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Week 2 Setting Goals

Its the second facilitation class and we officially get introduced to the first team that’s brave enough to set the standard for everyone.

The theme this week is Setting goals, the team in coordinated outfits welcomes us and places us into teams for the session. Goals are often created in haste, under pressure or sometimes we simply forget to follow through on the goals we have set. As part of the facilitation I was reminded on how goals are set through the SMART formulae for goal setting. The facilitation was great as it made me reflect on some of the goals I had set and how I was doing on them, it further made me think about whether I had set my goals in a way that could led me success.

The smart formulae as shared by our facilitators was that goals needed to be specific, measurable,achievable, realistic and time bound. These parameters allow ones goal setting to be inline with their planning and with holding oneself accountable. I remember looking back on the goal I set for myself in 2015 which was to obtain Bachelors degree in Psychology and Management from Wits University within the period 2016 to 2019. In my final year I find myself smiling for having set a goal that I can measure.


This weeks take home for me is the lesson on how to set goals and how to always review where you are in reaching your goals, and as I reach some of my goals I’m goal setting through by adding new goals so I can continue to grow. I went back to the office and reminded my colleagues of the smart way of setting goals and how even though we are familiar with the process that we can always learn something new and review our own personal goals.

I believe each goal accomplished is another step closer to ones calling and purpose in life, so I personally celebrate old goals accomplished and new goals of the future.

Week 6: Honouring Differences

  • I was amazed by the group that was facilitating on the day. Their topic was well planned as they were able to incorporate the different traditional cultures where I now understand how culture differs. It was pleasing to see the combined effect and teamwork amongst the Honouring Differences team.
  • Another exciting thing is when I see each of them wearing traditional clothes from different cultural groups and try to demonstrate those cultures even though each of them espoused the other culture. It was such a wonderful experience and open-minded practical topic. I was very much happy and excited that all South African recognized culture was well represented and how they also explained the attitude and behavior. Unfortunately, it was bad for South Africa to remains as diverse as a nation hence we are called ourselves the “rainbow nation”. It was a well-researched and presented topic.
  •  I think as responsible parents we need to make sure that our children be allowed to attend government gatherings such as Heritage day in order to learn the different cultures and felt proud of their own history as a nation…and a rich dissimilar culture and heritage we carry.

Week 3: Working in Teams


On that week I was unable to attend the class due to unforeseen circumstances but one of my colleague (Mandy) share the information with me and I appreciate because it was so relevant to the advantage of working with team due to the fact that  I already enjoyed in the first week and it was easy for me to work successfully through teamwork. To work in a team-taught me that every human process is a key factor and it is very important to understand that people formed an organisation to accomplish the task to be performed by an individual and everyone will continue to be a challenge as long as people work together.  It is encouraging that when you are a facilitator, one should always embrace the following when working or facilitating a team:

  • Honour the wisdom of a group.
  • Encouraging trust in the capacity and experience of others.
  • Maintain neutrality during the facilitation process.
  • Practice self-assessment and self-awareness
  • Maintain an objective, non-defensive, non-judgemental stance
  • Act with integrity
  • Trust the process.

Setting Goals


Setting goals is a crucial part to ones success . It sets out targets , whether it may be short term or long term. It helps to create a drive in a person , giving the a sense of purpose. During the days facilitation class it was important to note that these goals or targets need to be SMART

  • S– Specific
  • M-Measurable
  • A– Achievable
  • R– Reachable
  • T– Time bound

It will take some commitment and discipline to reach these goals. It will indeed be a tough journey to achieve the goals you may have set out for yourself whether it may be in you career, schooling career, sports , weight loss journey however the effort you put in will indeed be worth it at the end. I’ve Read a quote the other day by Steve Garvey


In addition to the teachings from the facilitation class and the quote above,it gave me reason to re-evaluate my goals and set out new ones that will require me to use the SMART tool and to set out goals that are within my true Potential.

Setting Goals

For everything you want in life you prepare for it, have plans on what you going to do in order to get what you want. In other words we set goals for ourselves.

Setting goals is not simple. You need to have a plan, how are you going to execute that goal, have a time frame of how long it will take for you to achieve your goal. Bearing in mind that there are other factor that you need to consider, like checking if your goal is realistic? Can it be achievable? Is it relevant? All those things will pave a way for you to go on the right direction.

For many they fail to achieve their goals because they have set them too high and they fail to execute.

Goal setting

i think everyone understands the importance of setting goals but we often dont do it because it may be daunting or even just scary. Being scared of not reaching a set goal further put us off even setting the goal in the first place.

To be honest, I didn’t really gain any new skills as i am an SMART goals advocate and always drive this at work… what i did get from class though is that i am not the only one that struggles with proper goal setting. i also enjoyed being able to share my experiences and passion for the goals setting with my groups members. The class also just reiterated the importance of setting clear and achievable goals.

Setting goals is easy, setting specific and achieve goals is much harder… i heard so many stories in class around goals that were set but not achieved purely because it was actually not achievable in the first place…. On reflection it just made me think about the importance of proper goals setting, in the work setting, personal and societal setting. i think we, as human social creatures set ourselves up for failure more often than not and if we dont change that we will be in this continuous viscous cycle. once we achieve one goal we will have enough confidence to set another and another and another.

Setting Goals

One a upon a time, in a big city full of dreams, there was a beautiful woman whose life was changed. Although she always had this goal to better herself in life and at work through the challenges she has faced every day, never had she thought that one day she would become the thing she never thought she will ever get to be, a student…

And that is how I would like to start my first blog, dramatic, unexpected and confusing to me, anyway. I was excited the day I get to hold my student card for the first time and bragging to everyone that I have officially become a student at the age of 30eish. Don’t say it can never be done. But to top it all, arriving late at your first day of facilitation class was not really the best way to start it off though. I have missed the first class of introductions due to previous commitments. Can I just add how quickly all this happened, one day and I am applying for my BA degree with an institute that finally meets my needs as a part time student, and within 2 weeks, voila your enrolled and now attending class. Talk about big changes and how I need to adapt to these new short-term commitments. Moving along swiftly…

I quickly caught up with the topic of Goal Setting as we were given the word HEALTH to discuss within our little late comers group. One of the ways you can ensure to validate your goals is to use the concept of SMART. This easy to use tool is also a great way to outline the requirements within a project. I already new how it worked as I have seen it at my company when I did the fundamentals training on Six Sigma. What I never thought is how you can use this tool in your every day life. Because isn’t every day a project on its own when you have to wake up, get the kids ready, drop them off, go to work, manage not to loose it because of all of the workload, leave work, pick up the kids, make dinner, get the kids to eat the dinner, bath time, book reading time and then they go off to bed. Then you still need to manage to find the time you and your husband can spend quality time together and keep it sane at the same time because everyone wants your attention, but are you paying attention to yourself. So why not use this tool in your personal life. Use the everyday tasks as little goals and use SMART as your checklist, is it Specific, can your Measure it, is it Achievable, is it Realistic and have you applied timing to your goal.

So even though my first observations of this class were not that great, I figured that I need to look at this with an open mind. Balancing life with health, family and work is not easy, but we shouldn’t let it get us down. Use the resources that could prepare you for what’s to come so it doesn’t take you by surprise.

And she lived happily ever after… Are you kidding me, I can’t wait to see the next presentation for the following week.  So, I will close off my blogs with my favourite quote from “The Avengers” … I am inevitable… XoXo

Week 2: Taking Charge

So its not really week 2 but I need to compensate for the missed session right? here goes..
I’ve been doing a little reflecting and I’ve realized from interacting with the course-pack, seeing how the Facilitation Skills course is organized, that I have been fairly passive for most of my academic career. While I have earned the credits for the respective modules and progressed from level to level and course to course- I haven’t fully taken charge of my development as a student in the way that I’d like or perhaps in the way that I think I should have. I have sort of allowed the journey to consume me and drag me along, when its me who should be directing the tide, calling the shots so to speak..
themes I associate with my academics and academics in general are shame, performance anxiety, pressure (to know it all), time constraints…
This week has been an eye opener, this semester is jam packed and has required that I put in extra effort to finish my degree than I ever have..
I’m using apps, reminders, daily revision, extra reading, lecturer consultations and communication, participation and involvement in class, preparation all collectively in an effort to be better academically speaking.
the Aha Moment was on Tuesday evening when I was looking at my calendar for August. Seeing all my commitments, upcoming submissions and my time schedule for completing everything- It clicked that I’m in control- more so than I’ve ever been…

Setting Goals

One of the ground rules laid down by the lecturer was that we should all be on time before the presentations starts because the door will be locked once the presentation has started. I was glad that I made it on time. The first group that presented was excellent. They presented on setting goals and they were well prepared set a good  standard for all to follow.  They had a nice dress code and visual materials around the class. I was blown away by the order in which they arranged the groups. It was dynamic and very professional. The down side though was that some of them did not facilitate the groups very well by not giving direction but I guess it was their first experience and they did not know what to expect and how to manage the groups.

What I have learnt is that setting goals is very important in everyday life, even if they are short term or long term. Goals give direction and sense of purpose.  Accomplishing set goals takes a lot of self discipline and commitment. Goals must be SMART i.e. Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Time bound.        



First Class and Introduction

I was confused, what was going on in this class? (I asked myself). The Facilitator then divided us into groups of tens each. Each group was given a topic, wait for it… “we were told that we needed to prepare for presentations!” This was an unexpected notification, no let me rephrase this.. it was an instruction. Where do I begin with this task? I am afraid of public speaking and standing in front of people and address them. Where do I start?

Nonetheless, I met new people in my group. We engaged with each other and I found myself among new characters, young and old. This is interesting, I said to myself. With these new characters, what do we do to speak with one voice? being human, there was a lot of prejudging as well from my side of these new individuals I had met. Maybe they also did the same with me. As soon as we engaged…I knew that I had bad habits that I needed to work on and be a better person.

This was a learning curve for me.

Push…Let’s go!!


I am an introvert and walking into a class late filled with one hundred people did not help my nerves at all. After eventually finding a seat and having calmed myself down I felt more relaxed and in tune with the introduction then started scanning for familiar faces.

It’s tradition that when attending school we always sit behind our desks. “Sitting behind your desks will not be an option in this class” says Roslyn. We were instructed to sit in one big circle, when I thought that was the end of it we were then instructed to get up and find someone in class that is of the same age as us. I was forced to get out of my comfort zone, started approaching class mates that I have had zero interactions with, greeting them and asking them their age 🙂 need I say this was an excellent ice breaker, which was required. A Check in is what that exercise is called. Completing that exercise made me realise there are many other people like myself who felt a sense of awkwardness however when we started engaging with each other we all felt at ease. This is exactly how our approach to life should be, whether you are starting a new role in your career or making an informed decision to go back to studying after years of working. All you need to do is take it a step and a day at a time then with time, things do get better!

One other highlight for me was the importance of understanding the different learning styles and that as an introvert it is okay to not feel comfortable sharing my views in class however by choosing not to share those views I am depriving others the opportunity of learning from me. I have since started applying the principle of voicing out both in class and at work, especially for my daily morning meeting reporting. I have changed my perception about those meetings, instead of viewing them as personal attacks because that is what they were beginning to feel like, I started perceiving those meetings as an opportunity for my fellow team mates to help me come up with solutions for my work struggles and the only way to do that is by “challenging the status quo” as Simon Sinek explained in his YouTube Video. They can only help me by sharing their opinions. That change in mindset has since brought me peace of mind.

This was only day one of facilitation, I cannot wait to see what the other weeks have in store for me.


Goal Setting

The second phase of facilitation involved goal setting facilitation. the team having limited time to mix and understand one another was able to facilitate their piece successfully. the lesson learned included, goals must be clearly defined and measurable, realistic and attainable. that one must set time frames for which to achieve goals and different goal require different ways to achieve them. Lastly, its important to allow everyone an opportunity to participate in a group and that individual’s input within a group is just as important, including the input of the audience.Ultimately, facilitation is not about imparting information, but also getting information from others.

Setting Goals!

Today will be better, says I to the Universe! *While holding thumbs*

First and foremost, Roz said something during the course of the class that was so profound and resonated with me on such a personal level that I want to start today’s blog with it: –

Look for a pair of kind eyeballs and speak to them!

I cannot get over how much better I felt from then. It will now be my mantra, I will remember it always and use it in my daily life when I am feeling insecure and unable to cope!

I was so excited to see my fellow student’s first facilitation piece. They were thrown in the deep end and I just knew that they would do great. Thank goodness I only get to present on week 4!

Upon entering the class I get a number from the lady at the door and the first thing that I notice are the balloons! Yay! You can never go wrong with balloons. Everyone loves them. They automatically put me at ease. Today’s topic was about Setting Goals.

Their presentation is so well thought out. They used the catch phrase. Yes, yes, I know that most people think its overrated but this one worked. They used the word: “SMART”.

They used it in the sense so that it meant:-

S – Specific
M – Measureable
A – Achievable
R – Realistic
T – Time Bound

How clever was that! We were split into 5 groups where we were each given a letter out of the “SMART” word and we had to discuss the relevant word to the letter. We had to interact with one another and the members of the first facilitation group had to facilitate us. It was a wonderful learning experience and I think a major eye opener for me.

I sat there listening to everyone in my group discussing their goals and ambitions and I was clueless. I have all these wonderful ideas in my head about what I would like to achieve, but I never ever follow through. I now know, with all the clarity that I can muster, that I am, in fact, in the right place! I learn by sight and I believe that I am in good company! I will now take the time to think about it, set some goals and I will achieve them. This group has given me some of the tools to do so. They have made me apply my mind to relevant questions such as what would prevent me from achieving my goals and what I think I need to achieve them? I have never actually taken the time to dissect and answer those questions for myself. I am still a work in progress and I have time to set my goals and I will use the “SMART” method when making and achieving them!

We were also told what and would be expected of us in these blogs. Hopefully I am doing it right! LOL!

It was further explained how important these blogs are to the Final Reflection Essay I will have to write. The circle of learning was helpful as it explained how what we are learning will be useful and relevant in our lives.

We did a fun writing exercise where we could write for two minutes without punctuation and grammar. We were to write whatever came to mind at that time. I must confess, I struggled with the no punctuation and grammar rules, I am not great at it, but it is there for a purpose and I need it! I also realised just how much nonsense happens in my head when I least expect it. I wrote about rugby, food, cars, my children, fortnite, housekeeping, a family friend, the weather and even my mom who is currently on holiday in Dubai. I also know that my head works way faster than I can write.

On a side note: Roz asked the class whether we watched the video by Simon Sinek – The Golden Circle. Much to my horror only three of the class watched the video and I was not one of them. Not only could I sense the disappointment from Roz, I could feel the shame from all of us. Now, after watching the video, I wish I had watched it before the lesson. It would have made the lesson easier to follow and more easily understandable.

This weeks “takeaway”: Look for kind eyes and start by setting small, more achievable goals. My mother always says: – It doesn’t matter how to start your life, only how you finish it. Always watch videos and read articles which are referred to in the class. They wouldn’t be mentioned if they were not important.

During the coming week, I will make extra effort to: Read and write more!

Another thing…What you know is not the main thing. It is about what you do with what you know that counts?

Second week in class…..Setting Goals

It’s 8:35 am, I’m a tad late for my second class but I luckily made it before the team presenting do their check-in. I used the piece of paper that I received at the door, with the letter S on it to make my way to the S group, I made it despite my morning rush and I could comfortably sit and be present for class knowing that I reached my morning goal. I made it to class and ensured that my sons were sorted, prepared and made it on time for their soccer match at school.

Check in time then the presentation started…

The presentation was about Setting Goals. I was too nervous for the team that was presenting as they never had enough time to prepare. The team was orderly, presentable, calm and carried out the presentation well and I thought to myself …”wow this is fantastic, I’m going to enjoy my 2nd class.”

As mentioned in my first blog…this experience was my moment of enlightenment and mindset change. It changed my mind from how initially perceived my journey in the facilitation class. The negative experience I had in the first class escaped my mind and I wanted to be part of the class.

I learned more about the importance of setting goals and the five rules of setting successful goals i.e.


S – Specific
M- Measurable
A – Achievable
R – Realistic
T – Time bound

It dawned on me that we set goals in every aspect of our lives i.e careers, family, personal, friendship, business etc. We can categorise our goals into short and long term goals. Our goals have to be clear, realistic, precise and predefined in order to ensure that they are measurable, attainable, realistic, time bound. It dawned on me that in setting these goals there will be hindrances and set backs along the way but there is a way of working around them. What really matters is that the goal is precise and for a specific purpose (e.g my first experience in a big facilitation class didn’t hinder my goal of continuing to learn but instead enlightened me and I learned more about myself and different positive ways of looking at a situation that might have looked negative at the time.)

So my goal from that point onwards was to change my thoughts about my journey in the facilitation class, use this time and opportunity to learn as much as I can and apply my learnings going forward.

” If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

Wayne Dryer.

absenteeism and its results

Oh, what an experience! It is the second week of the Facilitation class yet the first time I attend the class. As I walk at the door, the lady gave me a piece of the paper written alphabet “T”, she just said Go and sit where there’s “T” that will be your group.
I was so confused did not even understand why the very same group table has a Spar restaurant balloon with alphabet “T”
I asked the lady who was sitting next to me that what’s happening, who is the lecturer here. I went to the lecture to ask for study material and to let her know that it is my first time today, and guess she gave me the study book and said I can sit down.
For me to settle down I had to listen attentively during the presentation and activities that were taking place in class but eventually I was ok and relaxed.

The group that was presenting spoke about the GOAL setting using SMART acronym which means that the goal must be specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and also ensure that the goals are timebound.
With my morning experience, I have learned that it is not good to be absent in class especially if it is your first time attending that particular class

Setting Goals

A friend of mine told me how interesting facilitation class was, so I couldn’t wait to experience that myself. Then I got to be on the first group to facilitate, I totally panicked but when I looked at the people around me, half of them were very happy to be the first group and I couldn’t understand because clearly my confidence level was not the same as everyone else. But because of positive attitude from my group members I managed to get on board.

Some how I felt the topic was talking to me because I realized that my goals are not as SMART as they should be, so because of the goal setting topic I had to sit down and fix a few things to make sure that my goals are clear and achievable. This was really an eye opener because I managed tosee what I am doing wrong and I am busy fixing it at the moment…

Setting Goals

Week 2 27 July 2019

Setting goals helped me realize the reasons that lead my goals to fail. For example, I would set an impractical goal and expect results without determination. The pass three years I have been running the Soweto marathon and would start working out two weeks before the race and expect to do well. Now on wards I have set my goal to complete the race regardless of finishing time. I have extended my distance, managed to transform my diet in time although is not that easy but I made the exertion. My attitude is positive to concur half marathon set out to take place in November.

Week 2 – Social Media

Okay, so I know we only need to do one blog post a week, but I think it would be unfair to have the facilitating pair go unnoticed. So, firstly, well done Loyiso and Franck! It must have been nerve wracking to go first, but you have set the bar high.

We were asked 5 big questions (I think):

  1. What is Social Media?
  2. Is WhatsApp considered Social media?
  3. Is social media important?
  4. How reliant are we on the information that social media gives?
  5. Why do we “share” things on social media?

and here are my answers, feel free to agree or challenge me!

1. WHAT IS SOCIAL MEDIA? – Websites and apps which allow users to create/share stuff. – Allows for online participation. – A tool for revenue and employment. – Eliminates geographical restrictions. – Facilitates the sharing of ideas and thoughts.

2. IS WHATSAPP CONSIDERED SOCIAL MEDIA? – Okay, so in class I was adamant that it was, but I’m a good listener and I understood the views of others and hereby retract my statement. No, WhatsApp is not social media but is rather considered a communication app.

3. IS SOCIAL MEDIA IMPORTANT? – In this day and age, yes, social media is extremely important.

Firstly, it is a way to eliminate geographical restrictions. My family originates from Northern Ireland and many of the older members prefer to communicate via Facebook. I have albums on Facebook and memorable pictures on Instagram which I want to share with my friends and family without giving them access to my Google Drive or Dropbox.

Secondly, social media forms an essential part of business marketing strategies. Almost every individual is, in some way, linked to some social media account and is active, potentially, every day. Businesses use social media websites and applications to advertise and promote their products.

Third, Fourth and Fifth… When your friends don’t reply to your text, you can greet them on Facebook. When you want to listen to music or see a music video from your favorite singer – go to YouTube. When you wake up, you don’t have to walk outside to get the newspaper, just take your phone and scroll your Twitter timeline then you’ll get the information

4. HOW RELIANT ARE WE ON THE INFORMATION THAT SOCIAL MEDIA GIVES? – In one word… very. Social media is a big part of our lives. I don’t think this needs much explanation and I’d be curious if anyone disagrees with me.

5. WHY DO WE “SHARE” THINGS ON SOCIAL MEDIA? – To bring valuable/entertaining content to others. – To get and stay connected to others. – To me, sharing is a form of “social currency” to help strengthen our self-image and self-esteem. Sharing a funny joke makes us look funnier, knowing what is happening in society makes us look cool or talking about new scientific discovery make us look more intelligent. We share things on social media so that we can shape the impression people form about us. People prefer sharing things that make them seem entertaining rather than boring, clever rather than dumb, and hip rather than dull. Individuals share so that they can ultimately gain positive feedback and therefore heighten their own perspective of self worth.

Week 2 – Facilitator as instrument of change

Roslyn said something great in class today…


8 words was all it took to confuse me even more. I have to admit, that when someone asks me, “What is Facilitation?”, I still cannot answer them. It has been 3 weeks of class and 2 weeks of blogging and I have spent hours doing research about what facilitation is and I’m still short of an answer. Currently, I’m sitting with the idea that facilitation is “a process that enables individuals and groups to improve the way they manage themselves, others and processes” (pg 50 – course pack), but I don’t like this. This is a generic definition that kids will write down in their books and parrot learn. Facilitation involves a large focus on group collaboration and participation, neither term forms part of the “supposed” definition. So, I stand firm in my statement that I do not like the definition of Facilitation and I think we need to find a new one.

Communicating via Social media-


It is the day of the presentation, 28th July. I have a cold which left me with no voice. I had a group of champions; they made sure I still felt as part of the group even though I could not speak.  Our chosen focus was to bring awareness on Pintrest. We used pictures to illustrate and the team members asked questions which allowed the class to engage. Our facilitation went well, as the feedback we received was good from the class.

In terms of presenting the topic, our group did not have major problems that through us off completely.  All in all, the presentation went well.

After we got into different groups from the ones we formed for presentations. We had to do a “Check- In” in our groups; the exercise helps to check the group’s atmosphere; in which we had to each introduce ourselves; it was difficult to do because we wanted to ask more questions as people were doing the introductions but had to remember that a ‘Check-In’ is not a conversation. It helps everyone have a chance; not only the loud ones to be heard. We then did a tool that would be useful for a meeting; to help solve in terms of conflict- The Balcony Dance. This helped me realize that sometimes you must remove yourself from the situation in order to asses it from all perspectives (Balcony view); instead of one (the dance floor).

A good team makes a big difference in what you achieve and that is achieved when everyone in the team has a fair chance to participate.


Facilitation on another level!

I got my course pack as i arrived for my first class, first page spoke directly to my anxiety “What if what unites us is more than we realise….. and what divides us is less than we fear” for me, this was a thought provoking quote and it hit home. it made me realise that Fear is a lack of knowledge. If people were to truly get to know the other, whether they be of any background, or continent for that matter, they would realise that in most cases there is nothing to be afraid of, and that there is a lot more that unites us than divides us. in this day i was united with fellow students who are doing facilitation skills as i am and i realised that the anxiety i had was just the fear of the unknown and lack of knowledge.

Class commenced, the day’s theme was “facilitator as instrument of change” there about 5 stories to have been read before attending class, which i did not learn as this was my first class. the facilitator was kind enough to let us read in class and discuss them amongst ourselves(groups of five students) who are the facilitators in the stories?, what is the current situation and the desired state?, what do facilitators do to create change?, what do the facilitators NOT do?, and lastly, what are their qualities?. the audience cooperation and engagement was superb, my fellow classmates were well informed and even had a few phrases (like doldrums and cocooning which i knew nothing about) mentioned here and there during the conversations (i must admit, i got a little jealous).

in this session, i learnt that my perception on facilitators was wrong! actually, facilitators are different from the teachers and preachers which i assumed they were the same. facilitators enable self actualisation, they are more of leaders than managers, they do not impose their ideas on people and they use strategies to send the message across the audience, lastly, they do NOT provide answers to the questions, instead they give the audience a chance to figure things out by posing thought provoking questions and statements, and this was and AHA moment for me and i took this insight in serious cognisant.

Communicating via social media

What an amazing take off by the group!

They were the first to facilitate and truth is, they shined and outdone themselves. Truthfully, a precedence of high standard was set. They left a lasting impression and helped some of us to explore various ideas.

Their presentation on communicating via social media and how massive and popular it has become; made me to be open minded and realise that the world has evolved over a period of time. I learnt about Pinterest, which I always heard about and saw but didnt pay attention to it unlike your Twitter,Instagram, Facebook etc. Its a lesson that one has to be broad minded and explore other avenues.

Afterwards we did the “check in” exercise, where I had to introduce myself and give a brief to the group about who is Alice. Fortunately, it wasnt a big group which then created a safe and comfortable space. From that point, I appreciated life even more when I realised that we’ve all had our fair shair of hard lesson in life…and still, we rise. What a bunch of beautiful people there was in my group!

What topped it all, was learning about looking at things from a balcony perspective while on the dance floor💃💃.


Remember, I mentioned that I joined the class on this day.  For other people this was the second class, for me it was the first and I was late 🙁

I entered the room, breathing heavily because it took very long for me to find the venue.  As I entered, I wasn’t  of what was happening.  I just saw a group of 4/5 people at the front.  Only later I have realized that, this was the group presenting about Facebook, twitter, whatzup etc.

They have done their homework about what they shared, but since it was my first class, I wasn’t sure of what the purpose of those presentations were.

Good Morning and Welcome

So today my group did the facilitation piece on “Communicating via Social Media”. We had less than a week to prepare and we only met twice, so it goes without saying that we were somewhat apprehensive.
Standing in front of a room full of people is quite daunting and it made me realise that preparation is very important.Knowing how you are going to kick off your presentation, and watching the audience for cues as to whether they are with you is critical.
I really feel that as a group we come together and achieved some of the objectives of the presentation.We also had FUN and enjoyed working as a team.
The feedback from Roslyn and our class mates was important.I think the feedback has provided us all with some insights into what to consider and perhaps do differently if we ever find ourselves having to facilitate either at work or in our own personal spaces.
My aha moments from today’s class was also how a check in is important, and I also found the balcony and the dance a critical component of today’s class.
I know that I will apply the balcony and dance in future especially in my work environment. I believe it will give me a different perspective on what is happening in the space I find myself in. It will provide me with the ability to use what I observe in assisting myself and my work colleagues to reach a deeper understanding.

Story telling

As preparation for this session we were asked to read a number of stories in our study guides.  When we got to class there was further group discussions on our understanding of the stories we read.  The focus on each was centred around identifying the facilitator in the story as well as identifying what the situation was and the desired outcome. I found this technique to be quite fascinating.  There is something about telling a story in order to get a certain message across.  As the listener you get transported to a place you probably have never been.  Your presence and stay there is however informed by how the story is related.  This I found to be so true in the stories that we read.  I never knew that story telling could have such a profound impact on one.  I found this to be quite fun and adaptable.  It was a great learning that I had probably used before but not even being aware that I was doing so. Going forward I decided I would be making a conscious decision to apply this technique and see where it takes one.  I really enjoyed this session especially its practicality.

Social Media

The first group to facilitate on social media. Brave soldiers who went out blind and came up victorious. My interest in Pinterest has been peaked.

Another thing to remember is that what goes down in facilitation stays in facilitation.



Pinterest Boards

Paris Board


Place : Wits Uni- After Facilitation Class @ 13h00. 21 July 2018

Team Awesome decided to meet immediately after class to choose a topic to facilitate. Whats app group is already in place, so we connected.

Social Media is so broad yet some platforms are not as popular as other. We decided that we would like to teach people about a newer platform called Pinterest.

Each group member was assigned a specific task and we met during the @ Place: Wimpy on Empire Road  @21h00 .24 July 2018 to discuss what we have so far and the tools we can employ to facilitate . 

The creative juices were flowing and the group dynamics were good as every voice was heard. Every voice was important and everyone was included and given a safe space to express themselves.

Saturday : The stage is ours . With our groups in circular groups and the team members spectral across the class we start out objective of sharing knowledge to the class of how to communicate via Pinterest.

The class is attentive and seem to be enjoying as each group member engages .  The best part was when we start engaging with the pictures(tools) hidden under the desks and  requesting the class to  pin them on different boards too express their interests.

At the end of the class it was great for some of our classmates to come to us and let us know that they will be checking out Pinterest and that they enjoys out Facilitation

My highlights and learnings was :

Group work is hard however can be productive and rewarding when each group member is valued and given space to express themselves.

How we perceive things is different?

Its is very important to have clear objectives upfront and ensure that you realise them.

You have to get buy in from your audience to keep the facilitation sessions engaging .

Overall I think my group rocked and we have set the bar high. Hope Roslyn feels the same too.






This class particularly stood out for me. Not for the topic but the courage of my colleagues who grappled with their obligation, almost flawlessly. They were the first group to facilitate a presentation and we all learned from them. They, indeed, set the benchmark very high. The standard of their performance helped every team perfect the art of facilitation. I would like to express my sincere gratitude for their remarkable efforts. They really brought out the best in all of us!


So week 2 here we are So the first group kicked of their facilitation and am sure it was not easy considering the little time they had to prepare, but in the ended they pulled it off. There are various platforms in which we communicate via social media and the group took us through various platforms that we all know and some we didn’t know about like Pinterest.
My first learning was the difference between facilitating and presenting. Facilitation is about drawing out rather than putting in, create an environment that gets people thinking, questioning, and processing information. Asking questions as opposed to giving answers. Giving and receiving feedback was something was able to understand better.
What I learned from that class is how we communicate to each other is very important , listening to what other people have to say and allowing the other to speak before responding , that way when you respond you know the type of response you will give, It also shows respect for the other person that you payed attention.
We also looked at:
The stretch zone – where one’s stress levels are slightly higher than normal to maximize performance.
The balcony and the dance. – A concept developed by Berry to be used when in a difficult situation. Then a facilitator can say: can we all go on the balcony and look at what is going on the dance floor.

Communication via social media

So it’s the second week of class and I’m still not sure what it’s all about. I’m scared for the group that’s facilitating today as they’re going first. I’m scared for them because I doubt any of us are sure at this point what is expected of us in these facilitation pieces.

They chose to teach us about Pintrest which happens to be be one of my favourite platforms. They did a good job  explaining what Pintrest using various tools. They surprisingly kept us engaged throughout the session which I thought would be difficult with a group that didn’t know what was expected of them or what to expect.

At least I left class with a bit of an idea of how our group can structure our facilitation piece.


The Balcony and the Dance

When I first came in to study this course, I didn’t have any expectations, it was for a mere purpose of adding an elective that will add up points towards getting my qualification. Little did I know that it is such an interesting course and not only interesting but life changing too. I would say life changing because it enriched my perception about people. It has certainly contributed to the little changes that I now apply to my day to day interactions with people.

Instead of arguing or getting into a dialogue when there is a disagreement with the people that I interact with. I now apply the balcony and the dance floor principle. I just step onto the balcony and look at a situation from a different angle. When I get back to the dance floor I have a different perspective from what I observed and able to take the conversation to a different level.

Communicating via Social media

Today was the day my group had to facilitate and I was nervous. It was the biggest challenge I had, because we were given a week to prepare and we were the first group to facilitate. Our topic was Communicating via Social media, and we decided to use a social medium, called Pintrest as an example of a platform that provides communication compared to other social media.

At the end of our facilitation, we received more positive feedback than we expected. This taught me the value of team work, how important it is to listen to people’s ideas, and working together with people, Another valuable thing i grasped was how to reflect on my actions and check in. i believe this will teach me in my career and personal life, on how to make rational reflection of my actions to be able to improve and progress.

Story telling

Story telling has been a part of humanity since ancient times. Africans used to gather around fire and and share stories. Grandparents used to tell tales to their grandchildren. Story telling is a form of art and spirituality as it passes down information from generation to generation. We must never stop telling our stories but we must do so in our own terms

Communicating Via Social media

It was eye opening to know different kinds of communications that can be utilized for different objectives. I know most of them but didn’t have enough information about Pintrest. I didn’t know that you can share your hobbies or interest via it and gain more information about certain hobbies foods etc through it.

The world today can minimize time between people irrespective of time differences between states and distances as well. People can on same understanding or knowledge irrespective of background or country of origin


My second week I had to come very early to school as were going to facilitate, we had to meet as a group to put final touches to our facilitation. It was a very stressful day for me as it was my first time to facilitate, to make it worse we were the first group to facilitate. I was very nervous and was not sure if was going to pull it off. Well got to class set up the classroom and did our facilitation. To my surprise I did more than I thought I would as I was nervous and I am not really a public speaker. I was very impressed with myself.


A week later after introduction to the facilitation skills, my syndicate group had to facilitate on week2 on the topic communication via social media. With literally a week, we had to pull workable strings to make it happen. The challenge was that being the first group to facilitate with no full understanding of facilitation approach and framework, we had to rely on research and the reading provided. The day came and indeed we gave it our all, and there were deltas and plus from our audience which we have taken seriously. Should one turn the clock, the approach would be very different. In my view we have done what we could with the capacity and resources at our disposal. It was indeed a great day.

Chaos Ensues

Welcome, we are live on social media. Let’s chat!

First, boundaries, shall we? “Speak from the eye (I), remember; “the success of any intervention relies on the interior of the intervenor”, when it’s over it’s over”, in the simple tongue of the queen it’s three rules: listen, respect, and suspend judgement. If you wanna take it to the Lord, do unto others as you will them do unto you! Let’s engage…

Who are you?                                                                                                                         
Hau?! Ros, it’s only the second week. Why are you getting deep?! What brought you here?                                                                                                 
Heh? Aa ausi, o serious?                                                                                              Not a conversation. 5 minutes to answer the question. Tell us more until your time is up. No feedback!                                              Yhu! Ku rough mos la.                                                                                                       
Your time begins now… (she starts the red dripping clock)                            I am Rethabile, a lover of words and a forever learner…

So, here we are; round robin and corn popping, checking in and dancing and every now and then stepping up on to the balcony. We are breaking the ice and learning to skate. The chaos ensues!

Deltaplus: relief. group 10 is no longer being separated or incorporated with the morning class. phew! downer. 2 of our members have left and started with a new group. nooooooooo!

Check-in: anxiety from group uncertainty. hella nervous and uneasy taking in new members, how will they be, what issues. Nkosi yam, I am tired of these group situations. expanding the group makes me uncomfortable.

I am watching Group 2 learn to swim in the sea. My heart wants for more and it’s left there. How to communicate this unmet expectation? Lessons on giving feedback. Wow, are we wired to note down only the bad? What of our triggers? Maybe this class has a point after all.

Today’s lesson: be reminded of your own humanity. what you say of another is so too a reflection of yourself. remember kindness. be honest and authentic. And “when you are talking to a group of a large audience, look for a pair of kind eyeballs.

give and gravitate towards kindness.


Communication via social media – 28 July 2018

How can I use social media (Blogs) positively when I do not know much about it? 

The group that facilitated on this day really researched this topic. The key take away here was leaning what different social platforms and their uses. Social media bring different and immediate means of sharing information and teaching practice.


Information is ever changing and evolving so, we need to be open to different learning techniques. Learners are different and have different learning preferences.


Readers can read and interact by giving feedback in Blogs meaning there is a lot of interaction, which helps, in deep knowledge. Blogs can provide an alternate venue for students to share their ideas especially those that prefer not to speak in class. Facilitators or Professors can use this platform to outline course outline, course information, scheduling information, research, homework, etc.


“Social media is a new form of communication and consists of a variety of commutation tolls such as, blogs, collaborative projects, social networking sites, content communities and virtual world” (Kaplan and Haenlein, 2010). I found this link very useful in understanding why academics should use social media for communication.

Self-reflection – Week 2

Kudos to the first group.

They did the best they could considering the little time they had to prepare for their facilitation, they didn’t have enough time to prepare.

Even though their topic was fairly easy because it was about Social Media and majority of the us was familiar with the topic however some of the audience were not familiar with other social networks like Pinterest, WeChat amongst others – It was an eye opener for me because I took it for granted that everybody is familiar with all social platforms available that took over our lives. The only thing that was missing for me were the disadvantages of social media, less was mentioned.

What stood out for me it’s when we did an exercise about the Check-In.

As a person who leads a team, often times I am required to do self-reflection, check-in on myself to see if I am meeting the needs of my team members and if I’m holding the end of the bargain. I must say that it is not an easy exercise to follow through given of the number of people within the team.

The purpose of check-ins is to bring concerns and issues into the open during huddles and/or formal meetings and be in a position to say what’s on your mind without having any reservations. It is about having open discussions in a group and taking into consideration that we all have different views.

Communicating via Social Media

Group 1 facilitated under the topic “Communicating via Social Media” and I was very impressed with how prepared they were, especially because they only had a week to prepare.  Not to mention they were going to be the very first team to do this exercise.

This group focused on Pintrest, which I was really excited about since I did not know much about this social media application.  I liked the idea of using pictures and getting us to try and figure out where they belonged.

I got to learn how to register to have an account (or profile) on this App and how it generally works.  The idea behind it is interesting to me and I did not understand that this was also considered a communication and learning tool, used around the world.

I have since downloaded the App on my phone and have been very impressed with it generally.  I have gotten so many wedding decoration ideas for my big day, which is a couple of months away.

Week 2 – The Balcony and the Dance

Last week after being split into groups, each group was given a topic which they would need to research and present on each week. Today the first group presented, their topic was social media (they chose Pintrest as their topic) and they were apparently exceptional! Unfortunately I didn’t get to see the presentation as I was late again! The group that presented really got my team mates shook, it is our turn to present next week and everybody is in a panic about how good this group’s presentation was, everyone but me.

I am panicked, but not about how the great the other group was, I am actually glad that I missed the presentation otherwise I was going to be as worried as everyone else. My only worry is how am I going to speak in a room full of people.

Anyway class carried on, today we spoke out about a lot of things including check-ins and check-outs, the importance of setting expectations, principles of engagement and the stretch zone.
What really stood out for me from today’s class was the exercise about the balcony and the dance, I say that because I personally dwell so much on things happening around me and most times miss the bigger picture focusing on smaller details. I learned the importance of stepping away from what is currently happening around you and assess the situation from the outside and see how much perspective you can get from doing that. The balcony and the dance has opened my eyes, and from now on when things start to get overwhelming I am going to step away a little and try and look at things from a different perspective.

Communication via Social Media

Another day, another Facilitation Class. Walking through the door, my mind is busy trying to figure out what the 1st presenting had to offer. I sympathized with not knowing that being the first group to facilitate.

The group introduced me to the world of Pinterest.

Image result for Communication via media pinterest

I must be honest, when the presenting group mentioned their topic “Communication via Social Media, a few things came to my mind. i.e. Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

The group was well prepared. I enjoyed their team spirit and learned a lot of things from them. I must say the whole presentation was more real and factual. I added their presentation onto my list of interest things that encourage me to attend the Facilitation class.

I just could not wait to get home and google search Pinterest from the internet and get more details about Pinterest.

Yes, I must admit, we learn every day of our lives. Well done to this group for paving way for the rest of us who were still to present. Thumps up, guys!

Image result for Finger sign showing well done

The power of story telling

The Power of Story telling

Story is often used in the corporate world as a tool for influence. And for good reason. From a facilitation  point of view, Story can:

  • awaken the leadership potential in everyone
  • create the frame for collective action
  • share the vision and journey
  • illuminate mission, vision, values, and ethics
  • Strengthen the collective field within a group and make “safe enough” spaces to show up firmly, allow the dissenting voice to be heard and enable the hard conversations.

Stories are a potent support in positive change making and positive agent for facillitation.  They carry more weight than facts. We seem to be mesmerized by stories of violence, fear, anger and war. Stories can also be used to help us grow courage, collaboration and connection. It all depends on what we use them for. They can be used for developing potential for positive change

A story of Shaka Zulu (the Zulu warrior).  He changed a long spear to short spear. He had strong and binding values. He did not discriminate and lots of tribes wanted to be part of the Zulu nation. We have learnt from this story that a warrior persevere even in difficult times. And that a resilient community is not the community with more resources, but the one that’s more connected.

Creating spaces for people to meet and share their stories of work, learning and life is an important ingredient in strengthened relationships that lasts. We all have challenges. We all have coping strategies. We all have hopes and dreams, fears and frailties. Listening to others helps us to make sense of the wonderful or frightening mess we find ourselves in. Hearing how others cope encourages self-responsibility and action.

The understanding and community feeling that arises from storytelling can build the foundation for a positive future. “The power of Storytelling”



It was so interesting the second time in facilitation class and there was order. The group facilitated on social media and they did a wonderful job. Our lecture then unpacked the feedback and gave us methodical tips on how to become a great facilitator. She was able to distinguish between facilitation and presentation and gave us clarification on how to define the two.

Personally I like check in as it does not require any comment, validation or approval. You just report that you have arrived and I love it. We discussed also Managing Situations, The Balcony And The Dance, Stretch Zone, Principle Of Engagement, Check Out and Setting Expectations. To some I know it’s like am talking Spanish but I have learned also. I guess is true knowledge is power.

Communicating Via social Media.

This week taught me a lot about not just how to communicate with others but also my own self.  this was the first time groups had to present and us to give feedback, it made me realize that am too much a fan of Critique more than just feedback. I realized that I am so accustomed to always looking at and for  faults that I hardly compliment or acknowledge hard work.

A lot of people were commenting the group on how they managed to come up with such a great piece given the little time they had and I was sitting there thinking but they should have do such and such and didn’t. now after a few weeks I can safely say credit was due they set the bar high.

Communication via Social Media

So the first group kicked of their facilitation and am sure it was not easy considering the little time they had to prepare,  but in the ended they pulled it off. There are various platforms in which we communicate via social media and the group took us through various platforms that we all know and some we didn’t know about like pintrest. I like how the lady explained what the platform is about and how it can be used and what different features it has and that it’s not about your everyday socializing it’s more about sharing ideas.

What I learned from that class is how we communicate to each other is very important , listening to what other people have to say and allowing the other to speak before responding , that way when you respond you know the type of response you will give, It also shows respect for the other person that you payed attention. I must say my listening skills have improved as don’t listen to respond , I listen to understand.

Week 2: Communicating via Social Media

The first group to facilitate presented on communicating via social media, they selected Pintrest. I thought they shared a lot of information because I too believe not a lot of people use this particular social media. To be presenting first I thought they set the bar really high and the groups to follow had to also work hard. Group 3 was next, I remember feeling the pressure. there was no time to be mediocre.  During week 2, it all changed for me. I realized Facilitation Skills was not  just about points for me. Roslyn asked us to write down what we are hoping to walk away with. This made it real for me, it changed my perspective and I was ready to put it the work to actually realize my desired outcomes. During this facilitation session we also touched on Personal Mastery. What I loved most about this session, which is something we have done continuously throughout my working career is “check in”. I didn’t realize this was purposefully done and there was a point to it. I know that I enjoyed how my colleagues were doing and sometime you would realize that we are going through the same feelings without knowing it. I have also learnt the importance of setting expectations. I am expected to facilitate a lot of meetings in my career and I believe I will be able to heighten my counterparts attention, they will know what to expect and focus on what I am sharing. My AHA moment for this day was learning about “the stretch zone”. I have previously referred to the comfort zone. Understanding the process was very interesting. I prefer being in the stretch zone rather than doing what I know on a daily. In this way I know my brain is learning and I discover new ways of doing things.

Communicating Via Social Media

The second facilitation class was not a good one because my anxiety levels went up the roof. I started to worry, could not concentrate and had thoughts about deregistering the module.Walking into class I was very excited and looking forward to the 1st group’s facilitation, to get pointers and learn about the difference between facilitation and presentation. The class started off immediately with the group doing their facilitation and I must say I was nervous for them because they literally had a week to prepare. I must add, having had such little time and being the first , they did well and it was amazing how 30 minutes of facilitating went by so quick.

Then came the feedback session, I think it was a learning curve for most of us. Feedback is neutral, one does not necessarily have to keep saying ‘positive feedback or negative feedback’.  After the feedback we had to rotate groups. Now this group rotation, discussions and giving feedback was getting to me; I just wanted to get out. I’m used to structured learning, so this was new to me and I’m not a big fan of group work.

At the end of the day, there was a lot I learnt on the day, things I could apply in my life, personal or work. I learnt about the importance of check-in , a check-in is not a conversation, only one person speaks at a time and nobody asks any questions or makes any comments. This I find its difficult to do because whenever people speak, we already have questions in our heads and when we stop them to ask a question we lead them on a path. What Roslyn said was that whenever you have questions inside your head, it means you are not listening to the other person but rather to the voices inside your head.

“The Greatest Gift You Can Give To Anybody Is To Let Them Tell Their Story Uninterrupted”


Week 2_Communication Through Social Media

Please don’t get/be offended as I write…

I am not a fan of Pinterest, I think it is a completely fictitious app, created with the intention of allowing the user to enter into a space of far fetched DREAMS and DEEP unrealistic imagination.

Mostly renders and prototype jpg’s ie. not realistic images. A place where one’s imagination can run wild in the form of ‘pictures’, creating a mood board of ENDLESS impossibilities…this is what I got from the lady whom presented and chose to speak about her favorite Social Media app, interesting…I thought but not my fave.

From the presentation this day, I learnt that majority of the time FaceBook will be used by the older folk. An interesting phenomenon as I would have thought that it would be an all around liked app since it was one of the very first social apps to have been launched by ol’ Mark Zuckerberg. I learnt another interesting fact that, Instagram interestingly enough in fact the more preferred application to use where younger crowds are concerned.

Twitter is an app that one would use to get a quick message out, perhaps a juicy piece of news that can’t wait until the ‘8 o’clock or ‘prime time’ news hour to get out…lol. It is the social media platform that perhaps politician and celebs would use to air a quick thought or view that they had swirling around their heads at a particular time and so on.

Whatsapp, is the MOST loved social app…most of all its FREE!

Research shows that anyone simply loves ‘free goodies’

From this presentation, I learnt that it is important to keep your audience engaged and eyes locked on you at all times. Its important not to lose your audience by not sticking to the topic at hand, perhaps writing key notes down as one is presenting a facilitation lecture or session another person can write down your key notes for you as member of the audience engage with whom ever is talking.

…This was me standing on the balcony, looking in.

Thank you.










Week 2 – Comunication Through Social Media

So as a group we got quite far in terms of what direction we were going to take re the facilitation then we were told that the group will now be joining the other group and we were now being split up. That was rather disappointing considering we already started discussion and made arrangements where and when we were going to meet. It was becoming frustrating because I figured all of this was resolved in week one. I guess I moved to the balcony and I tried to understand that it was a large group and the facilitator was trying her best and what would I have done if I was in that situation. It helped me being more understanding towards the situation I guess. Some time later we were then told that we can get back together as the original group and by then most of the other members had already joined other groups. More members were added who joined class later. I think at this point I surrendered to the fact that nothing is constant and I should learn to adapt to a ever changing environment which is not easy for me because if I know the “rules” of the game then I can anticipate the moves and I can achieve the goal. All these changes seemed like a setback, a constant hindrance but in effect that was the lesson for me. The lesson was letting go of the outcome and to experience the journey. I think at that point I became more of an observer just watching how things unfold and if shit happens then it happens.

We were doing communication through social media and I found it quite powerful they way Telfa (shine) facilitated the group. Even though the topic was about social media I really learned a lot about facilitation. It was the way how he did got the message across. He assumed nothing and asked questions to get a feel of where everyone. He listened and understood what the issues were and tried to address them. He managed his time by addressing more serious problems after class, which were exceptions rather than what everyone was experiencing. I’m not sure what it was specifically but it felt different. Maybe because I was expecting a teacher student experience but it felt more collaborative.

Communicating via social media

Yep, one chose to be in the morning class and yes we were there right on time; just before the door closes. The first group delivered their facilitation with only a week to prepare, the extra mile they took to put this together, we applaud them. Who thought social media has so much power; power to influence or make an impact in the society; power to sell yourself as an entrepreneur; power to shape the world. Understanding the importance of asking for audience expectations as one of the facilitation tool that one can use to measure their success; to clear out assumptions; and moreover to understand people’s expectations.

I was happy to learn that most of our facilitation do not start off well because we fail to check in with everybody, to establish whether they are ready for this physically; emotionally; psychologically;  socially; just to tune their minds into the task of the day. What about whoever came for your facilitation, were the right people to come; what happens during the session, was the right thing to happen. Checking out, in some sessions lots of stuff can be discussed and shared, it is our individual responsibility to check out and not disclose what transpired when its over.

The stretch zone – let us continue to stretch our own limits. Finally one gets the importance of No-tables and lots of movements, solely to understand and develop our  interaction with different people at different settings and being able to contribute to different discussions at hand.

the balcony and the dance floor

i am one of the  few people in the world  today who does not have a profile in all the social networks i am talking about Facebook,whats app ,twitter ,Instagram  you  name them i do not have a profile and to be honest i have never seen what the fascination with social media was about  i guess am old fashioned  cause  i do not  even own a smartphone  which make it difficult for people to communicate with me  especially in a world where no one buys airtime anymore  on top of that am on the MTN friends say that a conversation with me is like buying petrol i am expensive to communicate with. week 2 of the  facilitation presentation  was  about social media a subject i know absolutely nothing about ,it was interesting to learn facts about social media  so big ups to the group i found the  information very informative.

after the presentation we got to discussing stuff like managing situations, the principles of engagement ,building a safe environment  and the stretch zone to name a few but am not going to go into details about those topics .what i am going to talk about though is the balcony and the dance floor, i feel like the balcony situation very relevant to a person like me who isn’t into social media  what i mean is ,the  whole concept of the balcony is based on participation within a group and observing the group as a whole thereafter  removing yourself from the group and seeing the group  with a clear under standing  of the balcony.

in the world today it is  rear to find anyone who does not own a smart phone or who isn’t on social media and then there is me who doesn’t have  either of those things,so i have heard to step out of my comfort zone,the comfort zone being the dance floor  and remove my self from society to see it with clear eyes  ,the view that i got from standing in the balcony was that the world is moving and social media is a big part of the world and i am  not moving  with the world  as a result am trailing behind everyone else because everyone is in-tuned with what is happening around them ,with me any information i get is secondhand  information so i decided that i need to take it upon myself to change and move at the same pace with the world .that’s what  being  in the balcony  has taught me ,though i am not ready to transition into the world of technology what i can say is it  fascinating  to see the world through  another’s eyes  .

Social Media / Managing situations

The 2nd week was much calmer as things were in place and most importantly there was order.

The first group facilitated on the “Social Media”, and they did quite well. They focused on Pintrest and I learned a few things from their facilitation.

Roslyn unpacked the topic “Managing Situations” and she focused on:

The Check In: What I took out of this, is the genuineness that goes with it. It also helps with knowing how interested people are in ones life.

Setting expectations: I learned a lot from this one. I had to make decisions while in class to avoid assumptions and being disappointed. I also learned to ask people what they understand or  expect from me.

Principles of engagements:(I loved this one). This changed the way I view communication altogether mainly because I used to be too casual when I engage with people. Now I am more intentional, mindful, open minded and sometime curious without stepping the boundaries. I am grateful to Roslyn for recommending “Leadership in the new Science book By Wheatley, Margaret J

Building safe environment: This one really did set me free hahahahaha. I am effectively using the law of two feet. I am now learning to be at peace with a lot of things and I no longer force things or people just so that I can have my way. I adopted the principles/ conditions for creating an open space (Whoever comes are the right people, Whatever happens is the only thing that could have, Whenever it starts is the right time and When it’s over, it’s over) “Riding the tiger by Owen Harrison“.

The stretch-zone: This one is a wakeup call to step out of the comfort zone.

The balcony and the dance: Here you have to step out of the balcony into the dance floor to get the hang of things.

I would and am going to use these principles and lessons in my Marriage, family, relationships and business.

I was truly looking forward to the next class :-)..




Getting social with Pinterest

The online landscape is constantly changing and with new social networks springing up almost daily, we are spoilt for choice on which ones to subscribe to.

In this class, the group chose to deviate from the expected focus on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, and take us on a visual journey through the land of Pinterest.

We were asked to match images of food, clothing and vehicles  to countries that were known for these items after discussing it within our groups.

An interesting learning for me from this exercise is that the presenting group was able to create a social experience for us, without the use of any technology, by recreating a social platform in the classroom.

It just goes to show: Communicating on social media is easy, and you don’t have to be online to do it!


Communicating via social media

Second week of class, I went in anxious to see how and what the group presenting was going to do. Bearing in mind how the previous class is so interactive, I was determined to participate and voice out my thoughts.
The group did a fine job in their presentation and I got a clear picture of the task at hand, with our group being the next in line to present. The group presented on communicating via social media. During the presentation I discovered a social media platform (pinterest) which I was unaware of and got interested to learn more about it. I liked the fact that we are also able to score the group on their performance.
Later, we got into random groups and did the check-in. This was a fine opportunity to discover personal details about one another. So it is true when they say, you can’t judge a book by its cover.

I also found the four principles and one law to be quite interesting and so practical in my life. Sometimes things happen in my life and I wouldn’t even know the cause or reason. With this principle I will rest assured that all that happens, is the only thing that could have happened.

The stretch zone exercise was key for me, because I find that it  is true that people who like to function in comfort zone, have the least chance to grow and achieve their goal.

I enjoyed the day’s learning.

Week 2 – Communicating via Social Media

The 2nd week was very interesting  as the 1st group was doing their facilitation piece and their topic was social media and they narrowed it down to Pinterest. I was fascinated by their topic as i had no idea what Pinterest was,however by the end of their piece i had gained so much knowledge about Pinterest.

After the group had done their facilitation piece we got into groups and did our check- ins.  I discovered that the purpose of this section is to bring everyone’s focus into the room and establish the collaboration boundaries, so that right from the start we are all clear on what we expect of each other, and what we expect from the session.

I enjoyed the check-in as i got a chance to get to know my fellow classmates on a more personal level, and what was more interesting about my group is that we got to debate on about a few issues affecting our lives, it was a whole lot of fun.

Facilitation for early birds – Week 2

Wakey wakey. On the second Saturday I arrived beforehand and there was already another group from my class waiting to do facilitation on communicating via social media specifically Pinterest. The class listened attentively and there I was observing in silence,  impressed by how interactive and  well prepared  they were about their topic. I learnt a lot about Pinterest. Everything was precise and fun.

The group did questions instead of statements they asked us about different countries, food and clothing. remember  answering  one or two about Cape Town and Italy. Oh boy there was also an “Oprah moment “where the facilitators asked us to look under our tables and tell the class which food was pasted on the piece of paper. I have to admit though for a moment there during the”Oprah moment” I thought to myself yesssss prizes. Oh well I guess facilitation is a bit different. When the group was done we proceeded with more exercises.


So I got to learn the importance of understanding ones objectives. How as a facilitator you play around with time ,how asking questions unlock the brain. We had to do a quick Check in to assess how each group was feeling by showing of thumps up or down and also share our brief life stories. Basically a check in is not a conversation because you are not allowed to ask questions or comment. I have to admit a quick check in is my favourite now , I even at my work place. Another exercise which I think will be helpful when we are doing our group facilitation was learning the value of setting expectations, for example :

·You focus on what you want to achieve
·It assist you with planning
·It get you the desired result
·You are able to measure your success

Anyway I’m looking forward to our group Facilitation without technology. Hope to see you there😊

Facilitation Skills – BLOG 2

This week was the first week that we got to witness a group facilitating, group one topic was on “communicating via social media” the platform that the group chose was Pinterest, I was very familiar with Pinterest as I use that platform on a daily basis from ideas for my baby foods to hairstyles etc. group one showed the class on how to set up Pinterest as well as to how to pin your interests, also informing the class that Pinterest is the new marketing tool that a lot of businesses are venturing into as this platform is untouched.

The plus for group 1 for me was that the content was delivered in a clear and concise manner, the class was fully engaged at times, they had pictures that showcased clearly on how does one go about pinning they interest on they personal pin board, team work, high form and substance and a lot of FUN 🙂

My aha moments that spoke volumes to me from reflective experiences, would be to never set expectations, never assume, when we listen we make the person we listening to feel heard, whatever has happened has happened, let it be and move on, life goes on we just need to register that in our minds and move on with it, move away from our comfort zone, step out and look from above to change our perspective and shift our focus.

I loved this week of facilitation, a feeling of wanting more and more.

I need to take care of myself, to take care of everyone else.

I have definitely started CHECKING IN!! 🙂

The importance of checking in –   The Stretch Zone , the balcony & the dance. “The day I felt like a professional facilitator”

1st group presented. And the group did very well.    We were given a chance to give feedback. The facilitator pointed out the following important points during the course of the lecture:

  • introduction should have a question.
  • Be clear in your expectation and repeat them at the end just to make sure that no one was left out.
  • Play with time but avoiding rushing through as well
  • a good sitting style like C shells would work better for facilitating a  bigger group.

furthermore, to expand  on what was done we then focused on the following: pages 22 and 27. Which breaks down the analysis of checking in which she described as the tool to assist an individual to land. It also minimizes assumptions and makes other people aware on what you are going through.  However, There were activities done obviously around check in. Moreover,  on page 30, there was an analysis of Value of setting expectations whereby everyone was asked to give their understanding of this. I dotted down a few: Which are to intend to achieve your objectives, avoid derailing from your goal etc. We were then given time to reflect which the facilitator called connecting the dots on Page 24. In addition, a task was given for everyone to write down on what would their expectations be at the end of the course, what they aspiring to  achieve. We also did page 31, which focused on principles of engagement  in which the facilitator  explained what she called RAS – Radicular activating system, she defined RAS as  part of our brain that looks for our expectations. For example if you are planning to buy VW  Polo, You start seeing a lot of it on the road, because your brain start selecting information.
We then did  pages 32, 33 & 35 which covered facilitation tools namely:

  • the stretch zone – where one’s stress levels are slightly higher than normal to maximize performance.  T Harv Eker was quoted as follows ” comfort kills, if your goal in life is to be comfortable , I guarantee two things, 1st you will never be rich, second, you will never be happy”. happiness does not come from living a lukewarm life”                       
  • The balcony and the dance. – a concept developed by Berry  to be used when in a difficult situation.  Then a facilitator can say : can we all go on the balcony and look at what is going on the dance floor?

This is the day I imagined my self being a professional facilitator. I imagined myself standing in front of students using words like the “stretch zone”..and “lets go on the balcony” and   breaking the ice of my facilitation with a check in.  It really felt like my  objectives of becoming a facilitator have been met.


Communicating via social media

Check-ins can (though very rare) get messy and emotional, so when Roslyn mentioned the word “check-in”, I hoped she meant something else.

Six years ago during a two day  strategic session in the Drakensberg, a colleague had a complete meltdown during check-in. We sat in a u-shape and began checking-in and a colleague “popped” into tears; sharing with us her difficulty in dealing with the death of her husband. She started crying and a few other people cried with her (I also may have had a moment).

People think to be professional you need to ignore your emotions and those of the people around you, but reality is, we don’t leave our humanity at the office door. Crying is a natural reaction to stress and doesn’t make you any less professional than those who do not openly cry. The bravest and most courageous of them all weep when they need to.

I had a huge AHA! moment when we discussed the four principles of open space technology, which are:

  1. Whoever comes are the right people
  2. Whatever happens is the only thing that could have
  3. Whenever it starts is the right time
  4. When it’s over, its over

I’ve always struggled with letting things go, I often replay things in my head over and over again, wishing I could have said things better or rather not have said things at all. Also, during class, I realized I also struggle with letting go of events. After my colleague had her meltdown, I no longer saw her in the same light, in my head she was the lady who’s husband died and she wasn’t coping emotionally. When it was over, it wasn’t over for me; I would spend hours thinking about her and wondering if she was crying, if she was okay, if she was coping with work. Whenever I saw her I saw sorrow even when she was laughing and smiling.

I have learned that in all situations; when it’s over, it’s over and I should truly let go.

Hi ho off TWO work i Go

Hi Ho off to work i go

Second lesson and look at us now 60 students in the lunch hour class and our first time interacting.

Our group was given a topic “learning from life” for our facilitation presentation and wow what a broad topic this could be.

Ros took us through the milestones of our class and how it would change the way to facilitate anything we will do further and in each class our skills would be honed more sharply.
This was something new to me , not knowing exactly what to expect but the more i listened the more i was drawn into the form of presentations,this form of public speaking and control of a room and people in it.Madness!

The smaller class became easier to control and better learning ground for me and my fellow students, the previous chaos was now a buzz of a beehive working together.

Ros proceeded to, teach us personal mastery. how to check in and how that influence ans set the tone for the rest of the day by understanding the persons around us. What a great technique!

The check in helped understand that you can create a safe environment for the people around you to interact more learning new techniques like the dance floor and balcony…taking a step back and outside the group discussions to have this overview of the world i am currently in and how it all changes from the top.

hello Facilitations!

Story Telling

I was hooked from the word go. I enjoyed every bit of the facilitation and technique used.

We all have a story to tell, and everyone’s story is different and unique. No two persons are the same. Two people looking out the same window pane, will see different world out there.

One poem, story of one man and how he overcome the darkness that consumed him. Every pain, has a lesson. How well you over come the pain and being able to see the victory out of pain.

The short readings gave a different perspective of what a facilitator does and is.  How a facilitator can act and be a catalyst in ones life.  The different people behind shaping future leaders, shaping the world.


communicating Via Social Media

This week, the first group will be presenting.  That’s the misconception I thought this was. Facilitation and presenting two different ball games.

As I watch the 1st toughest group give they all, was I glad we didn’t go first, at the same time the group taught us so much.  Trail and error.

This week I learnt to give and listen to constructive criticism. Difference between giving constructive criticism and criticism. This week also taught me about not only being in a safe place, but offering a safe place as well.

being able not to get caught in the dance, but being able to look from the balcony. The dance provided more Delta the should haves and not.  Being able to stand back and watch from the balcony, not only are you watching as a spectator but also being able to watch yourself as a spectator.

Understanding that the Plus or Delta feedback, has much to do about yourself then the next person.  Not forgetting the exercise to listen and speak less(or none), as you took turns to check in.

Checking in not only validated myself, but the next person. Allowing the person to take your down the garden route gave one  a different insight of who the person is.

This allowed the person to gave themselves to you, and learnt more about the next person. Bases for good relations were formed.


Week 2 – My eyes have opened …

So week 2 was a REAL eye-opener, it was a face-crack moment, and I was pleasantly surprised 🙂 It was the first group who facilitated their session ( cant imagine how they felt, because I was nervous for them being Group 1) and after the session, the feedback from the class and Roslyn had me thinking about how I could be a better facilitator and how I could add value and create a learning environment as a facilitator.

My first learning was the difference between facilitating and presenting. Amazing, major eye opener… something so simple yet no one has ever explained it to me before ( I basically learnt to keep my trap shut more and allow others to speak more :-).  Facilitation is about drawing out rather than putting in, create an environment that gets people thinking and questioning and allowing silences to give them time to think and process the information.  Asking questions as opposed to giving answers. Giving and receiving feedback was something was able to understand better.

I sat in class reflecting on my own facilitation style, it was great! I knew I was learning already, I listened attentively to everything that was said and each time I reflected, it felt as if puzzle pieces were falling into place. I could see now how I could learn from this course, how I could become better at managing meetings, or training, or encouraging learning within my team at work.

I left feeling empowered and looking forward to the next lesson…. Till next week friends!


Week 2 : From Managing Situation to Facilitating people

It was a great Saturday morning, very anxious to see how the first Group will facilitate. Got into class and the circle setup was prepared, and they begin with facilitating and the topic was Communicating via social media with an expectation of Facebook, Instagram, twitter etc. They were so innovative and creative to come up with Pinterest. Introduction was amazing with pictures on the wall, great participation and it was Fun. They also manage to play with time and engage very well with the audience. I must say they did very well with limited time and pressure they had. Feedback from Roslyn was great an eye opener for groups that still need to facilitate, she provided guidance to assist most of the groups.

After group facilitation and feedback from Roslyn we touch on facilitation participation work book in exploring how to move from Managing the situation to facilitating People, to achieve intended outcomes: Check-in, setting expectations, Principles of engagement, Building environment, The stretch zone and The Balcony and the Dance.

  • With check-in it was interesting when Roslyn take us through and ask around the room who does check-in where they work, and there where students that shared their experience  It was great that we had to sit in a group of seven  and do check-in amongst ourselves, they where two way to conduct check in Round robin one person will start and then go around circle and popcorn style when you ready you can pop, it was great to reflect on our experience, purpose and why are we here, and I have found out that we have things that are common.
  • Setting expectation its important, I need to understand my purpose, check for understanding, communicate clearly, focus, deliver and achieve objectives. With principle of engagement it was so interesting that there are many ways to address these principles and it was simple principles like, late coming, cell phone being on silence and missing sessions. There is quote from Margaret Wheatley’s book, “A simple way”.
  • For me I must say stretching zone was the most powerful for me because u don’t realise until someone say it and will raise your eyebrows. I have been procrastinating to further my studies but I’m so glad cause comfort kills and now I’m stretching myself, it was interesting when Roslyn say sometimes in certain situation she will ask us to step onto the Balcony and observe, reach deeper understanding of the situation.

I must say this facilitation class draw attention and touch so much about personal life. I’m starting to enjoy the Journey!!

Bright Eyed and Bushy tailed WEEK 2: Communicating via Social Media 28/07

Friday night at Wits, Yay !!!!!

The anxiety is kicking in now, we have to do our facilitation piece in the morning. AAAH Im not ready for this 🙁

Poor Irene has lost her voice and clearly feeling yukky so of course Nicola steps in and says she will do the introduction in her place. Uhm why did i do that to myself? I start to panic when the group agrees. Dammit Nicola you’re in a pickle now. I suck up all my courage and take this as a step outside of my comfort zone.  Fake it till you make they say.

Phew it was a success 🙂 Crazy story but i wasn’t even that nervous, I actually had fun * oohhhh changing my career plans now* Oh wait running away with myself abit there.

On a serious note I actually learnt a bit about myself in doing this exercise. I stepped outside of my comfort zone for one. I like to go into things with a clear plan and well to be honest even though we did planning and put effort and work in, it was really just me winging it. I mean 1 week , we had ONE week to prepare THE INSANITY!!!! *drama queen much* but we did it 🙂

I learnt that while receiving feedback not to try explain myself. This will definitely come in handy in my work life, just sit and listen to feedback given by my manager without trying to defend myself

Now to sit back and enjoy the ride 🙂

Why do I keep doing this to myself?

Today we are well underway fleshing through the course material. And what a journey it is: from checking in to checking out, to setting clear expectations for yourself as well as for the group you are about to facilitate, to the principles of engagement, to building safe environments, to the importance of mastering the art of detachment, to finding ourselves in the stretch, to to obtaining a birds eye view of the situation under discussion by moving from the dance floor to the balcony.

Relationships thrive when clear boundaries are set, thus informing the rules/principles of engagement. It is important to be upfront about those principles as they inform behaviour. ‘We train people how to treat us,’ Dr Phil used to assert. But while enforcing the principles of engagement, it is equally important to remain flexible.

Today’s session reaffirmed the importance of what I have been modelling my life on: we all need a safe place, and we need to help create those safe environments. However, as much as safe environments are important, so are detachment. This is probably the part that resonated with me most, and what a stretch it is. But it is good, because we grow when stretched.

Owen Harrison’s four principles and law of detachment cut deep as I sat their looking deep within myself.

The four principles

  1. Whoever comes are the right people
  2. Whatever happens is the only thing that could have
  3. Whenever it starts is the right time
  4. When it is over it is over

The one law (of two feet)

If at any time during your time together you find yourself in any situation where you are neither learning nor contributing, use your two feet, go someplace else.

Rosslyn loves to remind us that feedback – though necessary – says as much about us as it does about the people to whom we give feedback.

We don’t things the way we are, we see things the way we are. I’ve also learned over the years that the attitude with which we listen determines what you hear. So it takes some doing to not become defensive and get our backs up.

The Comfort Zone

Wow! Talk about being taken right out of your comfort zone. This was all too familiar in this weeks lesson. Today there were 3 things which stood out for me: check-in; the stretch zone and the balcony and the dance floor. To put things into perspective, I have learnt that the stretch zone is a place of optimal learning. In other words, when we find ourselves in our comfort zone  our performance levels are steady but there is no real learning that takes place. We continue to view things the same, we are not open to change and therefore do not grow in our personal mastery. Why? Probably because its easier to continue to do things as we have always done rather than to experience the discomfort and stress associated with learning a new way.Reality check! In order for one to grow we need to step out of that comfort zone and  experience “optimal anxiety.” This is the space where our stress levels are a little higher than usual but ideal for peak performance and maximized learning.

Today we had a group exercise of completing a check-in. The principle behind the check-in in the realm of facilitation is to get an idea of  everyone’s head-space and a great environment for productive and meaningful  conversations to be had. This could be done in one of two styles and can be brief or lengthy.  The check-in exercise we were given was to introduce ourselves to our group without interruptions for a total of 4 mins. (this was not a conversation). Needless to say there were no volunteers among us rushing at the opportunity to go first. So I decided to put on my brave suit and give it a go. Well lets just say that my introduction was all over the place. Talking about myself for all of 4 minutes seemed like forever and was not as easy as one would think. Being relevant, interesting and standing in my truth without boring the team to death  was quite the challenge but “I did it.” 

To round off today’s experience we learnt about the balcony and the dance floor. This had to have been the “aha moment” that tied the entire days experience together for me.  The teaching  behind this concept in a nutshell is that when you on the dance floor you are basically in that moment and your vision is restricted because you are so focused on the doing that you don’t have the time to reflect on the experience. If you take a moment to step out on the balcony  you have a broader view of the dance floor so your perspective changes. Your vision is not obscured and you get to  see the “bigger picture”.  When i stepped on the balcony my viewpoint changed, I suddenly felt a sense of pride. I saw myself breaking out of my comfort zone. In that moment I chose not to be the shy girl who is often intimidated to speak out in larger group settings. I did not overthink the process, instead I pushed through my fear and stepped out in boldness. A scary yet liberating experience.

28 July 2018 Team Facilitation (Social Media) **Pinterest**

My second facilitation skills class. We waited outside class for a good 10 minutes because it was still locked. As we walked into the class, the settings was different from first day of class. There were three big circles made by chairs in which we had to sit as three big groups.

We sat down and team one of the Facilitation groups were facilitating about social media. One of the team members have instructions to check if there were posters under any desk. One one person from my group found a poster of the leaning tower of Italy. There was discussion about social media and the main focus was Pinterest because it not that recognised like Facebook and Instagram. The group did well facilitating about social media. The audience was interacting with the team , the facilitation finished too early though. The group facilitating received positive feedback and comments. Notuch questions were asked because they covered everything. After they were done, we had to give feedback on a piece of paper to the team that had facilitated for that day. However also Roslyn gave feedback to the team.
After the facilitation was done we got back to our books. We read on the following topics
*Check in page 27
*Setting experience page 30
*Principles of engagement page 31
*Building a safe environment page 33
*The stretch zone page 34
We were then introduced to Telfar , the assistance of Roslyn who was to help us with the links to creating blogs.

What I learnt on that day about facilitation was the following
*You need to be clear
*inIntroducti should be made of questions
*Instructions must be clear
*Highlight understanding
*Watch out for time
*Don’t present
*Engage with the audience
*Be fun

Thank you

Week 2

The class started with group 2 facilitating their task. It was interesting and there was a lot of engagement. In my opinion I thought they did quite brilliant. We got into the lecture with our facilitator explaining the concepts of checking in, setting expectations, principles of engagement, building a safe environment, stretch zone and and the balcony dance.
What I’ve learned from today’s class was that by checking in I can take in constructive critic and learn from it.

It is crucial to set expectations so that I will be able to measure them against my results or it will motivate me to reach my expectations. By setting expectations it will allow myself and others to know what to expect. I also learned that I will not get much by staying in my comfort zone. I should always try to get out of my comfort zone so that I’ll be able to reach or go beyond my full potential. Sometimes removing myself from a situation is best, it often gives me a different perspective than the one I would have being in a particular situation.
What I expect to gain from this course is the ability to be more vocal and social with others. To not be overpowered by my fears but rather I overcome them.

Group 2 Facilitation

This was our day as Group 2. Our topic ” Communication via social media “. Four of us in a group were all panicking and nervous, as we all have never facilitated before. I was laughing,  one lady thought I was the facilitator as it was her first day, and that gave me courage. We were all excited once finished facilitating as we were receiving positive feedbacks. We also received encouraging feedbacks where went wrong or what should have happened. I have learnt a lot, teamwork, accepting criticism in a positive way not personal. The facilitation gave some kind of confidence to stand in front of the audience which I will use more in future. I also have learnt to engage more as a group in whatever we do together. My confidence has grown a bit since this facilitation. I have learnt how to check in and out for the first, you listen without questions. Next time I will not read from paper when facilitating but I will prepare myself more. I am loving this course more every day

Week 2 – Blog 2: “Communicating via Social Media”

Week 2 – Blog 2: “Communicating via Social Media”

Hey today I am on time and rushing to get to class, got at the door found the first group busy preparing for the first facilitation class. I was wondering how is it different from traditional presentation and  could not wait to step into class and see how it looks like.Waited for instructions from the facilitating group, finally we are all allowed to step into class.  Yooh this is the first facilitation practical class for this course, was very curious to observe what is it all about. We were asked to choose any place where you find comfortable and grab a chair ,sat and paid attention to the facilitators.

The first ever facilitating group topic was communication via social media. Amazing out of all these well known social media such as tweeter,whats-app, Facebook, Instagram etc… These facilitators were brilliants and chose Pinterest as the type of social media. I have heard about pinterest but never border to find out what was it all about, is only after this informative class that i have to go and search for it on the web and read about this social media and even subscribe on it. This was so informative and i have learnt that we can even list our activities and talent on this social media and get known around the globe and grab some new contacts, rather than the one we always have from the obvious social media (tweeter,whats-app, Facebook, Instagram etc…).

During facilitation I found it very informative as well hence we could identify where some common food, fashion and point of interest well known for different cultures around the globe. For example fashion place is associated with Italy, food and wine France, African fashion found in South Africa  and so forth. The exercise was very interactive and some critical thinking as well as a learning curve for some of the stuff that i did not know,then we had scored the team of facilitators and have a tea break for few minutes.

Now was the time for observations, comments and question for better understanding,very interesting stuff  were kept in my mind eg the below  four principles of detachment  by Owen Harrison (1991) Riding a tiger.

  1. whoever comes are the right people: This means threat everyone who shows up for a presentation, event or facilitation with great honor and respect .Give them all the best of the day and do not  hope for the VIP who did not show up at the event that you have called for.
  2. Whatever happens is the only thing that could have: do not wish for some thing that did not happens.
  3. Whenever it starts is the right time: be flexible and relax and do what you can at your best at that pointing time.
  4. When it is over ,it is over: this is the one that i liked so much it gave me confidence of the previous decisions have taken in the past and buried them and carry on with life and not feeling guilty.             * One law keeps clearly in view…everyone has two feet and is responsible for their use.there is a time to talk or a time to walk.                                                                                                                        These principles and one law  have changed my life and my ways of doing things.                                                                                                                                                                                                                 The other important thing that i learnt was the stretch zone with few points that was mentioned during her facilitation such as:                                                                                                                              a) In a comfort zone there is no Learning: this was really talking to me straight forward as i always wanted to ensure that i a m in my comfort zone and not realizing that i learnt nothing from that comfort zone. This had changed my way of seeing things, Comfort Kills !!                                               b) In a stretch zone we learn and be creative.                                                                                                 c) In a stress zone brain is stressing and not a good place to find yourself in.                                       d) In a Panic Zone your brain froze and you can not do any rational thing and this is a very bad space for anyone to find himself/ herself in.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    This was a very interesting learning curves and with the balcony and the dance whereby when you stand at the balcony you see properly than when you are on the dancing floor. A good lesson was learnt , that  when you are on the dance floor there are things that you can not see properly until you go to the balcony. So in life sometimes be on the dance floor and other time be on the balcony to make a good critical perspectives.                                                                                                            Few announcements were made and class was dismissed. Wow i had learnt a lot.


Thank you !

Group 1 presentation

I arrived to a well arranged class, in 3 big groups, in preparation for group 1’s presentation. Their topic was on Communicating via Social Media and they chose their platform to be Pinterest. The facilitation was well done, considering they were the very first group to present, with no template to follow. They engaged the class well, and they had good visuals which made understanding easier. We also did other exercises on the day, like Check-In : this was interesting, although l had to talk about myself, it dispelled preconceptions that as humans, we mostly have perceptions about other people, before we have even spoken to them. It was good to know other people, beyond face value. We also did the Balcony and the dance, this exercise taught us to learn to take a take back, in some situations and look at it form a distant. This detachment enables people to be objective about the situation, than being subjective. We looked at Rules of engagement – these ought to be set by your audience, so that you see thing from the same perspective.

Easing into Facilitation

The second lecturer eased my anxiety about the module. The days following the first class were filled with wonder and doubt about registering for this module. I am a structured person and wondered if I’ll cope with the relaxed/informal approach of the class. Furthermore, I am an introvert and my experiences of group work at Wits since 2016 has not memorable. So I dreaded the experience of group work, however I decided to be positive in my approach to create new memories.

The class started off with the first group doing their facilitation. This was an interesting experience with mixed emotions. Firstly, I would facilitation is not easy as it looks when watching television or attending events. Secondly, I learned that as a Facilitator, you don’t have to be an expert of your topic, you are there to draw information from the audience. One should also be conscious of time, as we witnessed the 30 minutes allocated to the group went by so quickly and they could not finish. Lastly, one needs greater awareness and appreciation of the audience, to ensure that the topic is kept interesting for different groups so that everyone learns and contributes to the topic facilitated.I learned a lot from the feedback session, it is important for one to balance criticism with kindness. The Facilitator should learn from it instead of feeling offended and resorting to defending themselves.

I enjoyed meeting new people from other groups during rotations and learning that looks can be deceiving as people that I thought were extroverts, were actually introverts and vice versa. By the end of the class I was a bit at ease and I am certain at the end of the semester I would be a different person.

The learning continues.

Week 2

The first group completed their facilitation session with the topic “Communication via Social Media” focusing on Pinterest. Appreciated the insight and information on making use of a new platform I was unaware of.
We proceeded with the check-in process, which I personally did not enjoy as I do not like talking about myself and never know what to say. I did however enjoy getting to know some of my classmates.

Week 2: This week has to be better

Early Saturday morning again.  I hate it, but here goes nothing. Group 1 was presenting and I couldn’t miss it if I was going to continue with this course. I told myself I’d probably have to do it anyways, so better now than later.

Group 1’s piece on Communicating via Social Media (Pinterest) went so well. Even I enjoyed it, I mean – a whole Thulile – enjoying what I thought was going to be a boring presentation. The way they simplified a fairly new and seemingly complicated social media platform really resonated with me. The simpler the better for me.

Then chaos reared its ugly head. We had to get into groups again, with a new set of complete strangers. “Am I being tested or what?”

Anyways, we did some exercises:

  • Check-in  – where you learn your group members’ frame of mind and emotional state. I had to talk about myself, ‘Lord give me strength.” But I enjoyed it. Found I had some things in common with other people.
  • The Balcony and the dance – this teaches us to step back in a situation and look at it with a bird’s eye view. This way you can see things you wouldn’t see while you’re in the moment.
  • Rules of engagement – I learned that your audience should set these, so that you’re on the same page with them and you’re not imposing rules on people and making them apprehensive.
  • What stood out for me is something I knew but I was forgetting because we’re creatures of habit. I’d forgotten that I said I’d get my degree and change jobs because my comfort zone had become too much. I had gotten so good at this job that I could do it in my sleep. In our comfort zones we stop learning so I moved into a stretch zone. Now I remember why I had all this anxiety.  Because I’m in a stretch zone. But this is what I wanted right? So I’m not quitting. There are lessons to be learned here.

So even with all my anxiety, I “landed” in class today. In a group of people very different from me but who I still had something in common with. My legs weren’t shaking on my way home this time. Yaaay 🙂

Learning continued and unlearning

28 July was my second class.  I can honestly say I have never needed my sleep more than I do this semester.  The last bit before the big reward.  I have to muster up all the courage I have to make it through the N1 each Saturday morning from Pretoria.   This week I was early or should I say on time for class.

As I walked into the basement venue, group 2 was preparing for their facilitation session to the class.  I immediately went into overdrive in thought, putting myself in that position because the following week would be our group’s facilitation.  We were asked to organise ourselves into our groups and sit in a ring (fishbowl) style.  I could not help but see myself as one of those members.  I honestly hoped the best for them.  I don’t handle embarrassment well and I cringed that they would not freeze, but then I remembered that this is a learning process and them being the first group to present gave me some comfort that they don’t have a previous group to refer to as a guide of what to avoid and what to aim towards.

The session started with them introducing their theme of Social Networks.  The presentation taught me a new phrase (pin board) when referring to Pinterest.  Once their facilitation piece was done, we then rated them.   But before that could happen feedback was requested to them.  I was surprised at the excitement of classmates when providing feedback, quite a few good pointers that I felt our group should note and apply for the following week.

I felt extremely tired after that session, the week I had at the office took a toll on me and all I could think of was getting home and taking a well deserved nap.

The lecturer has a “spicey” side to her however it comes across in a warm manner, without a heaviness.  She stopped a colleague and I on our way out (before class was out) and advised that if we don’t intend to stay on for the remainder of the semester to consider deregistering.  That’s spicey I’d say.  Her wit is appreciated.

My biggest challenge in this class is definitely voicing my opinion and standing in front of people.  I guess my limits will be tested when we facilitate our theme (Storytelling) in the following week.

week 2. wow

wow what can I say about this week. First presentation and the first group was ready to present. what was interesting was that I wasn’t sure what to look for when scoring the group. I didn’t even know what to expect.

they did well for the first group. even though the feed back was unforgiving, however I loved the fact that after all that we all learned how to give and receive feedback.

which got me thinking about my own personality. I got a chance of sitting back and reflecting on my own behaviour during the group presentation and the way I looked at it and the way I gave feedback. I got to go up the balcony and look at what happened.

looks like each class I will gain something on a personal level.

And the learning begins

Lecture session 2

I have arrived in the room and checked in.

Today’s class was a lot more settled.  Calmed my nerves a bit.  We were able to learn a bit more theory.  It was great as I am managing to assimilate the Facilitation work that I am doing in the office with Pinky to actual theory.  I now understand where the “Check in” and “Check out” exercises come from.  I had thought that the exercises were specific to Pinky’s training, but I now understand the science behind the practice.

I must be sure to add the following slides to the Facilitation work we are preparing for the next strategy session (Pinky is making us go solo)!

Note to self:


” Check in” and “Check out” slides;

A question relevant to the group;

Expectation/s slide;

Principles of engagement slide;

(Bear in mind Group size when we do team building activities)

(“5% airtime”)

(“Pearls” don’t overflood the learning space)

(Stretch zone – me don’t panic!)


Wow! I’m really beginning to enjoy this.  It’s really taking shape in my mind.  I feel my anxiety disappearing.

Pinterest, Principle of Detachment & Pomeranians

After the daunting first lecture, last week I doubled my coffee intake and stepped into class knowing what to expect, ready to have fun and soak up all the information I could.

The lecture kicked off with the first group facilitating on the topic of social media and they used a very unique way of demonstrating how to use Pinterest.  So good in fact I checked it out and well now I have a new social media site to help me procrastinate when I should be doing my assignments (#Shoes #Poms & #Tattoos, LOL).

The lecture moved onto us joining groups and running through a few useful check-in techniques. It was fun to learn about everyone’s backgrounds, interests and also reassuring to meet a few who I have a lot in common with too. One of the ladies has a pomeranian dog as do I; and I shared a laugh with another group member about anxieties that come with being introverted -#DogLoversAndIntrovertsOfTheWorldUnite #LongestHashTagEver.

On a more serious note today’s lecture was really insightful and I am particularly looking forward to using Principles of Engagement, the Principle of Detachment and The Balcony & the Dance, both at work and even in some aspects of my personal life. As per the principle of detachment my favourite new mantra (as a chronic overthinker) is WHEN IT’S OVER, IT’S OVER!


Shifting into gear Communicating via Social Media ….Week 2

I have had one week to reflect on this course and remind myself of my objectives and also do introspection. What will it take for me to get the most value out of my Saturdays? I had to get my mindset right ……. then suddenly it dawned on me… I need to develop an appreciation to seize the opportunity and realise the value that participating openly offers. I understood that gaining the full value of this course will require me letting go of my EGO. I have over many years learnt that when EGO dominates nobody learns. I need to keep an open mind to learning something new, something meaningful. Today was that day and I was ready for it…… today I will learn about ” communication via social media”……or so I thought…..

Today I have learnt a much more valuable lesson ….today I have learnt to appreciate the effort that people put into it is that they do. That people learn differently and that to learn something new takes time and effort. today I have learnt that by learning a new skill or approach you add another dimension to who you are and as a result everybody benefits. Today I have learnt that in order to learn I will need to be present, I will need to reflect and do introspection because where I am going will require a long-term commitment. Today I have been reminded that what I have learnt I can’t unlearn…I may choose not to apply it but it is never lost.

Today as I reflect on the day I remind myself that some are inspired to change immediately; others change later when they have had time to reflect and internalise what they have learnt…… a few though never make the change..


Today was about “communicating via social media”…… alas it has been so much more.

I love the Power of a check in…….


Aluta continua! Being present is a real thing ….. Reminder to self ….”Don’t lose time in Ego








Showing up

The four facilitator roles…..Showing up,….Paying Attention,…..Telling the truth and Being Open to Outcomes… I learned that these roles are key and they will surely equip my facilitation. I realised that these roles will apply both in my personal and work space.


Let your voice be heard …

Give others a change to talk as well….

We also talked about “Fishbowls’’ are useful for ventilating “hot topics” or sharing ideas or information from a variety of perspectives. When the people in the middle are public officials or other decision-makers, this technique can help bring transparency to the decision-making process and increase trust and understanding about complex issues. I like the way we engaged in class, when our lecture asked ask to form a circle because it allows everyone to have a voice and be comfortable to share. I am an extrovert and maybe there few introverts that may not be comfortable with the circle setup. The method lends itself also to show dominance relationships. Intrusive participants must constantly go back into the inner circle and avoid side conversations. I really enjoyed the fish bowl experience in class.

show up and be present in the moment.

putting us into groups

arriving to the second lesson i was asked if i had been placed into a group. my answer was no! i was placed into group 4 and our task was “story telling”. now this is not about story telling, this is about the fact that i get very anxious when it comes to group work as i see my self as a solitary individual. the scenario of having to work in a group played in my head over and over until i came the realisation that i am attending a facilitation class. i told myself that everybody has been subjected to the exact same task which has put us onto a level playing field as well as each persons task is to create an environment that allows everyone to think a their best which brought a sense of calmness to me as i knew that this would be a non judgmental environment.


after watching the firs group perform their presentation on communicating through social media, we had an interesting group feedback session which involved plus delta. plus being what did we enjoy, what did we learn and what did we notice, and delta being what did we not enjoy and what changes would we like to see in this presentation as well as the forthcoming presentations.

i use this method in my coaching job at a primary school in sandton. after a session that i have coached i ask the learners what they enjoyed with in the session as well as what they have learnt. once i have gathered that information i then as the daunting question of what could i have done better as a coach so that i can better prepare for the next coaching session.

Communicating via Social Media

Effective communication in this day and age requires some form of technology be it email, cell phone or even social media platforms such as facebook and twitter. As time goes on technology develops and works better and more sufficiently.

When attending the class with the task to facilitate about Mindful Facilitation Communicating via Social Media there was no aha moment for me. The group basically presented the different types of social media platforms and what they are about without actually getting to the exciting parts. I love social media. At first I was not so big on it but after some time I became crazy about it. So in my mind I still had many questions to ask such as the audience who consume different types of social media through various platforms. What is social media’s biggest achievements so far? when I opened up my Facebook account I posted but not coherently . I recently added my 1000th friend on Facebook and currently over 400 followers on Twitter. My Instagram account by far has the most followers with over 1200. I learned a lot fro,m social media and it is mostly how I consume information from the web. I have even recently started a small business running social media for small business’s.

I wish the group could have explored the theme further, however since they were the first to present they were always at a disadvantage.



Learning from Learning

Now this module captured me completely. From beginning to end. The left side and right side of the brain exercise was soooo telling in so many ways that I would have probably argued out defending why I am the way I am, but it opened my opens. It was a reflection and one that made me to take a step back to say when I communicate I should listen to other people more as well as try to understand where they’re coming from. For someone who works in broadcasting one would think this should be part of my DNA but I learned that as much as I too think I should be that attentive when communicating it doesn’t hurt to constantly remind myself of such things on a regular basis and not take it for granted. This goes for when I’m at home being a mother, a sister and a partner. I should be more considerate when I communicate and remind myself from time to time to be attentive.

Mindful Facilitation…

I managed to wake up the first day, now I had to be out of the province. My mind couldn’t stop thinking about my class.

It is Friday and I am travelling to Durban. No one can move forward without my approval. We were supposed to be picked up at 12h00, hours and hours go by before I start to question the way forward! As predicted the chaos starts. The driver claims, time was not communicated to him properly and he is intoxicated. Opted to drive down as we had to be there by midnight.

As we drive down, phone calls and whatsapp messages are constantly sent to my phone to check our location, some seek clarity on what both families needed to do and some just destressing.

We arrived just after 22h00, both families were relieved and a conference call was initiated between the two families . Instructions were given, certain rituals were done and I went to bed just after 00h00. At about 06h30 in the morning all was in motion, the other family had arrived at the gate and the other family was not ready to let the family waiting by the gate to enter.

While trying not to loose my temper, the room that was dedicated for this event is not cleared as it was previously used as a storage. Impatiently, without showing, I directed the family to what needed to be done. I fortunately managed to identify atleast two family members who were the right people to talk to when I needed things to be done in a particular way and timeously.

Later in the day when all formalities had been concluded and people were celebrating and dancing to their own songs while clapping, I realised what just happened or what I have just experienced, MINDFUL FACILITATION.

I am out of the province. I realised that I have just created an environment that enabled everyone to think independently and at their best, to respect each other’s point of view, participate fully and share responsibilities for achieving meaningful results.

I have just guided the whole process, united two families who have not been seeing eye to eye let alone being civil to one another. I have just assisted these families and the main role players to stay focused on the event and built unity amongst all members to get the job done with excellence.
Immediately I did not feel like I missed my class but felt I was there for my facilitation practicals and to be reminded how much I need this course.

Building Relationship, a family being born

Today I was placed into a group called building relationships, although ordinary, but I believe that this group will resemble family due to different traits we possess (brothers and sisters), versatility noticed from the first meeting. I am currently not aware of who these people are, their strength or weaknesses, their very beings as human however I have faith. We met after class as a group, it was a mess, everyone wanted to voice their opinion and assert their authority, I must be honest; I also played my part in the mess. At the end of it all, we agreed on going to do our homework and meeting the following week.

Beyond being allocated a group I got to observe a group presentation on social media, the group did exceptionally well. The lesson drawn from the presentation was, firstly this course is not as easy as I thought, given my first narrative on module one. The presentation was well thought through, it was professional, but most significantly it offered an academic understanding of social media using simplified methods of teaching. I guess I got to learn what the course was about in a nutshell, conveying of content in the most simplified manner utilising group participation as an added advantage.

The third part that brought a certain level of realisation for me is the time we were in groups and we were discussing the stories that we had read in the previous week. The read I enjoyed the most is the watermelon eater as I had to present the views of the group to the class. From this I learned that, as human beings, we have different understanding of the same scenarios, this then brought us to the core question of the day, what is a facilitator.

Having grasped from Fowles (1977)’s read The Prince and the Magician we concluded that being a facilitator can rotate as per the role one is given, the king was a facilitator as he willed the prince ambition, while the prince was a facilitator as he facilitated his own curiosity path and last, the magician was a facilitator for he facilitated the new light for the prince in relation to the king.

The class was confused by this narrative and my group debated this for a while, however I learned that conversations do not need to have a wrong and a right; sometimes we are both right depend on how you view it.


Catch up catch up….

Now the classes are on and in full swing. I am trying to get upto speed with what i missed out on from the first lecture. The group presenting talks about the use of social media. Did i mention i have a phobia of social media,so am captivated and eagerly listening to what the group is saying….maybe just maybe my fears can be addressed.
So in this lecture am taught that i matter,i am priority number 1. That is a huge shift and change from what i have always believed in….now the dilemna starts. How do i erase all these thoughts and teachings of always putting others first and me last. So if am to put others first does it me i am being selfish? Absolutely not, for me to effectively take care of others,i should be okay first. As a facilitator am expected to be emotionally mature and intelligent,be able to create an enviroment where everyone can be comfortable to interact. I think am beginning to like this subject….one will learn a lot of life skills here. This has shifted from just being about the points one needs to graduate to ahhhh, these are important life skills we all need.

Day 2 – Lights, camera, action!

I had survived a week of numerous conversations within myself, where inner conflict was rising.

Should I go back to class… woe is me… I have so many subjects… should I postpone this module… pull yourself together woman and get back in the game, focus, focus, focus.


Day 2 of the Facilitation course.

Lights, camera, action!

Group 1 is facilitating their topic: Communicating via social media

How absolutely engaging…Well done team! I admire how Group 1 made magic happen within a relatively short period of time. You guys rock. Group 1 has also set the bar for those of us following suit.

Through all of the conversations with myself, I realise that reading up before class is beneficial. During class I realise that I am starting to learn stuff. I am now learning about the Check In process, how to build the container, the dance floor and the balcony technique, Delta Plus, and so many more facilitation techniques. Things are slowly starting to fall in to place. I am starting to feel more comfortable. I have been allocated to Group 8. I can’t drop the course now.

My perception about Facilitation is starting to change.

I had always assumed that lecturing, teaching, presenting, was facilitation. I’m starting to learn that you, the Facilitator, needs to create an environment for the audience to figure things out for themselves. As the Facilitator, be authentic.

I am learning that it is okay to not have the answers for everything. By listening, engaging, prompting, guiding, the Facilitator is likened to  a musical conductor who coordinates the audience responses and engagement, to unfold the audience’s aha moments. Bravo!


Things are looking up.

Facilitation is about your audience (Module 2 – Learning about Learning)

In our Facilitation skills lesson dated 5th August 2017, we were requested to enter to group discussions and write down words that we linked to our understanding of what mindful facilitation is. Words that came up were;
– Teaching through Participation
– Imparting Knowledge
– Guidance
– Learning
My understanding of facilitation has changed from that of having an individual or the facilitator who stand in front of a group and tells the group what to do and how it should be done to that of continuous discussions, dialogue and participation from both ends. In the story titled “The Watermelon Eaters” there were two different men who tried to teach or facilitate learning to the villagers but did not receive the same positive outcome. The first man did not really provide much room for villagers to participate because he just ate the watermelon instead of making them understand that the watermelon was not a monster and to assist is overcoming the unnecessary fear. He lacked empathy and in the end the villagers rejected him. The second man who was a bit more successful in the method he used was empathetic to the villager’s fears. He lived amongst them and took the time to teach them through participation and they learnt. He did not judge them for fearing the watermelon. He built an environment that is safe and conducive to a meeting of minds. This previous statement reminds me of my early school days. I always found that I did much better in subjects where I trusted that the teacher was doing what is in my best interest and that he or she cared about my overall success. Teachers that had a more dictatorship approach were not as appealing to the extent that I just passed their subjects with minimum requirements.
I plan to use the approach that is currently being used in our classes if I become a facilitator one day. Being in Management, I also think staff will be more susceptible to learning if I change my approach.

Four roles for Mindful Facilitation
– Show up (Choose to be Present)
– Be Open to Outcome (Not attached to Outcome)
– Pay Attention (To what has heart and meaning)
– Tell the Truth (Without Blame or Judgement)

Mindful facilitation

So i was late for the 1st groups presentation as i was late, again!. so i don’t have much to tell about it. Based on all the comments and feedback from the class i can tell that it was a well set out presentation. Their theme was communicating via social media. whether you want to share something about your life, report someone missing or promote a company or product, social media is the one place that can help you do it effortlessly!

what stood out for me on week 2 was learning that facilitation is a means of allowing people to perform at the highest level, the skills for this course can be used in training’s and meetings. Manager and Team leaders can also benefit a lot from this course.Also as i was doig tge facilitators checklist, i found the last question insightful. It reads: Do i have compassion and Humility? Compassion is the capacity to understand that none of us have the full picture and can only act out of the frame through which we see the world, Humility is the ability to understand that the same applies to us. When we act in alignment with this insight, we genuinely want to facilitate others be all they can be. Page 43 of course guide.

Zero to a hundred Real Quick

Zero to a hundred Real Quick

Unfortunately, I was in the first group to present… We had to talk about Social Media. The group dynamics were not challenging since we had a week to prepare. Two meetings and lots of WhatsApp messages saw us through

On the day of presenting I woke-up with the flue. Rushing around Rooderpoort at 6 in the morning trying to find something that would alleviate the sinus congestion proved impossible. I had to do with the grouchy voice, did I mention that I was the host of the media game show. It went great, I think bribing the audience with chocolates and ensuring that the audience had fun eased the burden of presenting… am I allowed to say I was presenting or was I facilitating social media?

In retrospect, I am glad we were the first group to present.


It’s funny how one of the questions I had after class last Saturday was what exactly is facilitation was, and this week I am asked the same question back. Could it be that the Universe is teaching me that I must find the answer by myself?   How I would define facilitation now after two classes is that it is action and experiential learning and what you get in is what you get out. So far, I think, it can be further defined as any activity that makes an action or a process easy or easier.

I have always thought that facilitation is the same as a presentation by definition, but after Saturday, the 5th August 2017, I can slowly separate the two. I now can see a differentiation between, a lecture, a discussion, a presentation, a facilitation and a performance. Yeah, I said performance! After the first group facilitation topic, the feedback took me aback. Even though I missed Group 1’s facilitation piece, COMMUNICATING VIA SOCIAL MEDIA”, I still learnt a lot from the feedback. I realised that I had to unlearn things that I had believed to be true and right about facilitation.

I have always thought the way to capture your audience’s attention, was to add an element of fun to it. One thing that I did not know was that it is not feeding my audience with information from slides and it being a one-way journey. Your audience need to learn and take something out of your facilitation after you are done. Your audience need to be part of facilitation.

Showing up, Paying Attention, Telling the truth and Being Open to Outcome, the four facilitator roles, are things that I learnt the true meaning of and how they can help in becoming a good facilitator or coach.  I realised that these roles apply in our everyday lives and that it is necessary to practice them on people you interact with daily, especially when you are in a leadership position. I started applying the above roles as soon as I walked out of the workshop and I am not missing a single class or coming late in the next few weeks. I want to be part of it all.

I cannot wait for the next few weeks to learn more about this fascinating word. Waiting for the second group’s turn and being early to catch it all, really excites me. I am itching to see how after the Group 1’s facilitation’s feedback, is Group 2: FACILITATING CHANGE, going to facilitate their topic and use the feedback from Group 1 to their advantage in delivering the message. What is more important for me is what I am going to learn and take out from next class’ experience.

I must say though; this course does really keep one on their toes as one does not know what the next move is and what I am going to take out of that experience. Being locked out of class when you are late, has taught me that one needed to respect time and fellow classmates by showing up whey they facilitate.


Till we meet again, your girl is checking out!



Slowly finding my feet in this blogging world

What is facilitating?
Facilitating is being able to openly share your insight in exchange to openly receiving feedback while having and working on a set goal.
Each week is different in this class, just when I thought I had gotten the hang of things, something new happens. This week’s the presentation by group 2 was about Facilitating Change. It hit home to most of us as we had to do some serious soul searching and reflect on past experiences and how we’ve embraced the changes that happen/ed in our lives. The shared personal stories became a binding tape to remind us that we are all similar and share some similar experiences and that made me embrace all the stages of change I have gone through in my life, that sense of relief that you are not alone.
Something I had not expected was the different reactions that came out during the delta session. It became an eye-opener of how we as human beings react under different circumstances. I think because the first topic was a fun, general discussion, it gave an impression that all the teams will run a smooth facilitation process. It became obvious to me that we are not equipped with the right tools to handle such situations, we didn’t even know these topics would evoke such emotions.
The previous week, we were asked to read stories in our course pack in preparation for the following weeks class discussion. Due to my busy schedule, I didn’t have enough time to go through all of them as a result I felt out of place during the discussions and realised the importance of doing the prep work before the following class to enjoy full participation.
I like that I get to interact with new people every week, it creates a familiar environment for me to go to and to look forward to.

At long last……Facilitation skills in 3!!!!!….

Oh oh facilitation skills what is it though? I read the cover page of the Course pack and it interests me to know that it can be related to my everyday life a work and also on a social meetings. But dah!!! There is more to it than what I preferred of it in the first place…the idea was to score point lol. Facilitation is not just standing in front of people with a paper or laptop or projector and start telling people of what you have experts on…..
First day in class all seems to be confusing but there comes the most amazing scenario a course with three lectures, how cool is that? Oh i thought they were also students but their knowledge was beyond my expectations about the course but only to learn later that they are on the lecture panel. Then i went home wondering if i was at the right class or not.
Week two come and pass because i couldn’t attend the class due to family commitment but my mind never stopped from asking what a facilitation skill up until week three started is.
There we are in week three and they speaking about change and people became emotional about the subject but at least am catching up to understand my first day question about the course I took myself in to. I am an introvert and am wondering still that how will it be of help from this course if am with people who can speak and laugh without thinking much. As I am still wondering about that. Ros asked which type of brainer are we? There i am left brainer haha haha and it is said you are a logical thinker and too conscious to say…………….
That got me thinking again about my partner. Oh thanks God now i know myself so i might have to be careful when am dealing with other people for there might be left or right brainers.
Oh my word this class is so interesting i can’t wait for the upcoming Saturday there is so much to learn here……… now my day one question is finding its answers day by day. They said if you are confused in your studies then you are learning surely and surely I am that leaving testimony………

I changed my mind!

FACILITATION: guiding through participation, while respecting other people’s point of view.

I was in a wonderful mood as I walked towards the second class of facilitation skills that Saturday. But as soon as I stepped into the class something knotted in me and my first interaction was to say that maybe I should de-register from this course. As I looked at the disorganized class with chairs all over and tables against the walls, I felt the lack of structure killing me. As group 2 began their facilitation presentation though, I felt myself relax a little. The topic… CHANGE. I laughed inside. I wasn’t sure what to expect and when we were asked to close our eyes and visualize the change in ourselves at ages 10, 16 and 21, I couldn’t help but smile. Why? Well because I was made to remember that I had always allowed change in my life, that change had dominated most if not all of my decisions until that very moment sitting there. My stubbornness to let go and enjoy the change in this class was nonsense I realized.

As the class progressed I found myself more and more engaged. The reflective exercise relating to thinking styles was great. The way we were made to stand in groups based on our scores gave me an idea about how to use this exercise at work for a team building event. I also noticed how excited and passionate people became when “defending” their types of thinking. I was made aware of how we are so alike in our difference and how competitive we can be. To the point that we often forget that collaboration can get you further than being an island on your own. It was a good tool to assist in seeing people I interact with differently. As well as looking at myself to see that sometimes I need to be more flexible and accommodating.

So after all was said and done, another class was over and I decided to take the topic to heart and I changed my mind about facilitation skills.

Accepting change

Saturday session was very touching and made so many people emotional. The topic was about change, it could be a positive or negative change.  I learned that as people we should learn to reflect on changes in our lives and see if there is something we could do differently about it. Change is always good because it makes us think and see things from different perspective. The time that we had to reflect on things that happened to us recently on ten years ago, that was very sensitive. I felt so emotional and resentful at the same time, but after the feedback session I was fine.

Substance or Form

And so this was my AHA moment,  at some point in our lives we would have come across some questions like, would you want to rich or intelligent or beautiful.  If you could have anything what would it be?  If you had asked me this 20 years ago, I would have without a doubt told you that I would rather be rich, cause then I would be able to travel the world and there’s nothing that a pair of red bottoms cannot fix, fast forward to 20 year laters, I still love travelling, however if you asked me this again – my answer would definitely be, a person of substance.

I’ve always said I never want my obituary to reflect my date of birth and my date of death, with nothing significant in between those two dates, and so from this day forth I choose to be a person of substance encased in a fairly good looking form.

Let me not forget to commend the first team on their presentation, being the first up is always nerve wrecking, however they did exceptionally well for just being thrown together for a week – Take a bow! Social media is definitely changing the way in which we communicate and interact with each other, even as I sit and write this blog, this a now become an alternate method of sharing your feelings and expressing yourself, for an old school person like me I would have done it very differently, but I guess the world is moving forward and we either move along with it, or sit back and watch it pass us by!!


Till next time, remember a beautiful soul lives on much longer than a beautiful face



Facilitation Skills as a Discipline

Lecture two was like fireworks. It was lit from the moment group 1 commanded our attention at 8:30am sharp.  This episode in facilitation skills was filled  with new realizations and an array of critical teachings.

The theater and fun element provide by the presentation segment of the lecture was incredibly stimulation and stood out significantly. The feedback sessions post the group’s presentation was good and bad, and I learnt a new way to critique in the form of  ”delta”.  Although there were many positive comments, I couldn’t help noticing that the list of  delta moments was equally long, I guess that holds true to human nature.

When we delved deep into the definitions of facilitations, what stood out the most is that a fascilitator creates the platform and space for purposeful dialogues and collaboration, however the facilitator never seeks to dominate the conversation or steer the conversations and thinking in any particular direction. I couldn’t help looking and thinking of my role as a parent as being a kind of facilitator. I made a note to listen more and create a favourable platform and environment for my children to explore and express themselves.

When Rosslyn explained briefly about mindfulness and the gift of being present in every moment I had an epic aha moment. I have since made an effort to be fully present in the company of my children, cellphone away. I give my full attention and it certainly makes me feel good to give all of me to them.

Saturday mornings will never be the same again!


“Through your own filters”

Sidenote – Backtrack on last week:

  • 1st Blog done.( A great feeling).
  • Our group is on track!


One can only speak to someone through your own filters, according to Roslyn.

…A capturing moment in class.

Filters create different feedback as it exposes more to what you as a person see or heard based on your own life experiences. Therefore, the PLUS DELTA feedback technique has helped me accept critique in a more meaningful way than taking it in a  personal way and this is a form of Mindful Facilitation – the topic of the day.

What is Facilitation?

“Facilitation is a means of enabling people and teams to perform at the highest level possible”. It involves discussion, self-training, teaching through participation and engaging with the people in the group.

I sat with a brand new group today and met the most interesting group of people. Discovering the definition of Facilitation and the essence of new human connection has been quite interesting.

Shifting to theory in our books…. the most interesting part of today that really got me reflecting was on who I am and what I can and should do in my current work situation – this allowed me to dissect and evaluate whether I am stuck in the current or patient or passive… perhaps the fear of the unknown: Tool 9 – Managing substance and form.

This tool tells you as a person where you are at and can help you answer why certain things in your life are not progressing in your workplace. Substance is the qualities, skills, experience, knowledge, and passion one has versus the Form which is the outer shell or the presenting of oneself, looks, sound and feel created.

In this class, I had to learn the hard truth that if I had high substance and low form, that it is, in fact, my own fault. However, still, in confusion to how it is my own fault – this is the part I am self-discovering this week to why it is my own fault. Nevertheless, I am more motivated after this class to increase Form in order to self-actualize into my goals.

Another interesting Facilitating tool is Riding the Tiger by Owen Harrison – his 4 principles and 1 Law brings a new perspective in facilitating and eliminates anxiety as a facilitator. With these tools, I am confident that Facilitation in the future may only be productive and one of the principles our Group 6 will keep in mind for our anxiety purposes.

4 Principles

  1. Whoever comes are the right people
  2. Whatever happens is the only thing that could have
  3. Whenever it starts is the right time
  4. Whenever it’s over, its over

1 Law

The law of 2 feet (If you are not getting value from this facilitation go to another one that you feel will).

We need to care enough about ourselves to give us the best learning experience, let not yourself rob you of yourself. Peace-out!!

Much Better today

“the success of an intervention depends on the internal state of being of the intervener”

this is the first quote i came across when opening my course pack. i found it to be so deep and profound but yet rather so simple and straightforward…LOL get it???

so this is how i digested it from my end and understanding…for any spark of change to have an effect from within …the internal state of being of the intervener must be willing to see the need for change so accept any form of change to occur within and embrace it accordingly and willingly. now this is a small but yet so powerful fact that many of us overlook

much better today…i grasped so much today maybe its because i could relate to what was being taught. i had a lot of ahha moments.


group 2 had their chance of facilitation. their topic was on CHANGE. loved the idea of same bright  outfits. liked their exercises and how thought through they were….

so in summary of what i understood from the groups presentation and the days lesson is…

  1. SHOW UP – this being in heart, mind and soul fully activated. there is power in presence that respects and communicates respectfully
  2. TELL THE TRUTH – without blame or judgement by creating an environment where it is safe for all to express the truth
  3. PAY ATTENTION – to what has heart and meaning
  4. BE OPEN TO OUTCOME – the ability to access wisdom in self and others , build trust in self and others and understand the need for detachment

i got so much out of today not only for myself but got some few tips and eye opening ideas for my children too. this is not an exercise that you only remember because you have written it down. but because i heard and understood it well from class it somehow automatically became part of me and my thinking… how the brain functions and how to look at people beyond the surface. i think more than anything it kinda made me want to explore more on human behavior and how our environment and circumstances can have an effect on our upbringing and growth. also on how one can try get in touch with our ways of learning from an early age to know your strengths from young and possibly even adapting to different methods of learning ….i absorbed more than usual. this is in a nutshell what i withdrew from the days lesson.


Facilitation clarifies, councils, coaches,challenges and nurtures.

I couldn’t believe I was facing one of my worst fears – public speaking!!! And I can now, without a doubt testify that there definitely are different degrees of freaking out….and I was definitely at the peak as class started filling up and we prepared to facilitate.

I must admit that I, like some of my introverted teammates, were kinda silently just wishing the earth would open up and swallow us whole….boots and all…. you know…Needless to say that did not happen and facilitating wasn’t half bad. Being in a team definitely provided a sort of ‘comfort’….I guess it makes it less daunting, knowing you’re not in this alone…

Before we knew it, we had come to the end of our facilitating session and thought we could finally chill…Ross quickly bust our bubble, cos as it turns out, there would be zero chilling involved as our feedback session commenced.

Expecting the worst, I was pleasantly surprised at the feedback received. Especially with the Delta Plus technique that was used….I love how it reinforces positivity and was excited to incorporate it at home and work….definitely a keeper!!!





My introduction in week 2

La-Nes Haney:

I didn’t quite know what to expect and I was anxious since I missed the first week.

I walked into the class and saw the group getting together to present and immediately I felt butterflies in my stomach, already creating my own ideas of what was expected of my group and how I can contribute towards that. My biggest Aha moment came when I saw so many people in the classroom which made me feel like i’m not alone on this journey.

Luckily I connected with some of my class mates to get started and I emailed the lecturer to get assigned to a group – one thing done and then I needed to get blogging. My group leader was very helpful in bringing us up to speed and I’m looking forward to what we can achieve as a team.

I thought the group that presented was really great and set the tone for the rest of the groups.

My observation was that this course is very engaging and that everyone is expected to make a contribution.

One of the things I learned that I can apply going forward is that we have our own filters through which we perceive things especially when giving feedback. Being present or in the moment is very important if you’re going to give feedback but even then, our views may differ. I will aim to apply this notion of being present in my everyday life, sometimes I think when things become a habit or we become so busy “doing” things, we often missing the pivotal moments in life.

The stories we had to read also helped me understand what facilitation is and hearing the views of my class mates put things into perspective. This was the topic we discussed last week.

I’m looking forward to the next class and hope that I can master some of my fears by the end of this course.

Second week of Facilitation

So ,Its our second week of facilitation.I got in early to try and set up the PA system i promised Roslyn but the power in the room wasn’t working so we had to do with out it.

I think I’m starting to get into it.The first team did their presentation I can just imagine what they must have been going through,I would have died if it was me in that team.We all really enjoyed their presentation about social media ,they used the class to participate in which made it fun and entertaining.We did notice that if it wasn’t for some of the audience participants some of their presentations would have fell flat.But over all i gave them a 65% for effort and originality.

I have no idea what we going to do for our presentation.We got together after the class for about 30 minutes to get to chat about the presentation and made a few suggestions.I think it went well if we can only get to decide on a topic and how we going to execute it. I’m so afraid of messing this up I hope to contribute positively to our group.Our guys seem to have some good ideas ,we were supposed to send though ideas on the watts app group but none of us did.My excuse is I don’t like to be the first to do things.

Well that all i have for this blogg.

chat next week .




One step closer

Facilitation allows for interaction between groups of people in an environment that encourages participation.

My view is that the facilitator provides guidance through participation while respecting everyone’s point of view.

There is an aim to facilitation, the aim is for individuals to think and perform at their highest level and to do this confidently.

Facilitation takes place in a formal and in informal environments, which makes me understand the reason behind the unstructured lectures.

This experience will eventually grow and develop individuals to being confident in more formal situations.

We are one step closer to being confident individuals.

High Substance, High Form

This is what I am aiming for since my last session in class last week Saturday. I am one of the lucky ones whom always get a compliment for a job well done, for me this mean Substance…. What I’ve worked on this week was my dress code, I am always in a pair of soft pants, jeans, pumps or flat shoes – all the comfortable stuff you know.  Well! this week I had on a pair of heels and a dress for a change, everyone was shocked including me:-)

I know now that Substance and Form go hand in hand, looking good is just as important as knowledge and your passion for whatever you do in life.

The first group facilitated the first part of the morning session and they blew us out of the water, they did an excellent job. We all learned a lot and they’ve managed to make us more curious about communicating via social media and which one is more practical. Thank you group 1!

The articles we had to read at home was very interesting and it made me think hard and long on whom the facilitator/s are, I never thought that there will be more than 1 facilitator in some of the stories. This was an eye opener for reals.

I enjoyed the fact that we get to meet new faces every week, thank you Ros for asking us to split into new groups for discussion work.

Looking forward to Saturday!




So, it’s a few hours before our group presents on ‘Facilitating Change” and suddenly the nerves are kicking in. One minute I’m thinking, “I hope we don’t let each other down” and the next minute I’m thinking, “Jitters aren’t all bad, harness that nervous energy and transform it into positive enthusiasm and you’ll be golden”. It’s safe to say I’ll go with the latter and  in true group two style, we are all in agreement.

Our topic is Facilitating Change;

What is facilitation  anyway(let’s just start there)?  It is the process of promoting connection through trust and respect for other people and  their views. It is also the  ability to make use of ones  expertise in  enabling  people to achieve a consensus on a particular goal. Now in the process of facilitating change it is critical to engage all relevant parties on the pending changes, often people reject change due a lack of trust, poor communication and a lack of respect for their views…hence the importance of building connectivity, trust and a sense of inclusion. There’s more to this, but you’ll have to wait for our presentation.

Now back to our presentation, for anyone not born with natural eloquence, public speaking can be remarkably nerve-racking. Naturally, our group has rehearsed multiple times and hope to deliver an enthusiastic, thought provoking and interactive presentation. I ask that you all come with an open mind and a willingness to participate( sense of inclusion), you don’t want to find yourself recovering from a serious  case of FOMO(no connectivity).

Looking forward to tomorrow morning.


Below is a list of our references, I hope that you will find these useful going forward.

Nancy Bridges (2005). Moving Beyond the Comfort Zone in Psychotherapy Self-Revelation: In the Therapeutic Relationship, NASW, 1-25

Christopher Smith  (2017).  7 Fun and Engaging Change Management Exercises.

Katherine Holt (2006). Facilitating Organizational Change. Peakinsight: People changing the world, 1-72

How Do We Define Facilitation?

After breaking into groups, we were asked to read and discuss the definition of facilitation found in the student course workbook. That sounds easy right? Not so much… the definition is broad and it has so many important points which makes facilitation stands out from teaching, lecturing or couching. One has to think for a moment before making a decision with respect to what they can ‘overlook’ in the summary, or when attempting to highlight points that seem just a little bit more important.

After deliberating for a while, our group can with a definition which attempt to define facilitation as a concept that is unique compared to other forms of learning. The group concluded that facilitation is about creating connection, trust and also respecting other people’s views. The facilitator must have a certain level of knowledge and expertise on the subject that they are facilitating. Further to that, facilitation is about taking care of number one. This means being well prepared and knowing the topic extensively

This last part reminded me of Ros during our first class. She explained that by taking care one number one, you give your best to your audience, which in return can create some level of connection to the audience, gain trust and respect.

Get In Motion…

Week 2! This week was more exciting and I looked forward to it, since the first group was going to be facilitating the first project. I must say it was quite interactive for a group that went first!

In my experience, it’s always intimidating to pave the way or lay the foundation for others especially when it’s a learning experience. I have never really liked to be in the spot-light, but here we learn to perform our weaknesses and turn them into strengths!

In my group, we concluded that “facilitation is an inclusive way whereby you work with your audience in getting them to come up with their own conclusion!”

Today’s mantra “turn your weakness into a strength!”

out of my comfort zone

last week was my second class and I felt the same as the first class. I am used to my own space simply because I find it very difficult to adjust to new environment and do not easily get along with a group of people or individuals for that matter. I am a reserved individual and reluctant to share ideas and I will have to deal with my fear if you can call it that way. the truth is I did not know what facilitation is and most definitely have learned a lot from my group. I have learned the difference between Lecturing and facilitating though I am not sure if I’d fall for facilitation as it requires self teaching and engaging with other and like I said, my weak point exactly. I love my space and its not even funny but hey not with facilitation. If I knew or if I was told before hand I would have not registered it. the group presentation was not too bad and I am so proud of the lady presenting about Facebook she has a courage because for once I though we have a similar character there. She is not too loud and she is definitely an introvert. I started to gain courage and hoped that was with her in that group but hey… my turn will come. What I like about myself is that I am not gonna give up on me. I am going to do so…… you go girl……. you got this covered.


Facilitation is the creation of an enabling environment that allows individuals to express themselves meaningfully, it further allows for free thinking where there are no right or wrong answers.

I am a true testament to the above statement. The facilitation class that I am currently attending has unhinged something in me that I never knew existed, and this in turn has released my vocal cords and all of a sudden I have a voice, and guess what? I love the sound of my voice! I am hearing it for the first time, and what excites me most is that I actually have an audience!

Do you know how powerful it feels when you have these eager eyes all glued on you, awaiting to hear the wisdom you are about to share and when you do share, you experience the silent gratitude from them saying: Wow that was insightful! That’s what facilitation is. It allows you to voice your thoughts because it does not judge, you are an individual and have individual ideas that are different from another individual that is truly liberating!

I actually look forward to unit meetings, which I used to detest like poison. I come prepared, I have learnt from the ones who’ve always seemed to shine at these meetings with their contribution. I sometimes actually set the scene for the discussion! To my surprise this makes it easier to be part of some of the decisions taken.
Yes, I have truly been transported to a world I never knew existed, the world of self expression!!


What is Facilitation

Facilitation is the creation of an enabling environment that allows individuals to express yourselves meaningfully it further allows for free thinking where there are no right or wrong answers.

The fist team presented and they used the following skills:

Fish in the bowl, Feedback, Checking -in Checking- Out Process and the Balcony and Small group discussion.

I have learned that facilitation is about telling the truth.

team one presentation was soo interesting for me as I have said before that I am not a person who use social networking. Team 1 presented most of the social links nicely for me and I ended up thinking to join them. What an awesome learning, I also enjoyed the game skill they used to present.






In My Element

Walking into class Saturday morning, 30 minutes early to meet up with my group, I notice group one preparing for the task. Looking at them, I can’t help but feel nervous, not because I’m presenting or planning on participating, but because I knew that my turn will soon come – and that this was a task to be assessed by my peers.

As the session begins all I’m thinking about is how they’re going to execute this as they have not done it before. At first glance I notice how everyone is expectant and waiting to see how the session will pan out.

As early as foundation phase, I’ve never been one to participate in lessons no matter how passionate I was about a subject, I’ve always shied away from saying anything – even if I think I know an answer to a question.  All my life, that’s just the person I’ve been. Until…

…I volunteered myself in assisting the group for the game-show formatted session around communicating via social media, a battle of the platforms (may the best platform win) .

My experience as a participant:

  • speaking is not an art
  • participation is the best way to educate
  • people are always looking to learn from you
  • the mouth speaks what the heart is full of, you cannot impart knowledge that you don’t have

Overall experience, having worked in social media for four years, it was fun to be part of the winning team. Needless to say that I was in my element!

Embarrassment with a lesson or two

This picture sums up my experience in class on Saturday – #embarrassed.

It started all fun and games until I put up my hand to give a comment and all of the sudden I was thrown into the deep end.  I became apart of a full blown social media war.  And after all of that, the social media platform that I was (forcefully) defending, lost… “Please, while you are at it, let’s just at to the embarrassment”.  However, I seemed to have survived this time!  And a little ball of jello-confidence grew inside me.

I learnt two valuable lessons in class.

1. Asking for help will allow you to do so much more, even though you are doing less (thinking face). Yes, this might not make sense but it does to me, since I nearly had a join a new group (new people…NOOOOOOOOO), after becoming so attached to the one I already have.   Supporting and standing by each other is what makes a group strong, efficient and just the best one out there – we have this.

2. Feedback.  Since I am a get-to-the-point-person, I say it like it is.  I have learnt that you can still say it, however your wording is really important in order not to be negative.

Although these might seem like little baby lessons to someone else, words cannot described how this group of mine and simple things in class have had a ripple effect in my life.  Even when a group member very quickly told another to listen first then speak…hahaha hilarious, but a lesson none the less.

Tools gained through active and experiential learning

Group 1 had their facilitation week and I had fun, I felt engaged. The Delta method was introduced in week 1 and only in week 2 I realised the true function of it. In my profession I need to provide people with constant feedback and I have learned through the Delta method a more constructive way of giving feedback for example instead of saying ” you could have done better, you can say what you could have done it differently by……”. Through the Delta method it was interesting to see how our brain filters, the Delta -,  was a lot more than Delta +.  Furthermore, we had group discussions regarding the stories we had to read and it was interesting to see the different perspectives and interpretation of one story, once again I had a worthwhile EXPERIENCE.

Whoever comes are the right people..

Facilitation is defined  as active learning through an experience or through others who convey their experience. One experience I have to share and that I used from the material that was covered in class from Module 2, was about the 4 Principles from the book called “Riding the Tiger” specifically the first point- Whoever comes are the right people. I celebrated my birthday and was so nervous about everything. When arriving at the venue and after having a moment to myself, I realised that everything worked out exactly the way it was supposed to and all who mattered were there and made the occasion one worth remembering as I loved each moment after I stopped worrying about what cannot be controlled. This class is definitely suitable for me and applicable toward daily scenarios and how to effectively and maturely handle life with grace.

New Day has dawned upon me! New way of doing it!

Facilitation is an Inclusive way whereby you work with your audience in getting them to come to a conclusion on the given question using their participation.

We have been programmed for so long to accept the process of imparting knowledge in a particular way, so much so that anything that is out of what we deem as the norm seems peculiar. Most of our parents have raised us and taught so many things in a fashion that they also were raised by their parents, their schools, church or the society at large. This form of learning is through listening and digesting what you have been told and given by the individual running the lesson and your part is to accept, inherit and perform. This has been my normal as well for so long and it has been the only viable option for me to enable those coming after me and my peers in the working place.

Well facilitation is not just about giving you an opportunity to learn but it enables one to use the knowledge and experience that you already possess to learn what is intended for you to learn. It is the ability to creatively present learning content in a way that encourages participation from your audience. In the process of doing so, the facilitator systematically works with his audience to obtain knowledge and information, working collaboratively to accomplish their objectives. This moves the whole process away from the one-sided form of learning we are used to, to a collaborative effort between the facilitator and his audience.

What I gathered from the second lesson in the facilitation class is that, students/ the audience are encouraged to take more control of their learning process. The facilitator is there to provide resources and support and this then allows the audience to learn from each other as they identify and implement solutions to challenges, problems or questions at hand. In essence they become responsible for their learning assessment.

This for me, it a highlight and a breakthrough in so many ways. If I can be in a position to in any avenue of my life to render a lesson collaboratively with my intended audience without making them feel like I am imposing and pushing unto them the knowledge, I would have achieved my goal.

# Week 2 # social media quizzes # facilitation

Thought process = to thought leaders…. My definition of a facilitator…

Well week two pretty much got off to the same start as week one, by know I thought I would get used to the idea of sitting in a huge circle but guess what it still felt slightly abnormal.

First up group one got their presentation up and running with drawing volunteers from the audience, very brave move and one that definitely broke the ice and got the rest of us engaged, the topic of presentation was communication via social media. I must say I was impressed with their overall confidence and presentation. It always tough been the first to do anything and having to hear feedback from fellow group members is always tougher. I think the lesson that stuck with me today was that every bit of feedback positive and delta makes you want to improve on your basic skills and take them further. Without constructive feedback from fellow colleagues we never really know if were successful or not?

Am finally beginning to get the grasp of what this course is all about J, for me it is about the change, passion, personal stories and commitment you put in as a person that will reflect to everyone else and eventually yourself. There is a lot to take in 3hr every Saturday and having to constantly be engaged is challenging, am starting to use the “check in “ process in my mind to help me stay active and focused on so many topics of conversations taking place at the same time.

Overall am beginning to enjoy this class even though it is completely unstructured slightly crazy and much unexpected, looking forward to what the next one brings!

Facilitation Start-Up Guide

I must remember doors close at 8:30 sharp!
late to class again. ‎ I must stop this from becoming a habit or I will be locked out next week!

I walked in while group one was presenting and I had to stand by the door until they were done.
I must say I was impress with the way group one presented(quiz show). Been the first to present is never easy.
‎Especially after last week’s class of confusion and no structure. The idea of the game show was top notch! You can see the fun this team was having in presenting… teamwork Hooyah

After break we resumed to sorting people out into groups again!!! There has to be an easier way to handle these logistics! It is time consuming and loud.
Into groups we go to discuss the stories we read. The prince and the magician! Really deep stuff! My favourite story.
What is your take on “gardening”?

My first Aha moment in class on what facilitation really means.
For me it was “ Facilitation is the process where a facilitator guides a group of people in a session, to share idea, opinions, experience and expertise in order to achieve a common goal and agreeable action plan.”
My take home from today #Show up/Tell the truth/Pay attention/Be open to outcome!

That’s all for today forks.

Mindful ~ Mind is Full

­Upon pondering F. Scott Fitzgerald’s words in The Great Gatsby that “Reserving judgements is a matter of infinite hope”

Disclosure: I have an English test this week so Literature has occupied a great deal of my mind. It has somehow, without approved notice, taken up full residency so literary references may pop up in a paragraph or two. Be aware 🙂

Now, understanding this quote to mean as human beings, we optimistically believe we will eventually be rid off of our  judgemental inclination. A character trait that I believe all of us to some degree battle with, either by judging ourselves or others. I know that I have often attributed  slow progress in any area of my life to be the result of indiscipline or have concluded without self-reflection that my life purpose is too vaguely defined that it will not be achieved. Not knowing that other factors beyond my understanding are at play.

My heart was touched  when in reading my Facilitation Skills workbook, I came across these words “Compassion is the capacity to understand that none of us have the full picture and can only act out of the frame through which we see the world. Humility is the ability to understand that the same applies to us”. 

What I took from this is that I need to show compassion to those around me and to myself as well. I’ve seen that as I navigate through life,  I learn a great deal and with knowledge comes the assumption that I hold in my head a vivid picture of what the world is. I am too quick to define life and describe how it is to be lived and if ever anyone holds a differing view to this, my sisters usually, as if in reflex; I judge them.

A challenge I’ve set for myself this week is to exercise compassion. Knowing I am walking a thin line between mindfulness and my mind being full, I will without end think it possible to reserve judgement in effort to bring forth compassion.


Mindful Facilitation – Communicating via Social Media

So today’s group facilitation was pretty good. The members of the group each represented a different social media platform. The way that the different platforms were introduced was very effective, with members of the group each wearing a different name sign around their necks. From the get go i was aware as to what the presentation will be about. As a person that does not use all social media platforms on a daily basis, I did learn a lot about the different platforms. i enjoyed the energetic vibe that was brought forward by the team, and the audience were also involved. Something i do feel that could have been done better, is that the different platforms could’ve been discussed a bit more in depth. yes the presentation was fun, but at some point i felt like the focus was more on the fun part than on the learning part. That being said, overall it was a pleasant experience, and effective facilitating.

What is Facilitation

Last week I was asked the question of what I believe facilitation is.  So I began to reflect on my own practice as a facilitator and why I believe that facilitation skills are the gateway to great leadership, great parenting and being a good partner or friend.

Throughout our lives we are conditioned to believe that we are “less than”.  From a very young age, most of us were brought up to strive for more and be better than we already were.  The message –  you are not already amazing just as you are.  Research shows that we are exposed to 17 criticisms to 1 praise as we grow up and it seems that parents and teachers believe that this is the correct behaviour to encourage children to grow toward excellence.

The exact opposite is indeed true.

I firmly believe that everyone has all the resources they need for self mastery, for leadership and for achieving greatness. A good facilitator begins with mindfulness, presence and an endless search for self knowledge.  Through ever increasing self understanding, we are then able to facilitate others to look deeply within and find the the awesome parts of themselves that are buried there.

So for me facilitation is the act of enabling people to get in touch with those inner parts of themselves that, if revealed, make them great in their own eyes and those of the world.

So to sum up:

A good facilitator Is one who can help people navigate their own unique journey through uncharted waters to attain the highest possible success.

A good facilitator encourages people to go within rather than “go without” and realise their own potential.

A good facilitator begins with self.