and the theme was “Time Management”, what a relevant theme for everyone!

We all need to manage our time efficiently, and when we don’t we see the cracks in our lives, be it at work, social lives or family. Finding a balance is very important. Sometimes we lose track of the time we spend on particular things, some meaningful and some totally unnecessary, but also, there are things we are not willing to give up – The productivity wheel helped a lot in illustrating how much time we spend on certain activities and whether we are happy in our lives, with regards to what we spend our time on..

We learnt the seven essential time management strategies which were as follows:

1. Start your day with a clear focus. Determine what you want to achieve and what you must accomplish.

2. Have a dynamic task list. Capture the tasks and activities you must do on a list and update it regularly during the day.

3. Focus on high-value activities. Before you start something new, identify the activity that would have the most positive effect on your project.

4. Minimize interruptions. The more uninterrupted time you get during the day to work on important tasks, the more effective you’ll be.

5. Stop procrastinating. If you have difficulties staying focused or tend to procrastinate you may benefit from creating an external commitment for yourself.

6. Limit multi-tasking. Many of us multi-task and believe we’re effective when we do so, but evidence suggests that we can’t effectively focus on more than one thing at a time.

7. Review your day. Spend 5-10 minutes reviewing your task list every day before you leave the office.

I found the 7th task to be of utmost importance, it’s critical that one spends time reviewing their activities of the day, checking whether they achieved their goals for the day. This helps in finding weak spots and working on them.




On the 22 second of September the group had to do a presentation based on the following topic “Learning from Life”.

One of the Ladies who was presenting asked everyone to close their eyes for 30 seconds,trying to bring everyone in class to relate to the topic. She gave us the 30 second moment as a way to elaborate the kinds of pains everybody comes against.

Then she gave us the 3 types of pains, which are as follows:

1- Physical: Something is wrong
2- Emotional pain: Motion that Men don’t cry
3- Sociological pain: Stress

Page 168
Team Cohesion Process
1- Forming
2- Storming
3- Norming
4- Performing
5- Reforming

What I learnt from this lesson is that all pains have their own effects or impacts on everybody ,but the conclusion is that pain is pain,regardless of how it came about and the most important thing is that pain needs to be dealt with right on the spot because if no,t it may result as harm in the future.

Facilitating Change

It was the Saturday of draft submission, I couldn’t make to the class :-(.

However, going through the textbook and sharing with my team about the day, I think I have somethings to share.

Firstly, a case study about the Electrical and Lighting company has so many lessons to it. I will however, sum it up to one sentence. When a person joins an organisation, it is vital for him/her to learn its culture, what the organisational goals are and then decide on how he/she going to add value.  Be considerate of others, regardless of your position.

Johari Window

  • Transparent arena – known to self and  known to others. e.g(name, age, physical appearance, etc) – It has mutual benefits.
  • Blind Spot – what others know, but the person is unaware of. e.g(mannerisms, bad breath, etc) – It offers the opportunity to share information.
  • Hidden arena – known to self but unknown to others, e.g (disguise, pain, pretense, etc) – It offers the opportunity to share information.
  • Unknown arena – unknown to self and others. e.g (the future, ) – Possible discoveries or untapped potential.

Trust and a safe environment  for sharing information plays a major role here. Learning from self and others is all that matters.



Facilitation skills – Blog 7

Coming back after a two-week break, needed that break to re-cooperate 🙂

This week group presented on Facilitating change, the theme was Time Management,

We get so caught up in our own doings we lose the sense of time, this was a great topic that opened my eyes to were my time is spent, the wheel of productivity and where I will not give up my time spent. The exercise that we had to do was really insightful, the daily running’s of our life, it made me stop and think about my life and if I am happy with where I am and what I have accomplished thus far. We all cannot have a balanced life even if we try because of the unknown that happens, we can try as much as we can to have that balance tho. This exercise has really motivated me to do better in the things that I feel that I am lacking in, we need to spend time on our priorities and then on activity 1 and 2.

We all had to bring in 2 copies of our draft essays this week, our essays got handed out randomly to fellow classmates to read and critique if need be. The other copy was swap with a person in the group that we were placed in, by reading other classmates essays it gave me an idea of what the essay should be like.

learning from life

learning from life my  pains hurts and life journey is what make me unique. Not only am i unique but my life story is directly related to my purpose in the world.   my life journey has prepared me  to serve some way, i am  here to help others on their path, to guide and mentor someone that has gone through something similar to me and vise versa

i have learned that i have  love, compassion, and abundance within me. the challenge is to work past the negative thoughts and self-defeating beliefs to access my full potential  that’s already within. and i  can only  do that by surrounding my self with positive people,knowing that its not always about me,listening more and judging less , being compessionate and open to learning from others and that sometimes is better to walk away and not engage .

Every situation you look at gives you two choices: love  or fear which is negative or positive . You can see the world through the eyes of love and kindness or through hate and fear. You get to pick. When am faced with  challenging situations ,i have lerned to  shift my perspective towards the more loving and positive .  and ask myself what is the good in this situation? How is this situation going to benefit me ? What is the lesson here? What am i  grateful for?as a result i am a much better person than i was a year ago.


Week 7: My learning journey …

Returning after the break was bitter sweet, I thoroughly enjoyed my full Saturdays, but I also missed my friends and missed the weekly learning, this Saturday class has become my weekly session with my shrink, but instead of solving the issues of my psyche, I was working through my self development.

The team and I were still riding high after our exciting facilitation piece. I sat down in class and reflected on the last few weeks before class started.  I thought specifically of conflict, as I had experienced alot of conflict at work, it might have been that I was just more aware of the conflict. My take away from the last class was the following wise words from Ros:

“Before conflict come difference, I can change myself but not someone else and the choice is mine and should be for the purpose of growth. Taking responsibility and taking action are two very different things. In conflict, be mindful, present and self-aware. There is higher risk in deeper relationships.”

This tied in very nicely with the discussion this morning, I was unconsciously incompetent in the issues of conflict.  The learnings had brought me a place of conscious incompetence, I have become aware of the many things I needed to learn and discover. I had reached a state of conscious competence, where I was starting to use the skills I had learnt in class in my everyday interactions and seeing the changes in my interactions and myself have been an amazing experience for me.  The next step for me was to unconsciously competent, what I had learnt should be an intrinsic skill.

And that dear friends, was my big take away this week 🙂 Till next time…

Week 7_Learning from Life

So today is our day! Our turn to facilitate!

The topic is so broad, I was pleasantly surprised to see, learn and know the various points of views on how our team interpreted this topic. We drew examples from years and hi-lighted the significance of what dates, years and time means to us, the human race.

Audience participation was the most pleasantly surprising point of our facilitation to me, or was it because we prepared and facilitated so well in our sub groups that every part of how we wanted it to play out played out precisely like how we envisioned.

So the year that I had was 1994, and we had to recollect the significance (if any) that this year brought to us. The one group member spoke about this being the first year of her schooling career,  the other person remembered heading up a community youth group that he had started within his community in that year and another member spoke about it being the year his wife was born and how grateful he was for this. So many emotions and defining moments that came to mind in fact though due to time constraints we could not report back on them all.

For me, the defining moment of this year, 1994 is that this was the year that my little sister was born, nine years my junior, so you can imagine the excitement and joy that filled the hearts and minds of our family members knowing that my little sister was a bout to be born.

The interaction that I experienced through the back and forth feedback that was done and received through the oral presentation of the Johari window exposed me to various aspects about myself, I was enlighten to know that I am a good listener and that i am able to draw valuable and useful information out of people. I am one that gets straight to the point and tends to not ‘beat around the bush’ when attempting to explain something.






Time management

Someone requested the notes about the 7 essential time management strategies I presented in class, see below;

1.Start your day with a clear focus. Determine what you want to achieve and what you must accomplish.

2.Have a dynamic tast list.Capture  the tasks and activities you must do on a list and update it regularly during the day.

3.Focus on high-value activities. Before you start something new, identify the activity that would have the most positive effect on your project.

4.Minimize interruptions. The more uninterrupted time you get during the day to work on important tasks, the more effective you’ll be.

5.Stop procrastinating.If you have difficulties staying focused or tend to procrastinate you may benefit from creating an external commitment for yourself.

6.Limit multi-tasking. Many of us multi-task and believe we’re effective when we do so, but evidence suggests that we can’t effectively focus on more than one thing at a time.

7.Review your day. Spend 5-10 minutes reviewing your task list every day before you leave the office.


Facilitating change

On this day I was really nervous and excited at the same time. It was our groups turn to do the facilitation piece. We narrowed our topic  down to time management and gave really good pointers on how to balance life as a mature student. I’m really glad thats now out of the way 😬. I’ve learned quite a lot from the wheel of life excerise the audience had to do, it outlined things I need to prioritize in my life and minimise time spend on social media and unnecessary things like tv.

It was also submission day for our draft essays. I liked the fact that Rosyln made us evaluate each other’s assignments and gave us guildelines on how to write our essays and improvise on our draft essays for our final one. I got some good advise from a friend who’s essay I thought from my point of view was according to Roslyn requirements.

We also had a discussion with our syndicate groups reflecting how on our facilitation piece. We looked at the framework for reflection on action on page  21 on our workbooks. As we were reflecting on how we tackled our facilitation piece,  we discovered that team coordination, willingness and trust plays a vital role in a team.



15 September 2018 Facilitation Change

Finally after a study break of two weeks it was back to Saturday facilitation class and also back to the normal half day session.

It was week 7 and facilation on that day was about change. As we got to class there were a couple of papers on each desk. Fast forward to the end of the syndicate group facilitating. For me they did quite well and engaging with the audience. Though when we did the “to r management tracker for work and life ” was a bit confusing because some of the clock topics mentioned were not on the wheel but non the less the group did well.

My ahhhhaaaa moment for me was when they made me realise how much time I spend of things that are not beneficial and how much less time I spend on important or urgent things. Which got me very worried as to how I got myself into such a situation and how hard it will be to get out because I’ve been there for such a long period of time. But hopefully with the take home assessment helps me in the near future.

But what also stood out from me was a book mentioned by Stephen R. Covey The 7 habits of highly effective People

1. Be proactive.
(influence one another)

2. Being with the end in mind.
(Thinking about the future)

3. Put first thing first.
( Important and urgent)
(Important and not urgent)
(Not important and urgent)
(Not important and not urgent)

4.Think win win.

5. Seek first to understand and be understood.

6. Synergize.
(Team work)

7. Sharpen the saw.

So I learnt that I need to spend time on what’s important and the rest shall follow.

The was also a story telling about monkeys that washed potatoes. The purpose of this was that the world is changing everyday. Even though we see the world as we are as individuals and not as it is.

However how can we change our world
Our life and our experiences….?

preparing written essay

writing a reflective essay, because a challenge when it come to what to put in as I am limited by number of words. having to sit down read all my blogs and reflect on my experience.

I have noticed how far I have come, what I didn’t know or what I have been ignorance of before, now that I know better I cannot just ignore.  as a human I have my own believes but I now know that I have to respect other people’s believes too unlike before it was my way or the high way.

I am slowly becoming aware of my reactions towards others.

Week 7 Feedback

  • Today we have to submit our draft reflective essay together with 6 blogs. I came to the morning class due to personal commitments. I joined  group 2 as I am also in group 2 in the afternoon class. Most of the people in this group are just doing Facilitation Skills course to get points in order to graduate. The talk a lot about their personal stuff than concentrating. They also contribute and participate more on sharing ideas unlike my morning group whom we are all at the early stage. I really enjoyed myself  the atmosphere was really different. Roslyn gave more information on how to prepare the final reflective essay. In this essay she wants to know if you have learnt anything. There is no need to mention on how other groups facilitated as she was also there when they were facilitating. Did we learn anything that can be useful when we finished the course. She also gave us a assessment sheet/form to see how are we going to be assessed. The facilitating group talk us how to manage time, tracker for work and life in general. We did the activity on the wheel of life which quadrant do we operate from, for example, urgent important like deadline, do now, not urgent but important, do soon. Urgent not important avoid it. Not urgent not important limit it. Next was 4 stages of learning which are unconscious incompetent, awareness, I don’t know what I don’t know or what I have to learn, conscious incompetence, interest, aware of what I have to learn but I don’t know how to do it. Conscious competent trial conscious of what I am doing or I can do it but I need to think about it when I am doing it. Last was  unconscious competent and 3 factors that governed the journey of proficiency: motivation inspire to do, opportunity possible to do and capability able to do. This was copied from Roslyn Facilitatation  Skills notebook 2018. We also learnt about 3 dimensional thinking, different types of learning and reflecting. First is the event of the behavior, and results. If I change my perception my system will change, patterns in the system, go to work and change the way you communicate  how  has the world has changed for me, how can I change my world in the future. If I can change everything changes. We accept what is going on and have not climbed the ladder. After this course we will change the pattern of thinking and communicating.

Facilitating change

Facilitating change was one of the topics that are close to my heart as my team was presenting this session. As a team we chose Time management within the facilitating change as a discussed topic. We firstly explained we took the class through dramatization of not being on time for certain projects. How is feels like not meet your deadlines. We therefore took them through the explanation of time management as well as its pros and cons.

We post a question to the audience , asking them where do they spent of their time on. We took them through different quadrant that people operate from. We identified and explained ” What’s urgent and important, What’s urgent and not important, What’s not urgent and not important and what’s not urgent but important.

We also took them through a wheel of life that speaks about balancing ones life. It speaks about balancing ones spiritual life, Business and career life, Health and fitness, Social, friends and family, personal growth etc.

Week 7

The facilitation groups topic was Facilitating Change, highlighting time management.
The group facilitated greatly by providing us with an outlook on the time we have and how we manage this time by having us look at items or tasks which take up a certain amount of time and whether or not this time is realistically relevant. Great way to have one relook at how time is wasted and/or not utilised to its proper extent.

The class was then requested to split into groups, and after submitting our ‘draft reflective essay’s’ which were due, were given someone elses essay in the class to review and mark.
Personally, I did not think this was fair, as we as students would not know what the lecturer, in this case Roslyn would be looking for, if anything in particular. Understanding Roslyn mentioned there is no wrong or right way, however this course is seen as accredited in order to complete the degree therefore should receive sufficient accreditation.
Anyways, this is just my personal view, I do however respect Roslyns manner of conducting her course and appreciate her passion in providing the course or the content thereof.

Communication is Complex

This week was one of the hardest for me. What I thought I knew about communication and listening was debunked. I realised that communication and listening is a lot more complex than I had always thought. The lessons learned were interesting and eye-opening. I found myself afterwards introspecting about my life and behaviour, especially how I converse and relate to people in my life. I realised that I have often struggled to listen to someone without thinking of a response or sharing my experience similar to what I am being told.

For a few days following class I have been practicing to listen with “intent” and I must admit this is not easy. I am constantly confronted with the edge to respond, correct or ask for further details or clarity. I try it with my friends, family and colleagues. It’s a skill I want to master to communicate effectively and make the most of every conversation and experience in my life. I am learning that words create worlds; they give new perspective to life and people. What we say about people and what we hear from them can change how we feel and respond. So therefore, it is important to be conscious of our role and behaviours in every conversation. We also need to be mindful of the different communication style we engage in, whether it is a Tell-Tell, Debate Confront-React, Conversation Advocate-Inquire, in relation to our aims.

These phases of communication help us to establish an aim for communicating with someone else. As with Tell-Tell, people relate their sides and others are just listening, it is mainly common way of communicating. Sometimes we engage in Debate Confront-React without realising as we eager to present a better of events or believing our side better. The method I am practicing which result in meaningful communication is the Collaboration Share- Discover as there is honest exchange between people and conversations are marked by respect. In a multicultural society such as South Africa where diverse people share social spaces, it is important to communicate with one another to understand each other and help repair the hurt of the past. Personally I have started implementing changes in my personal life in relation to communication and I know it will bear fruits.

The learning continues….

Reflective essay

The morning started with a presentation on time management, which was well facilitated by different group members. It was enlightening, as it got me to work on managing my time properly, and motivated an improvement on that front. We then had to submit the reflective essays that we brought, the two copies, one with an attachment of the six blogs that have been written thus far. The essays were swapped among our selves as students, and we were given marking criteria, like a rubric, to follow when marking. It was a challenge for me as l have never marked anyone’s essay, I was expecting the facilitator, Roslyn, to do the marking herself as she has the experience, and knows what to expect. It was, however, interesting to read other students’ work, and draw a comparison, and learn from them, as well. I managed to follow the rubric as l went through the essays, which were two, and l made corrections were l could, and rewarded them as well, whether the marks were appropriately allocated, it remains a mystery.

Reflective Essay

Today was quite scary, I was not prepared for fellow class mates to be the ones reviewing my essay.  As a reflective essay, I thought it would be a private “conversation” piece between the facilitator and myself.  Having just said that, in this instance, my class mates actually were facilitators – facilitating change.

The exercise of drafting a reflective essay was quite a difficult task for me.  Whilst reflection is not something we do often.  Though I do go through the process of having conversations in my head, I don’t often pen down what “conflict” or dilemma it is that I am resonating upon.  I actually had to sit down and google – “how to do a reflective essay”.


Having spent the time soul searching when doing my essay, the feedback from the classmate – that my essay was not academic enough – turned out to be frustrating.

Oh well….

Back to the drawing board…….. that’s what learning is all about




The week leading up to the draft essay submission was chaotic to say the least. Amidst the work and university drama I thought that writing a reflective essay wouldn’t be hard to manage especially compared to a 3000 word academic essay.

Doing introspection is often easier said than done and requires being honest with yourself. Writing the draft essay I realised how much value I received from this course and how much of the content I could apply to my job. For example, rules of engagement, the balcony and the dance and the ways of learning are concepts that are useful when engaging with large groups at work or resolving conflict.

I must admit that the thought of someone readying my essay and possibly providing a critique was daunting but it also made me want to put in more effort to get my essay constructed as best I could. In the end I was looking forward to the feedback I would receive but also to the remaining few weeks of the course and what I could learn.

Upwards and onwards!


Week 7 – Facilitating Change

The syndicate group did a lovely presentation on the importance of time. I always find that all the topics we were given to facilitate on are so relevant to our everyday lives. They gave us tips on how to use your time and allocate it accordingly to balance out your life.

We also touched on the four stages of learning and the three dimensional thinking. I did not have.

Finally it was time to hand in our reflective essays, I was particularly excited about this part and wanted to know how I did. We were told beforehand that we would mark our peer’s essays, but because we were advised to print out 2 copies, I thought the lecturer would take the other copy for marking. Well all I can say is, i need stop assuming. That was my AH-HA of the day… Don’t expect anything and don’t assume things.

Week 7: Facilitating Change

The group for today was facilitating change. They talked about change as being the transition from one challenge to the next.

I definitely see this in my life in the past 1-2 years. I left my job of 11 years for a better one, I moved house twice, I travelled to Europe for the first time, I started this degree at Wits in July and most recently we welcomed my nephew into the world. His birth was an attestation to how abrupt change can also be and how we are sometimes taken by surprise. He’s 3 months premature and is in Neonatal ICU, but he is a beautiful little person who is fighting for his life. If he can fight like this I think we should all be able to actively adjust to the constant changes in our lives with the right toolset. Someone once said, the only things in life that are certain are death, taxes and change….or something like that. My point is that no matter who we are and how much we think we can avoid it, it is bound to happen and we need to embrace change.

What also stood out for me was the fact that in order to manage change we need to manage our time by evaluating our wheel of life, and how each area of our lives is doing. This was a great exercise because it allows us to take stock of our lives and see what needs more attention. We all have our goals and taking stock of this allows us to see where our energy is required most and how we can manage our time better so that we are prepared and we don’t find ourselves in a situation where everything is urgent and important at the same time.

We also assessed each other’s draft reflective essays and got some pointers on how to make the final essay better.

Our syndicate group also did a practice run of our facilitation and although my presentation fears are still there, the facilitation piece itself seems to be making some progress compared to the previous weeks.

Facilitating Change

We are given the same amount of days,weeks,months, minutes and hours, question is how do we utilize it. Some are happy others unhappy, some build dreams, other dreams get shattered, but in the end it boils down to that one significant moment where you did something extraordinary or something extraordinary happened to you, it might happened in days,weeks,months, minutes or hours. My moment was the day i became a mother when i saw my son for the first time, my world changed at that very moment I knew that it’s not about me anymore it’s about the little gift God has blessed me with. From that day on I knew I should put in double the work for my goals and dreams that i want to achieve as it won’t just be for me but for him too, I knew that I have to work extra hard for it to pay off because he will look up to me. I don’t want to look back one day and ask what did I do and have nothing to show for it. Day to day we are faced with different challenges but in the end it’s about how we handle those challenges do we choose to tackle it hands on or run away, but we need to be the change we want for ourselves.

Facilitating Change

Beautiful morning today Saturday 15th September 2018. As usual, I woke up looking forward to having fun in class. I brought my Draft Essay along and it is due today. One question keeps crossing my mind “did I do the right thing? What will happen if I fail the Draft Essay”? I did not allow this question to spoil my day. The class officially starts.

Today the presenting group’s topic is “Facilitating Change”. They started by sharing with us this topic “The Wheel of Life”. One team member elaborated and explained how The Wheel of Life exercise is the perfect starting point for goal-setting. I will only stipulate five of the ten area of focus:

  • Business Career & Studies: Is your career where you want it to be by now? Are you heading in the right direction?
  • Finance & Wealth: Are you earning enough income to satisfy your current needs? Is your financial setup for the future growth in wealth?
  • Health & Fitness: How physically healthy are you? Are you satisfied with your level of fitness? Are you satisfied with your diet?
  • Social & Friends: Are your friends supportive of you? Are you engaging friends and socializing to your satisfaction levels?
  • Family: Is your family supportive of you? Are you supportive of your family?

We (the class) were then asked to measure ourselves on every heading on a scale of between 1 and 10, one meaning very little or none. We were then told that if you score between 0 and 4 on any of the headings, you need to consider doing something abo What I found interesting is the fact that I scored 4 on the fourth topic and this very true of me. Being an introvert, I do not socialize more often and I am happy about that. I am not going to try and do something about it.

The facilitating group has done an excellent job in a sense that they kept the whole class involved and after presenting this excellent topic, they still managed to finish on time.

What works for you, might not work for the next person (Roslyn)

In closure, I liked Roslyn’s commend when she mentioned that there was a guy who thought everything was fine until one day when he got home and the lady he was staying with was gone with everything and the house was empty.

The moral of the story is “if you are happy, never for a moment think everyone around you is as happy”. What a fun day we had!

Just a quick quote from Sunday Independent 16 September 2018:

“If you don’t manage change, change will mismanage you” by Dr. John Tibane. Doctor turned Motivational Speaker.

Week 7

I was a bit confused at first arriving to class in a set up that seemed like I was about to write an exam with the papers out on the tables but overall their presentation was quite informative. Time management is really an outstanding tool as it helps with balancing my school life, family and social life. We then did an activity “ the wheel of life”, it was a great exercise that made me realize that the amount of time I spend doing things that aren’t really much of a priority could, well should be invested in things that are a big priority.

Week 7: Perception

I have missed out on this presentation. But perception is one of the human virtues or traits that defines the reality we manifest. The subject of perception has spiritual significance in that how we perceive the world is reflected on our actions. I know that it is important to train our minds to see positive, or have no thoughts at all and allow the present moment to be as it is. In this way, we access the power of infinite creative intelligence to take course. We do not see and interpret situations and people based on our past experiences or assumptions.

At the tip of the iceberg

I like to write, but I don’t think I’m a good story teller and lately we are tasked to share stories to each other about conflicts we have encountered in the past. When the iceberg theory was introduced, I thought to myself I wish more people were exposed to such… We are learning about the useful tools in class however it’s not easy to utilize these to certain environments especially where culture prioritized more and there’s an imbalance in understanding.

meaningful conversations

i really enjoyed this topic as i do tend to struggle with conversations and conversation topics. There are a lot more barriers that i thought there were and a lot that i am guilty of. It was interesting to see what exercises there are and how many there are too. The class came together to build a shared understanding as to how we can better our conversations and make them more meaningful. This was a good topic as it allowed me to understand that ironically through communication and coming to a common ground yields better communication.


Our day to day lives are hugely impacted by perception. The workshop for the day was proof thereof, our perceptions are the foundation of our assumptions that we make each day. The challenge is that most often the validity of our assumptions is not questioned and we behave as if they are facts. One of the activities of the day was to say what you thought about a person put in front based on what you see.

That exercise alone exposed a whole lot of us about how stereotypical we are generally as a society. The guy whom my group was analyzing or judging was wearing a Muslim/Eastern traditional attire and when asked what we can say about him, we went on him and nothing positive was said in describing him, all this because he belonged to a certain culture, it got worse when he fetched his backpack.

From the feedback of that exercise, I learned that one should never judge another by looks, clothes, possession, cultural background or language and how dangerous it is to assume based on what the eye sees or your ears hear. It also taught me that our perceptions may be what we want to believe rather than what is factual.


An eye-opener for the day was to look at myself, how I think and how my brain processes information. My Aha was being able to identify and surface beliefs, mental models and assumptions and understanding the decision spiral (Tool 22) from the workbook. This is the unconscious thinking we apply when making decisions and taking actions and it is meant to help us put judgment on suspension and examine underlying beliefs. Out of this experience, I will practice mindful communication in all spheres of my life by exploring my assumptions and examining my underlying beliefs to avoid miscommunication and poor decision making.


In the past weeks, we have facilitated change while communicating via social media and through that process honoured difference in telling our stories. We also learned from life and started seeing with new eyes. I cannot wait to free my mind from the next Saturday we meet.


Your girl Mat, checking out!

power of perception Seeing With New Eyes

This class session was an eye opener for me pardon the pun. My friend is always telling me not to judge others as harshly and to give second chances. I enjoyed the group presentation about not allowing the outside to determine your opinion of others, despite my own misgivings.

I have since always remembered this lesson and continue to try and not judge the eye but rather with my heart.

I realize that this is the part in me that must change. I feel that it changed the quality of my thinking in a big way.

Learning that I make a decision in a split second and lean towards my experiences showed me that I may have made wrong decisions in the past and that I must look deeper into my core beliefs and values that my opinion is based on.

The exercise about the stranded girl. the sailor, old man and the fiance was an eye opener about how you think you know someone until you find out you don’t and experience rejection is an example that sometimes someone is not good for you they are not good for you, however sometimes they are.

Quality of thinking

“Half of me is filled with bursting words and half of me is painfully shy. I crave solitude yet also crave people. I want to pour life and love into everything yet also nurture my self- care and go gently. I want to live within the rush of primal, intuitive decision, yet also wish to sit and contemplate. This is the messiness of life- that we all carry multitudes, so must sit with the shifts. We are complicated creatures and ultimately, the balance comes from this understanding. Be water. Flowing, flexible and soft. Subtly powerful and open. Wild and serene. Able to accept all changes, yet still led by the pull of steady tides. It is enough.” – Victoria Erickson

 Victoria Erickson hit the nail on the  head in the above quote, this week’s facilitation topic had me thinking about how often I wonder if my thoughts and actions are enough. I draw conclusions based on my assumptions which are often based on my beliefs and ideas, ‘my truth’, not on reality itself which leaves me wondering if I ever see things with new eyes. Over the past few weeks I’ve noticed how I often assume that people may not agree to a suggestion I make, as a result I propose something and immediately say, “You don’t agree”, before they can even respond. My hidden assumption here is that they may not see my point of view because over the years I’ve learnt to explain misunderstandings or mistakes before I even understand them. Now I am able to propose something  with a much more insightful view and I give the other person an opportunity to unpack his/her own conclusions. I now purposely seek to understand the entire situation before making my conclusions.


Meditation and confusion

Walked into class a little sleepy and slightly grumpy but with an open mind about whatever the group presenting had in store for us. Given the hectic work week I had had, I was looking forward to just numbing my brain.

When the group started I was immediately lost. I didn’t understand the instructions given and found the activities to be uncoordinated and disorganised which caused much confusion for me. When we were asked to kind of meditate I was grateful for the silence. Although, when I reflect about the facilitation, I must be honest that there was no learning outcome for me personally. I can’t blame the group specifically because I feel that I was potentially not fully engaged in it in the first place.

The class material made me realise that it is important to be mindful not only of you as an individual but also of the interactions you have with others. Which comes down to being self-aware, meaning that you understand yourself and your position in the world.

Power of Perception PRT 1- Seeing with new eyes

The girl and the sailor, sighs, and the decision spiral works lecture. I learned how we filter data and translate it into a feeling that either makes us feel happy or unhappy. The sense, select, assess, feel, assume, conclude, decide and act steps were quote revealing because in our groups were not agreeing about the ranks though it late became interesting in terms of the arguments we used to reach the decisions we had individually made. Even discussing it in class was interesting to see how vocal everyone was and what they based their reasoning on. So, going forward I started listening to reasons that were brought forth more, from my son, mother, sisters and colleagues. What an interesting reflecting lesson this later became, it was quite telling but also informative.

Not easily perceived

I can meet people for the first time and just connect to them without any prejudice. I always try to motivate others to give people a chance to proof themselves and not to be judgmental because of perceptions.

I must admit sometimes my perceptions of people are way off because human beings can change as day and night changes. That still does not sway me to give people first, second or third chances.

Group 6, your facilitation session was spot on because most people judge before they have really seen. Seeing with new eyes killed most of the perceptions some of us or most of the group had of felt. Your session was well planned and executed. Thumps up!


meaningful conversation

Having missed class on Saturday the 9th, I cannot reflect on what happened in class which was group 8. I really missed out but what I have realized is that I gained confidence in everything I do both at school, at home and at workplace. improved communication ad creation of ideas around what is happening in my life is tremendously increased. I am so proud of myself and relationships created in class with different individuals has more openly improved considering the fact that I’m introvert. I had an incident at work where my boss was not present and he had set a meeting with an external client and I had to attend that meeting. I conducted that meeting with integrity and pride and it went well. facilitation class played a big role in equipping the hidden skills which I did not know I have.

the power of perception

perception is the brains way of processing sensory information, how we see the world is in accordance to our experiences.  how we perceive the actions of others is different to how we perceive our own. we tend to perceive our actions in a bias way and we use external attributes.

making decisions, when we make decision still goes back to our assumptions and experiences how we see the world. it is best to then improve our communication skills in order to make the best decisions.



Module 7 – Seeing with new eyes (I can see clearly now)

Accolades to Group 6 for a brilliant facilitation experience.

I appreciated the very polished presentation from this Group. From beginning to end, they had a wonderful flow, along with great energy which was exuded by all members. The icebreaker was great fun.

The power of (mis) perception was highlighted when we had to break up into smaller groups. We (the observers) had to provide feedback about the individuals who were dressed up in a particular manner and who were assigned to our group. It was very interesting to hear the feedback from fellow classmates, who were analysing the same individual, who was later visually portrayed in a different setting (by photos)…it is amazing how our eyes, along with our personal filters can directly/indirectly influence our perception (+ or -) about other people. Some of our comments were not kind or considerate, and it served as a barometer of the societal prejudices which we are confronted with.

I appreciated even more the sincere feedback which was provided by Baring and his colleague (whose name escapes me now), when they both debriefed on how they had experienced the judgments that were made about them, where they could hear our comments and observe our gesturing, yet they remained silent & composed throughout this experiment.

The personal revelation from one of the team members from Group 6 was extremely brave. The fact that the revelation of his reality was unrehearsed and authentic, added even more depth to the experiences of this day.

Thank you Group 6 for a wonderful lesson in seeing through new eyes. The book mark which I received is also a wonderful reinforcement of the theme of your facilitation module.

Brilliantly done!


Freeing Your Mind

I see freeing your mind to be one of those challenges in life that we undertake in order to better ourselves. Sometimes we forget to think “out of the box”, we conform and refine ourselves to what we know without thinking any further or any differently.

We seem to process information according to our mental ability without making a conscious effort to look at things from a different perspective. This could be because of our upbringing or the society we have always engaged in. A true challenge would be to put yourself through a test of change and to think in a broader perspective. I am sure that most students can agree with me, that our mental processing was very limited before being a Wits student, I know I sure have changed and changed the way I perceive things and for the better might I add. The mental processing we succumbed to was the usual deletions where we choose to filter out some information only to suit our thinking.  We distort information and change it according to what we prefer and know. We generalize according to our familiar ways and acting. Through this experience at Wits and especially in the Facilitation class I have learnt to accept what I see for what it is without distorting anything to suit my own comfort zone.

Freeing your mind also allows for us to not overthink things as I do quite often. I have learnt to see things for what it is and not take things too personally as this could destroy a person in a sense of allowing negative thoughts and environments to destroy me.

For me freeing your mind is like letting go and accepting changes and challenges in life. Accept what I cannot change and rather think of how I can deal with a situation that I do not have control over. In this way I allow for me to see things from a different perspective and also allow things to happen as they should.

I have learnt to free myself of peoples judgement, free my mind of their thoughts and continue to grow for the better.

The Power of Perception _ Week 7

The power of my perception! Where do I begin!

We live in a society that thinks their opinions are the only truth and if you believe in anything different from the norm then you are an outcast.

Looking at the decision spiral, I realised only now how my decisions are made!

Growing up in a diversified environment, whether if I like it or not most of the times my perceptions of things and how I make my decisions are really messed up! to think that that my beliefs and culture growing up are still in-bedded in me! and affects how I make decision today.  I need to be brainwashed!

Short and sweet

With year end fatigue setting in, class seems to be getting smaller each week. In addition to all that’s happening at this time of year, it’s evident that showing up every week is a sacrifice. But certainly a worthy one.

In the beginning of this course we were told that it would all start making sense…..and indeed it is…..all the pieces are falling into place. And it’s amazing how much we’ve absorbed through triple loop learning. each week, with each group facilitation, I find myself challenged and I look forward to the remainder of this journey!

Perception, what a powerful tool

Today I met a stranger by the name of Thabiso in class, we were requested to share a tale about an altercation one once had in the past and I told him a story about my boss refusing to grant me leave off work. This exercise was very powerful in that it allowed me to view things the way she viewed them and to communicate in a manner that is productive and proactive to understanding.

After class I met with my team and it was bad because I had not really been around. I explained my predicament and the lecture taught us how to use the “I understand you to be saying system”. This system mainly focuses on one person repeating what the other person said in order to ensure understanding. Before embarking on this journey and group activity, my perception was made up that I would not make it through the course however I learned the power of perception, communication and humour.


The familiar in an unfamiliar way


This week dealt with familiar topics but there was nothing familiar about the way they were unpacked. We often talk about perception and assumptions and all of us would have a general idea of what they mean. However this week I had to reflect on the effects and the impact that these could have on any situation.

I will focus entirely on assumptions for the purposes of this blog. Assumptions are our natural tendency to expect that things will be a certain way because they have in the past or simply because society and our environment has taught us that it is so. They can apply to almost anything. They can be applied in relation to ethnic or racial stereotypes, can be seen in religious groups etc.

The said truth about assumptions is that they interfere with the critical thinking because they are an obstacle to our ability to consider facts that go against our assumptions. This limits our focus on what could be correct because we overlook ideas that may go against our assumptions or make judgements based on assumptions that may not be entirely correct, or correct at all. Most critically, assumptions hinder our critical thinking process especially if you consider that we are mostly not even aware of some of the assumptions that we have.

In the environment we operate in, it would be best to try and avoid making assumptions. This could be through critically examining all the beliefs and preconceived notions that we hold. Of Couse this may take a lot of effort because we often do not know we have as assumption to begin with. We also need to understand that just because we have been taught or told that something is so, it does not mean that it is actually the case, we need to think critically about every step in our judgement.



Its our turn to be observed, just love the uplift of my hormones excited. we can do so much to point to the best of our ability, the rest does not depend on us….

might not have enough time to share this…

30. Use positive affirmations

You are affirming all the time by the way you think and talk. “Things never go my way” is a negative affirmation, for example. You could replace such a thought with a positive affirmation such as “things are working out perfectly”. Using positive affirmations helps you to make better choices and see things from a different and more positive perspective.

team 7 we are brilliant and we have rocked this facilitation skill presentation.


We read this story of a ship that sank and how the characters at sea got split up.  In a small group we had to discuss each character and what we though of them, rather, how we rate them.  What was the most interesting thing is the fact that each person in the group had a different perception of those characters.

Life a lot the same, we might experience the same thing but we end up perceiving it completely different.  I think this is what makes the world such an amazing place, but also, unfortunately what makes it horrible at times.  I remember that at one point whilst we discussing these different characters in the group, I try to convince every one that they weren’t right.  But how dare I.  I mean, we all have had our own experiences in life and yes, maybe we perceive other’s actions a little bit different.  And that is exactly what makes us different.

I learnt a valuable lesson that day:

Embrace – do not try and change difference.

Just think, how great our country and our nation would be if we could all embrace and respect each others’ different perceptions.


Team 6 Presentation was so amazing, it made me realize that most people like to have  negative attitude  because they can and not feeling bad about it.

For example after the presentation we had time to read a story about the sailor. We were grouped in 4 and we had to decide who was the main character’s in the story and name them from 1 to 5. In my group they decided that the sailor was the guy and Ross made us realised that the gender that was mentioned in the story was the girl.

The Spiral Model

Sense, Select, Interpret, Feel, Assumption, Conclusion, Decision and Action

This Model simply explains that we turn to observe, judge based on what we decided and felt,  not having time to listen and get enough information before one can conclude.

I hope that i will be one of the good people who won’t be concluding without getting the full information.

looking forward to the next class


Today’s lecture was short but power packed for me. The passage we read was too vague and we had to judge the characters based on what we read. I had so much fun with the ladies in my group. It’s amazing how we as humans jump into conclusions and make a decision without having the full details of an event. I too am guilty of that…
Then there was the process of taking a decision. Its amazing how much goes on in ones head in such a short space of time. I am learning something new everyday in this lecture and it is so relevant to my everyday life. My mind has taken a radical shift about facilitation skills from the subject just being about points to graduate to wooooow one is being empowered here with vital life skills!!!

Power Of Perception – Seeing With New Eyes

This particular module and content of this module, has fascinated me deeply for a large part of my life. As an Ex professional to now only semi professional athlete, I’ve been confronted with the power of conception many a time throughout my career.  Perception and the power of the mind and how we use it, does not differ all that much when we compare the world of sports to that of the corporate and business world.  Sure some things like the sensation one feels might differ a bit, but some of the key elements of perception like motivation, expectations, culture, attitude, and emotions, still plays a big roll in all fields of life.

When looking at the group and the presentation that they did, I feel that the message did get transferred. i think that the goal that they wanted to achieve was achieved. they interacted well with the audience. Another thing that stood out for me was their time. The duration of the presentation. Not too lang nor too short. just effective.


Well done guys!