I did mention in my very first blog how giddy I was with anticipation for what was to come from these workshops right? I must say I continue to be pleasantly surprised.
This week I had the privilege of attending a business breakfast which could not have come at a better time (alignment, when the student is ready the master always shows up). The overall message that day was in line with what we had discussed in last week’s workshop and this challenged my thinking around the role of a leader.
You see power can be given and taken away but not influence. True leaders don’t derive their authority from their positional power but rather from the influence they’ve earned through service, I believe that you are a better leader when you are not trying too hard to be one. Unlike our friend David Scott in our case study, David didn’t understand the concept of leaders being served in direct proportion to their servant leadership of their teams. When leaders abuse their positional authority, their character authority is weakened.
So with that said, the SCARF model was a big AHA moment for me…I’m talking 1000w light bulb moment.
STATUS: My take on this is very simple, “who died and made me so much more important than the next person”? Often when society “elevates” us based on our achievements we start to feel like god’s gift to humanity, I just say SIT DOWN,BE HUMBLE nobody has time for that.
CERTAINTY: There’s a certain level of comfort I derive from being able to pre-empt my next move and as a result I can go through the same thing over and over with a fine-tooth comb until it feels right (notice how I spend a lot of time all up in my feelings…(Kinaesthetic much?). I observe how even in business people won’t get into certain “deals” because they are not sure, they can’t put their finger on it but it just doesn’t feel right.
AUTONOMY: Don’t even mention autonomy, I’m such a control freak and anyone who knows me will tell you that I always have to have my finger on the pulse of everything that happens around me because god forbid something goes wrong and it’s not on my watch (another solar eclipse maybe, only this time it might be permanent…I’d be stripped of every ounce of independence).
RELATEDNESS: This part is pretty much my take on our souls being aligned, as mentioned in my previous blog if our souls are not aligned, I’ll send you some love and light then keep it moving. Again if I feel that there is no trust or common goals I walk away, I hesitate to even do business with someone if we are not “VIBING”.
FAIRNESS: Often I hear people say “too bad, life isn’t fair” and I think what ever happened to empathy (in my feelings again)? I think we should all try to be kind because everyone we meet is fighting some kind of battle that we know nothing about.
Now that I’ve spent all that time on the centre stage of the Public Arena (starting to feel like Floyd Mayweather with all this attention) I’ll leave it here for today and retreat to the Private and Unconscious Arena where I’m most comfortable.
Till next time, remember to throw kindness around like confetti.