Seeing with new eyes

So I missed the class about guiding change. I just hate missing facilitation class 😏🙄

Presentation time!!! 

The preparation that went into my presentation was phenomenal. I had a great partner and I’m so thankful and blessed to have had the privilege of working with her — Lindiwe Chuene 💕🌸we have in common great ethics 👌🏽👭🥇

I’m a positive person and I always go out of my way to keep it that way. I strongly believe that how you feel about something is a sign of what you are creating. 

Lindiwe and I were so excited about our topic, we found the topic Seeing with New Eyes very broad and the only thing running though our minds was to keep it fun and informative without turning our facilitation session into a therapy section. 

Seeing with new eyes for me meant going through life, breaking the focus of negative energy. Negative energy paralysis your thoughts and actions. Forcing your energy on the positive helps magnify the positive things in your life. We have so much to be thankful for 🙏🏽💕

It was great to see our colleague’s participating as we discussed different emotions we deal with in our daily lives and what type of energy’s those emotions drew from us. There’s so many challenges that people are faced with and don’t know how they can we clear negative energy so that they can see life with new eyes that are positive. 

Check in!!! How do you feel about fire 🔥 Made me notice the different types of emotions and energy’s towards one thing. Someone else had a positive or negative feelings towards the same thing. I also noticed that the eyes sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend.

However, I believe we explained the power of being positive profoundly. We learned that life is composed of ups and downs. Learning to get through the downs is key to being successful. Without obstacles, difficulties, struggles, and challenges, life wouldn’t make much sense. You become stronger, more compassionate, and more grateful when you strongly believe in your capacity to persevere. 

In conclusion, energy is everything  – your thoughts begin it, your emotions amplify it and your actions give energy momentum. This will determine which eyes one choose to use. 

Always choose to See With New Eyes 💕🌈✨

Seeing with New Eyes

Great presentation by Latoya and Lindiwe, the team upped their game by providing coffee and biscuits 🙂 It was well researched and the exercise was well implemented. The use of tools such as pictures and lollipop emojis worked well.

I learnt that negative and positive energy can influence how you see things in your daily life. We can all look at the same picture but see and feel different emotions. This includes both positive and negative feelings.

We did a case study called “The Girl and the Sailor”. When reflecting on it we had to base our understanding on assumptions and beliefs. This brought us back to the Decision Spiral where we sense, select, interpret, feel, assume, believe, conclude, delay then say or do accordingly. We should stick to the theory of “my truth” as I see it. Each one of us has our “own truth” as per our beliefs, norms and values. The Recticular Activating System (RAS) made me realise how it filters incoming information to the brain that is significant to me eg. a goal. This is specific to what is relevant to me at that moment in time. We were given an exercise to remove our watches and cellphones and to draw the front. We drew what was important to us and missed the finer detail. This was a good example of the RAS theory. This enables me to look further before I make assumptions in my daily life and to always ask “what happened to you”?

We discussed our draft essays further. A good start was to use the blogs we had written and put them together. To be a good facilitator we need to get the group involved in a conversation either in small groups or plenary. Use the different types of tools, chat 30% and let the audience chat the other 70%. Stay neutral and nod in acknowledgment, you don’t need to agree or disagree. We should use references and there is not restrictions on the style of the essay. It is basically what we have learnt, what have we done with what we have learnt and what have we learnt from what we have done? Most importantly it is “My Story” and we must remember to be kind.

Seeing with new eyes

Problems in life are inevitable. Have you ever met someone who had the perfect life? We all have some sort of tragic story to share, it could be something we heard, read or even experienced. In my group today, I heard a story of a woman who was hurt by her husband and this resulted in divorce. She is a strong woman who decided to leave him and move. It is a story that is close to my heart because I am child of divorced parents and my dad cheated on my mum several times. In the early stages of my mother’s life, she was aware that my dad was cheating on her, yet she did not leave him. She hoped he would change and forgave him every time. I vowed to myself that I would not be that woman. I would not stay if my husband cheated and I would not depend on him the way my mother depended on my father. My mother and I clearly view a situation like this with different perspectives. We are so different yet so much a like…it is scary!

Learning Agility

Check in got me in the mood…what gives yiu energy or joy. Step Class!!!💃🏽🤸🏽 its a pick me up for me, outside of the feel good hormones that follow after exercise sreo class is my piece of mind where im not in any role and Im just myself 😊plus im really good 🤣😜

Getting to honouring differences, a good exercise and a great take home is we all bring something different to the table to make something work. This is something that we most probably all knew before class but putting it into practice is somewhat different. It gave me a chance to reflect and be authentic about respecting other peoples talents

Then i discovered HUMILITY- i dont know 100% of the story and COMPASSION -neither does anyone else👐🏽. The Jahari Window jist pit into context some of the topics that i have had interest in ” i would like to know what others opinion of me is and for my close circle i want to believe their truth in how they experience me-BLIND SPOT-

And i got to understand Resistance and the signs that come with it, and initially i was happy with noticing and let it be and getting on with life. Now i got a different perspective in going under the water, people are resistant when they feel threatened and because i now know this its on me to act like a person that knows better. I love the saying ” You do what you know best, when you know better you do better” So its better to nip the resistance in the bud before having to feal with a war. It makes a better facilitator

Guiding Change

Oreng mood??☕🍵🍂🍃🔥📃 Heh?? Wowza , the set up looking stunning, alresdy im looking forward to it, and im also shaking in my boots because levels!!!🤣😭. The ambiance was nice and chilled, Ros says its the effects of drinking something hot so check in was good and the entire piece and its story telling discussion and activity was great

So making decisions, a process that we go through on the daily whether serious or not amd its influenced so mich by unconscious bias. Something we are cannot always control or change. I remember walking into my first job and most of my males colleagues assuming im fresh from high school and im the assistant. I also remember looking at MANY people and automatically making assumptions about t who they are and what they are about.🙈 We all do it, because of the perceptions we regard as truths which can be questioned and Nosisi asked if they are not truths then what do we do? Do we walk around unsure of who we are, what we believe is due to fear of believing into somethimg that is only someones perception??

I am ok with the unconcious bias i come with, i am aware of what it is. I am also willing to recognise and accept the same in others. For now this what is my truth and it will change as I unravel who I am and what my purpose in this life is. I choose to be conscious of my judging of others and if i can correct it right there by asking “How did you get to that point” and they understand their decision iceberg before embarking on my own. I believe with practice it will be easier and its something im willing to try

Honouring Difference.

Humility means I don’t have 100% of the picture. Compassion means so do others not have it!

The importance of maintaining “Neutrality” few and far in between will you find people who master this skill , when facilitating its important to be aware of this.

30 March 2019 this class was so informative, one has gathered lot and can go back and apply. 

Case study-Electric and Lighting was a large manufacturing firm and was considered one of the best companies to work for, However change of the old CEO to a new incumbent saw the staff moral and performance for staff decline rapidly. It is not only vital to have clear communication practiced across the entire organization and have buy-in from all stake holders, however taking people through change management is key. You need to walk people down the path of your vision and make sure that all is crystal, with the objectives you want them to achieve, where the business is going, the role that they will play and how they will get there.  At the end employees objectives and the company needs to be aligned and all have to sing from the same hem sheet so that the point of departure is unified.

Going below the waterline is paramount to gage where peoples thoughts are with new change, makes a significant difference, this will allow for you properly manage the change process. 

‘The Resistance Barometer” carefully assessing where people or at which stage they are on the resistant barometer is key. This gives you the upper hand and ensures that you prevent them reaching a point of no return or the ‘WAR’ stage of the barometer.  Understanding this methodology will also help with managing expectations and addressing concerns in time.

The scarf model! if you have an understanding of this you will ensure that all areas are covered. Status- Sense of worth, Certainty- sense of clarity, Autonomy-sense of control, Relatedness-sense of safety ,Fairness-sense of fair exchange.

Story Telling

From all the feedback received and information shared on our group, its quite evident that Nathi and Busisiwe really went the extra mile. In light of all information gathering from our facilitation course its pleasing to see that my fellow class mates are soaking in all information and putting it to practice. To have the class go through an in-depth experience of story telling and make it so intermate and real deserves a round of applause.

NB! Its not only about how a story is told, but how one receives it! Unconscious bais, amazed at how quickly our brains reach a conclusion about someone or something, without giving it or them an opportunity. I’m stilling grappling with the notion of  ‘Not making reality of any perceptions’  but allowing myself to have a clear and sober mind in first understanding and gather enough information before reaching a conclusion.

Learning from Life

The opening was such an opener! Conscious, Subconscious & Unconscious. Mathews and Dimakatso out did themselves and shared so much knowledge on how to be more aware of your state of mind.

We touched on different learning styles and it was interesting to know which category I fall into!! through leaning it is important to be mindful of a diverse audience and that each individual has their own learning style.

We look at three main houses in learning styles which are *Visual* Auditory* & *Kinestatic*  and based on your learning style you will find it more easier to process and store information.

Learning from experience. The David Kolb experiential learning model, concrete experience(CE), reflective observation(RO), abstract conceptualization(AC) and active experimentation(AE). I found that learning through experience allows for one to have a much greater understanding and is able to reflect in oppose to the traditional approach of learning through theory only, furthermore the more fun we make learning through experience the more solid and permanent it becomes!

Building Relationships

Now this was one of the classes I really enjoyed, no I’m not being bias cause it was the day that Noma and I did a stella performance in our facilitation lesson. But wow the teaching that unfolded on this day remains top of my list from a professional and personal space.

Lets start here, The Principal OF Detachment, “As a facilitator, detachment means to deeply care from an objective place”  4 principals, Whoever comes are the right people, Whatever happens is the only thing that could have, Whenever it starts its the right time, When its over its over. That alone speaks volumes to me,  to allow for situations and the time that they happen to happen, without questioning. Never say this happened to me BUT…This happened for me.

The law of two feet, my lawed! never in my life will I forget this nor fail to apply this law. Dankie Rosslyn shem!  now this cuts so deep and so close to home, we sometimes sacrifice our time and energy for nothing. To please others, not come across as being rude, to be accommodative. Consider the above and assess and see if to yourself, are you not being rude, unaccommodative, disrespectful and unfair, by sticking around where there is nothing to gain or contribute. The thought of torturing yourself in that way is unpardonable.

Let me state this law,  and with the benefit of hindsight you take a look at your life and see how in the past you have been unjust to yourself. Below see

“If at any time during your time togather you find yourself in any situation where you are neither learning nor contributing use your two feet, go someplace else. This is so powerful, lets leave it here!

The Stretch Zone, People never learn if they are in their comfort zone, especially for too long.

The balcony and the dance, Remember! it is so vital to take a step back from the action, and look down from the top to see what is happening. We get so caught in the rat race and commotion that we forget to take a step back and  breath to assess.

What a mouthful! now you understand why this class stands heads above shoulders for, me thus far!  I’m out……xoxoxo

Social Media

Really enjoyed the light heart and very easy approach to this lesson that Frank and Loyiso took. Understanding that social media can be and good and a bad platform to voice opinions. Its can also work to ones favour and detriment if not used correctly!

The more you learn about and how to use social media the beneficial it will become to you.


The single story a complete eye opener! its amazing how we all have our own/single views and tend to make reality out of our perceptions. After carefully listening to “The danger of a single story” by Chimamande Ngozi I now understand how important it is to not have a single view about anything but to take time to gather knowledge in understand a particular subject, person or debate.

Where do I start, Ok maybe here. The thought of having to share my personal life story with complete strangers that I recently met  and was still analyzing, did not cross mind infact not in a million years did I think I would have to do that. On the 23rd of February 2019 all that changed, walked into my first lesson of facilitation skills still trying to convince myself that having to wake up at 6:00am on a weekend will be fine and will all be worth it at the end. Gosh! I still struggle with it but anyway, I walked into a class same new faces I met at my Tuesday class (first day at Wits) and everything was still foreign to me. The people, lecturer, campus and having to walk to class with a school bag Lol, abit shy I take a seat preparing my brain for this hectic lesson I would need to endure for 4hours but little did I know that it would be nothing as I had anticipated.

We start with Rosslyn(the facilitator) introducing herself and giving us her contact information,  the normal ice breaker, the teachers does a get to know and she gets to know the class kind of arrangement. So I sit there thinking I will quickly give my name surname etc and we carry on with class, oh boy was I not prepared for what was to happen, we greet and introduce ourselves and next thing Rosslyn asks us to tell our story. Huh? was my first thought, OK! I’m lost, she then opens the floor and tells us her story and I’m like ooh now I see, let me quickly think up something that will sound close to perfect and that will be my story done. But after listening to 3-4 stories I realize that my fellow class mates are being authentic, real and are genuinely telling their stories, I was in awe. Sitting there I thought to myself that my story was a difficult one, I believe that life had been unfair to me, but I quickly suspended that thought after listening to other people and how they faced adversity and managed to pull through.

Yes I told my story that day, however what I took what of the lesson that day was more rewarding for me, never think that you have had it bad or even good until you have walked in someone else’s shoes. The power of truly listening to the next person without being judgmental/ prejudice . Importantly we all have a story to tell.

What a mighty God we serve, he created the heavens and earth and all the diverse people, places and cultures in it. And here is the amazing part, we all have our unique life stories and journeys and there is not even a single duplicate in each one. Wow what a mighty God we serve.

Week 7 Story Telling

I am always inspired by people that go above and beyond! Nathi and Sis’ Busi did just that. They gave us a full experience of the power of story telling. The room set-up and the presentation communicated how passionate and dedicated they are to this course. I was moved and of course intimidated because it is my turn to present next Saturday. The standard is so high! I am in a panic… but I learned a lot from them and I also realized that there’s different ways to tell a story. It all depends on how you listen and receive it.

We also discussed about unconscious bias. It is amazing to see how much we are victims of this. Assumptions don’t limit the other person, they limit your ability to learn about that person.

Keep an open mind and understand that things are not always how they seem to be.



Life experience out of South Africa.

The is a say that says” go places and learn different things from what is known to you” On the 29 March 2019 I visited this place. I was attending a congress. Gosh to see is to learn and to learn is to know. People convening an elective congress without a simple thing, AGENDA. I was so shocked and divastated. for one to get experience have to explore and this is was happened to me.

I visited Mauritius, i learned that not all everything we do are right and not everything we does is wrong. I have realised that comparing this country with our country South Africa there are lots of differences. South Africa have 11 official languages while Mauritius only have two and truly speaking that is an aging country meaning (with few young people) compared to South Africa. I can write more but let me put a stop here. This is one of my life experience out of my beloved country.

Week 6 Honoring differences

In this session we learned a very important lesson. Lindi and Amisha did a beautiful presentation about “The power of we”. It was so amazing to engage in the activity they gave us and to see that even though we are different we are still stronger working together and using our strengths to make the team succeed. These ladies were so calm and the presentation was so well planned! Amazing work!!!

Also, Rosslyn assisted us with understanding different perspectives and going under the water line. I found that lesson so profound because it allowed me to start looking deeper than what I see and to also respect the next person’s perspective. I am applying this strategy at work and I am enjoying my work environment because I have a better understanding of my colleagues’ behaviors.

I am grateful for these life lessons.



Week 5 Learning from life

In this session I was actually in shock by Dima and Matthews. These guys presented like they were professional facilitators!!! It was absolutely great and well planned. Learning about the three levels of consciousness was life changing. Thank you guys!!!

I enjoyed the class session and identifying different learning styles is my passion. I appreciate facilitators and lectures that acknowledge that learners learn differently. The different learning styles can be implemented in classrooms and when students are given a chance to be assessed on this, learning grows significantly.

It was good to know how my fellow classmates learn 🙂



Week 3 Social Media

Wow!!! I am amazed by Loyiso and Frank. They were so confident and professional. The presentation was simple yet effective. Well done guys. I enjoyed discussing about the power of social media, I think I sometimes take for granted how powerful social media is, it can even affect your career and professional reputation.

Our amazing facilitator Rosslyn gave us important tips on conducting facilitation. She also mentioned that during a facilitation the participants must take more airtime than the facilitator. She also allowed us to learn through experience the difference between a teacher, coach, lecturer, mentor, gardener and facilitator. And to think most times I assumed they are all the same. I am grateful I know the difference.

This is another lesson I applied in my work and daily life 🙂



Week 2

This was a very beautiful session, we learned about the importance of a “check-in” and how this can help us understand different participation levels. Sometimes participants are not in a good space and they display with decreased interest during the session. a check-in will assist with identifying those members and understanding why they would hold back.

Also, we discussed about the dangers of a single story. People usually hold on to information that they get from sources they trust and they do not really bother to do research of their own. You can build wrong conclusions by just focusing on one story. It is important to open your mind and allow yourself to find a full story.

Lastly, we learned about the rules of facilitation. A facilitator must provide the audience with substance and form.

I truly enjoy these classes and I learn so much. It is truly a life changing experience.



Guiding Change

What a journey this has been. Everyday you learn new things and it changes you for the better. Storytelling is the oldest form of education, everything is a story. Stories explain beauty and they can shift perceptions. Stories empower.

” If you are trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be” Maya Angelou. This proves to me that the word normal is based on people’s beliefs, opinions and expectation of you. I have learnt that conformity bias makes us shift our own opinions so that we can be accepted by others.

I have been judging people based on their appearance and the same happens to me. This level of thinking limits your experience and it robs you of an experience. I will pause and reflect before making an assumption as we all are a work in progress. Moving foward, I will listen to understand instead of jumping to conclusions because everyone has a story to tell and a lesson to teach. What an experience.

The Power of Storytelling

Storytelling is the most powerful way of putting ideas into the real world because stories have a transformative power to allow us to see the world in a different way than we do if we just encounter it on our own. Stories are therefore an entry point to understanding a different experience of life. Stories have power because they can be inspirational and helpful in understanding various patterns; storytelling is therefore not merely an intellectual exercise but a personal and emotional experience because individuals can connect with one other through storytelling.

Storytelling can shape, strengthen or challenge our opinions and values because it provides an opportunity for individuals to learn from one another’s experience. When a story catches our attention and engages us, we are more likely to absorb the message and meaning within it than if the same message was presented simply in facts and figures. A story therefore needs to be a clear narrative arc as storytelling can be used to complement learning and knowledge based on the fact that a good story engages emotions, curiosity and imagination. For an example, when someone tells us their own personal story, we catch a glimpse of a view of the world that may be slightly or radically different from our own. When we see the world as they see it, or walk in their shoes, the experience can inspire empathy.

Storytelling can unfold in various forms, but they usually have some elements in common. Rather than a list of dry facts, stories have a narrative or sequence and they introduce people or characters. We respond to stories, particularly when there is emotional detail, and remember information given in story form much more vividly. Storytelling can therefore be regarded as a skill that can be developed and as a tool, it can be used to powerfully effect. Developed and used purposefully, storytelling can contribute to inclusion and connection as already indicated, build confidence, and bring about change and perhaps courage.


Storytelling describes the social and cultural activity of sharing stories, sometimes with improvisation, theatrics, or embellishment. Every culture has its own stories or narratives, which are shared as a means of entertainment, education, cultural preservation or instilling moral values.

Storytelling has ways of making sense depending on the motive of the story being told. The tale would begin by a phrase that alerts that a story is about to be told. I am familiar with “time,time” which means to be in time, Stories are told in different ways such as acadebra and so forth. The act of witnes makes most stories powerful. Storytelling shapes lives realistic and unrealistic effects.

We then decide what and how these stories will shape our lives and make sense out of them.

Embracing our differences

The case study that was narrated to me really drew my interest. It made me realize the importance of embracing people you work with especially if you’re new in that environment. It is imperitive to learn how things operate and the business culture within that organization. People’s view and input can also be a great contributor to an organization growth and personal growth. The Resistance barometer was intriguing also because I was better able to to see and understand people who are introvert which means that I then have an opportunity to engage them so to get them back to a position of interest and participation. This tool will definitely be of use in my personal growth and work to understand myself before understanding others so a common level of understanding is reached.

Week 5 Guiding minds

It’s true what Rosslyn said that with each and every facilitation class it all gets better and better because it was clearly evident in the facilitation by Nathi and sisBusi. More than anything what really resonated with me was all the effort and dedication that went into putting the lesson together and creating for us an atmosphere we could be immersed in as they presented their Story telling theme.

And then hen we started another topic which Was deep. Leading one to introspect. It’s amazing how we all at one point or another have been a victim of unconscious bias and have also been instigators of it. I find that we to a certain extend it is a judgmental act which can be passed without validation of the thought behind the action.

Maybe then it’s time we actually as a people learned to step back first and evaluate how and more so why we do what we do and how it may affect others who are undeserving of this.

The Power of Storytelling

Wow what an awesome presentation by Nathi and Busi. Well accompanied with complimentary hot chocolate and cappucino 🙂 Loved the use of props and setup with the fireplace scenario.

I learnt that everything is a story and it shapes our thinking and way of life. What makes it powerful is its structure, the skill of the storyteller, the content and purpose. Stories matter and they empower. It can be fact, fiction or an opinion.

Perceptions, assumptions and beliefs were further discussed. These are based on brain stimuli. This brings us to the unconscious bias, we select differently according to the situation eg. seeing someone run away from a crowd. We see or sense something, make meaning of it and this is connected or based on experience. The decision spiral covered this quite well. Most of the facts are perceptions but they are treated as facts. We settle for facts before we explore options.

We learn, unlearn and relearn. Understanding my truth is important. Suspend judgement and hold it up!

Social Media

  1. websites and applications that enable users to create and share content or to participate in social networking. Social media has become so influential that it’s used for marketing, pre job interviews, sharing of information for influential purposes/ political or just for general information feed for awareness. What we never think about is the huge responsibility it comes with for you becomes what you post. Some use this platform to fit in to the society and they struggle to cope outside their social media pages Becks they get so consumed by the characters they portray and yet inside they are empty. Whilst some have made many for themselves and got life time opportunity through this matching some lost their jobs, business and shares through social media also lives where the pressure of accountability became unbearable. Social media accountability is being aware of what and how you share information with and the responsible to take ownership.

Story telling

Something I have come to learn we experience on a daily basis, whether it’s through telling the story, listening to the story, reading or watching, we experience story telling on a daily basis. My favorite discovery is why people tell stories and how they tell stories, I mean the common way would be what I mentioned above, but there is way more to it than just that. Story telling is an ancient way of preserving culture, history, making history, predicting the future. Story telling is also a way to educate, motivate, shape our future, our destinies. I for one am very picking with what I absorb, immaterial of the source, if it doesn’t shape me or influence my greatest decisions it is not worth applying.


This past Saturday’s facilitation class was very exciting and interesting. I was very happy with understanding The Decision Iceberg how we as people do not go below the water surface/ underlying structures to really find out what is happening.

I have learned that people unconsciously judge others and this is influenced by previous experiences of perceptions. Unconscious thinking we employ to make decisions and take action as we learned in the facilitation class through a model called The Decision Spiral.

“You cannot examine your judgement but you can judge” this statement was another light bulb moment for me in class, it made me realize that we as people can never shy away from judging but it’s when a person starts to examine the judgement that makes it wrong.

I will make time to find and watch the movie called 12 Angry Man so I can fully understand the concept of perception. The decision Iceberg is a key visual diagram that I will try to use in my daily life.


Guiding change

The art and power of story telling…Abra Cadabra there once lived a Fish. This Fish had beliefs and assumptions about a certain manager at work, this resulted in the Fish having an unconscious bias towards this manager.

How did this happen?

I have learned that our sensation is registered in our brains, while our perception is the interpretation of these sensations, this is guided by our frame of reference which is influenced by experience, memories, expectations, motivations, emotions etc. This explains why the Fish always cringes when it sees the manager, too much bad experiences with him. The Fish’s sceptisism of the manager is based of the assumptions made that the manager is arrogant and foolish. These are of course true and not just an opinion. This is further supported by the Fish’s mind set/mental modes.

The Fish has unclear thinking, he thinks his beliefs are based on true information, and that his truth is the only truth and it’s obvious to everyone. He has to think clearly and be conscious about his beliefs and biases before deciding to act on anything.

Similar to the Fish, I have learned that we all have an unconscious bias towards things, people and situations etc. We make judgement and conclusions very quickly. I know that I have been both a victim and a perpetrator of unconscious bias.

In order for us to not be slaves to our unconscious biases we have to think about our thinking, we have to suspend judgement and examine what lies below the water line. Consider our beliefs, mental modes, frame of reference etc when making decisions on a daily bases.


Whether it’s a meeting (big or small) or a training session, someone has to shape and guide the process of working together so that you meet your goals and accomplish what you’ve set out to do. While a group of people might set the agenda and figure out the goals, one person needs to concentrate on how you are going to move through your agenda and meet those goals effectively. This is the person we call the “facilitator.”Facilitation focuses on how people participate in the process of learning or planning, not just on what gets achieved
A facilitator is neutral and never takes sides. A check which is a one way conversion in is also important part of fascilitation it relaxes people and creates a friendly environment during this time questions are asked later.

Story Telling

Once upon a time…….it was a cold winters day, I got to class at 08h15 and the door was locked with a DO NOT ENTER sign. I waited anxiously and curiously to see what happens. We entered the classroom at 08h30 and with eyes opened wide gasped with excitement at the tea and coffee station. We then looked at the whole room set up and it was beautiful. Scatter cushions on the floor, a fake fire place and warm smiles from our facilitators…. the end 🙂

Storytelling is the interactive art of using words and actions to reveal the elements and images of a story while encouraging the listener’s imagination.

Nathi told us a story that I heard before about the bird and the cow dung. No matter what life throws at you, you will be ok.

The one thing that stuck to me out of today’s facilitation lesson is that there is no such thing as THE TRUTH…. there is your version of the truth. I can say that I don’t trust people easily but when I do I need to be sure and if I get hurt then I can’t trust again.

Let’s refer to the definition of the word truth:

TRUTH according to

1. the true or actual state of a matter: He tried to find out the truth.

2. conformity with fact or reality; verity: the truth of a statement.

3. a verified or indisputable fact, proposition, principle, or the like: mathematical truths.

4. the state or character of being true.

5. actuality or actual existence.

6. an obvious or accepted fact; truism; platitude.

7. honesty; integrity; truthfulness.

8. (often initial capital letter) ideal or fundamental reality apart from and transcending perceived experience: the basic truths of life.

9. agreement with a standard or original.

10. accuracy, as of position or adjustment.

None of these definitions allow for a subjective interpretation. Many of them explicitly state an objective reality. This misuse of the word truth creates a problem when people do want to speak of objective truth. If all our words appeal to a subjective reality, we will lack the language of objectivity when we need to drill down to the truth. Our hands will be tied. It’s an admirable quality to state your opinion and stick by it. But when you twist the definition of truth to imply that you have an unarguable position, you’re abusing the English language.

Personal Impact

Enjoyed the facilitation piece. It highlighted some of the things that you don’t necessarily think of and yet they form part of your reality. So we use our subconscious and unconscious more often that our conscious state of mind. Our past experiences, culture, routines form a big part of our realities

I ‘m so left brained it’s not even funny! Lol, it’s good to know there’s no good or bad between the two and the most important thing is know how to deal with the right brained folk to avoid frustrations on both ends and thw best way is ro capitalise on my details and let them worry abou their big picture🤷🏽

Let people be, let them learn the best way they know how to and being a facilitator it’s good to make the facilitation be as easy for other as possible this way they are able to retain more. I have also learned that it’s best to try to incorporate different styles just do it will be beneficial to various types of people and not just a few

I have also learned to notice these learning styles for my kids so I’m able to make learning easier for them. It has been great😊

Honoring differences

Honoring the power of we. We are stronger together than we are alone.

Today’s exercise was veeery interesting. I feel like the suggestion from my team to turn, or rather, interpret our weakness as strength, and see them from a different light was brilliant!

Traditionally, when you go through these types of exercises, you are encouraged to focus on your strengths rather than your weaknesses. Your weaknesses become that area you need to work on and improve… the dark side of you. Positioning weaknesses in this way somehow fuels the negative thoughts in my mind. Like, what ever i am good at can easily be nullified by these dreaded weaknesses i possess. Focusing on my weaknesses in this way never feeds my confidence levels, and i live in fear that my weaknesses will creep up on me when i least expect them, and then what? What happens to my strengths? … I’m diverting, back to the topic.

Re framing our weaknesses as a group, made it easier for us to complete the task; by look at how these traits added value to the position of the finance team. It was fun to try and interpret these weaknesses as strengths for this position, and a great life exercise.

I have been to many interviews where they ask you what your strengths are and what your weaknesses are, and it has always felt like when i get to explaining my weaknesses, my solution to combat them are disingenuous because at that point i am trying to say the right thing and less what is actually real.

My weak traits can be my strongest assets. If i see it that way, then so shall it be.

Take my issue of always being late, if i use the time in the morning productively, then … i’m struggling to see the good in that one… Well, i guess not all weaknesses can be re framed positively, but most can. 😉

Learning from life

Life has been my best teacher. I am a very skeptical person, and at times this has worked against me, but for the most part it has worked in my favor. I am a true believer in the university of life.

Not having a formal tertiary education has never been a hindrance in my life, instead, i feel like i have learnt the most through my life experiences professionally and personally. I believe that even if one has a formal education, if i don’t have a firm grasp of people and the nuances of life, it is difficult to apply any form of formal education.

It is a strange one because with life, sometimes one has to learn the same lesson over and over again until you see the lesson behind the experiences. So essentially, to be an avid life learner, one has to have the ability to introspect. This is difficult for the most part because it involves being critical of myself and developing an ability to see my life from a birds eye view.

Though formal education is invaluable, i believe that life education is just as invaluable. It is unfortunate that the value of life education is not as valued as formal education because i believe that once a child leaves high school, they should take a gap year or two to figure themselves out so that when they get into university, they can make more informed choices.

Building relationships

As a human being i have numerous relationships in my life, be it the relationship i have with my child as his mother, to the relationships i have with my family as a daughter, niece and granddaughter, to me in my professional capacity, and now, most recently, the relationship i have with my classmates. I have always been awkward in my relationships and find it difficult to build real bonds with people. Partly because i have a low self esteem and internalize a lot of the mistakes i make in life and feel that everyone is judging me based on those mistakes. And so basically, if i am not perfect, then i am flawed and have a right to be judged… i know this sounds ridiculous, but it is what it is.

Today’s exercise in speed networking was refreshing and i found a new way to engage with people purely on what i wanted them to know about me professionally, and nothing else. It is difficult for me to sell myself, and package what i do and what i am passionate about in 5 minutes. It was challenging at first, but after the third person, i found that i was clearer about what i wanted to say, and which aspects of my career i wanted to share, and how i wanted to frame it.

What i realised was that to develop trust with a complete stranger, the number of years you have been doing something matters. Each time i mentioned that i have been in the music and entertainment industry for 15 years, i saw my classmates facial expressions change, and they were more engaged. It was less about my vision for myself, but rather, how much experience i had in what i was currently doing that made a difference, and made me more confident, and as a result, i started with this point after i said what i did.

The path to building meaningful relationships is an ongoing one, and the most impactful aspect of relationship building, after your pitch, is your follow through, how you are as a human, does that speak to your pitch? Because if it doesn’t, then success is short lived. I am working hard on this part of me as i feel i don’t have a problem expressing myself, but my self destructive behaviour get in the way of my success.

Social media

How i communicate online is always something i have been very aware of, mainly because i fear being part of a group, as i believe that group mentality robs society of the truth. When i find myself agreeing with something i have read online, i would always choose the position of devil’s advocate, and try to ask myself opposing questions.

I enjoyed today’s class and i found myself becoming emotional and falling into a trap one of my classmates set for me. We all had to write a post in reaction to a topic we were given by the facilitating group for the day. I chose to write about groupthink and the dangers of one voice and one perspective. I can’t remember exactly what i said, but i know that the person reading my post was reading it as if i was not clear, and implied that i had typos in my post, and therefore he could not understand what i was trying to say. I found myself correcting him, even though our posts were meant to be anonymous.

My ultimate fear of social media, especially platforms like twitter and Facebook is exactly that, what i say can be interpreted in so many ways that if someone latches onto something i said and turns it around negatively, i would not be able to go back and clarify what i meant, and as our social media platforms go, people latch onto the negative… next thing i am trending for the wrong reasons…worst nightmare!

I felt that the group today was excellent and they put their point across clearly, and they were a good example of how to engage an audience and guide our thoughts in the write direction without imposing any particular view. It made me nervous and excited at the same time.


My objective at WITS is to earn my law degree, and when i was told that i couldn’t sign up for a BA law, and that instead, i would have to take a year bridging course i was disheartened… Little did i know that this class would be the class i absolutely need, not only as a student, but for life.

Holding space effectively has always been a challenge for me. I have always seen myself as an empath because i internalise peoples stories and feel like i need to save the world, forgetting that i too have my own issues and work i need to put in for myself.

After this first class, hearing all my classmates life stories, i feel like my journey to self begins hear. I no longer feel that this class is a waste of precious time, instead, i feel that it is imperative. I am looking forward to the rest of my journey.

Learning Agility

Wonderful presentation by Lindi and Amisha, it had good content. We learnt that the ‘power of we” coupled with our strengths and weaknesses makes us a better team. Honouring differences amongst one another was important as no two people are the same.

We did a case study and looked at perspectives through different peoples eyes. Everyone has a truth and no one is wrong. Every perspective counts and we must respect that. Understanding the different role players and their point of view is important.

The Johari Window gave us a glimpse of the transparent, blind, hidden and unknown of oneself as well as other people. I also learnt that when we are in brain stress, the brain cannot identify responses as different.

The Scarf Model was a good way to identify how we move away or toward a situation. I identified with the Resistance Barometer as it spoke to my current situation with regards to my career growth. We should always go under the water to deal with issues. Ask questions.

The Trust Dashboard suggests we move from protect to partner. We should co-create with our clients to build trust.

What an interesting class i ever attended

On 16 March 2019, i attended a facilitation class. Wow! What an amazing class?. It was on Saturday morning where for the first time i saw and realise how student can be so talented. Playing with words to me was the game of the day. Relationship to networking, networking to speed social networking. Truely speaking j never thought that speed social networking can establish a relationship but on that day thats what i have learned.

Fast fowards,“It was not easy but it was worth it” that’s what most people like to say. I have started to agree with them due to this course.
We did personal impact; in a nutshell we did personal introspection through four model of building personal mastery. What made my day was the four fold way which has leadership, communication, collaboration and transformation. We made sort of role plays where others put themselves into the shoes of teachers, healers, visionaries and Warriors. Ya neh! This was such a wonderful class and it made me not to think of absconding class.

Learning agility

The facilitation piece of Saturday, “the power of we” was really about honoring differences. It emphasized the point that its important to consider the team dynamics, perceptions, and personalities amongst others, when working as a team. Everyone is right, I just have to start looking at a situation through their eyes/windows and embrace different perspectives.

I am now also conscious about my domains of disclosure, at work everyone knows I am very strict and by the book, what they don’t know is that I am very empathetic. I suppose my strictness and empathy is guided by my unconscious/blind spot, my understanding of the safety implications if things were to go wrong but also my personal operational experience.

This week I shared the Johari window with a friend of mine who was feeling depressed and at wits end with himself. Through it he was able to see how he receives and gives information about himself and others. He literally did the excercise of soliciting people’s perceptions about him and realized the size of his transparent, blind, hidden and unknown windows. He is so amazed by it and has found new motivation to fight on and is intent on enlarging his transparent window while discovering his unknown one. I believe he will grow tremendously once he is aware of himself and options available to him as well as the willingness to take responsibility for consequences.

Dealing with brain stresses is very interesting fo me as an ATC. When an ATC experiences a safety event they go into a freeze mode and or become prone to making more errors than they otherwise would not have made had they been working under normal conditions. They also feel very happy when they are complimented on a job well done. It is very interesting to see that a similar response is generated whether the brain experiences physical or social pain. (Reward, pleasure response and danger, threat response). The SCARF model best describes this. I know a colleague who is very big on Status, threaten that and you in for it. One of my good friends loves Certainty, remove that and she is panic mechanic. I am very Autonomous, I enjoy taking initiatives and being left to do my thing the best way I know how. The minute I am supervised I feel like I’m not trusted. My team is very close and we all relate well with each other, we feel safe to vent and talk to each other about anything and anyone. Fairness is very important in my team. We observe other teams breaking apart because of some animals that are not quite as equal as other in this work jungle.

Our implementation of the Just culture framework at work and the resistance received thereof is a clear example to me about the resistance barometer, all the indicators were there and some are still present. Now that I know about such a barometer I am going to go below the water line to try and understand what is causing the resistance instead of only focusing on the fact that there is resistance. (JEGD BGSW) My team and I are going to collaborate with the operational team by engaging them and allowing them to provide feedback and comments to the just culture policy even though the time for comments has lapsed. This will hopefully re-build trust between the teams.

Learning Agility

Wow what an interesting facilitation class we had on Saturday, We read a case study which we had to analyze critically. The case study taught me how to view things from the next person’s window. It is a challenging process to try implement what I learn from class in my practical life as sometimes I just act on instincts and only after my action, I will then remember what I had learned in class and try to rectify my action by applying my learnings.

I was more excited to learn about The SCARF Model as this model will come to use in my personal and political life. It is a model that I am slowly been applying since I learned of this past Saturday.

The final key learning was The Resistance Barometer, how to spot resistance from colleagues or managers or even people in general. It was very important to be able to learn about this barometer, the different stages of dissatisfaction in a work place.

Now this coming Saturday is Mama Busi and I who have to conduct our facilitation topic, I am nervous and excited at the same time. However I am looking forward to it… WARNING TO ALL PLEASE WEAR COMFORTABLY!!!

Honoring Difference

There’s unity in diversity. ” Differences are not intended to separate, to aleniate. We are different, precisely in order to realise our need of one another” Desmond Tutu.

I really enjoyed learning that I am a wait and see kind of person. What that means is that my trust is conditional. Life experiences conditions you not to trust easily. I need to look through peoples windows to really share my thoughts and feelings. I have learnt that my blind spot needs my attention.

I will learn from every experience and I need to honor other people’s perspectives because there’s different approaches to solving problems. I need to acknowledge differences and be open minded. What a journey this has been, the power of We. We are interdependent.

Week 4 Learning Agility

What an interesting facilitation lesson we had regarding embracing people’s differences and embracing the power that different individuals with different strengths and weaknesses we eat have and their contributions in group dynamics.

IT is said that “together we can do so much” and I agree. Honoring the positives and negatives and that the negatives can also impact positively on situations.

I found the Resistance barometer quite interesting also because I was better able to to see when people are heading to being overt which means that I then have an opportunity to engage them which will help to get them back to a position of interest and participation. This tool will definitely be useful for me in my working environment. Understanding that there’s a lot happening below the water line was such an eye opener. People are going through so much and sometimes being kind helps.

Week 3 Person Impact.

The Five Love Languages!

That is what resonated with me, the fact that it holds the same principles which was a definite AHA moment for me because I could definitely relate. The concept is that we all have different learning styles and as facilitators it is important to facilitate in different ways so to cover everyone’s learning style that are present in your class. It’s is only when you have learned to accommodate others in how they learn that you can impart knowledge or make an impact on them.

The presentation was also so great, it showed us that the way in which we grew up is a big influencer in how we live and decisions we make every single day.

What interests me currently is to attempt to be more conscious of myself and my surroundings through meditation, it’s a new craze that I love and enjoy. I find find that as a mom I am excellent for my children always give them the beat but that leaves me worn out and frustrated. I understand that I am a key part of the lessons I facilitate and need to start taking better care of myself in order to give out the absolute best.